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  • 25-01-2011 10:39pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi People,

    Few months ago last may actually me and my gf of 4 years broke up which i found so tough cause she was my best friend and soulmate and she moved off to england. At the time i struggled so much with it and to come to terms with it cause i love her so so much and didnt want it to happen.

    I got counselling to help me through it for months which really helped, and i still had the odd contact from her saying she misses me so much and wants us to be friends. Then about November/December i started to finally feel i was getting over her light at the end of the tunnel. At around this time i wrote to her saying to leave me alone as i need to try get over this and she aint helping by messaging and she said sorry and that she is always here for me and a phone call away.

    Anyways these last 2 weeks i feel myself falling back into where i was a few months ago a really dark place and missing her so much and i keep having dreams about her again which i find myself waking up crying to them. I sent her a message on facebook yesterday when i was upset saying how much i think about her and how much i miss her to which she got back today saying she misses me to and she thinks she always will cause we were so close when we were together and she hopes we can be friends.

    It was her that broke things off and was a bad break up at the time but really im here cause i dont know what to do what next step to take in my life and would love some advice.

    I have stored away any pictures and memories of her and havent looked at them in months so i have nothing to remind me of her and she aint a friend of mine on facebook either, so any help would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks


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  • #2
    gerryk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,726 ✭✭✭gerryk


    It's a tough time, and I remember vividly when I was going through the same thing. I focused my attention on trying to enjoy myself, rekindling old friendships, and making new ones.
    You need to stress to her that you need space. At the time, I wasn't getting the space I needed and I got quite forceful about needing it. It didn't go down well at the time, but I got my space, and was better able to get over it in the long run.


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