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New bisexual bf- worried about sleeping with him.

  • 25-01-2011 7:02pm
    #1
    mogrady14
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 101 ✭✭


    I met a guy a couple of months ago and like him. He tells me a lot of lies. Then later he forgets what he has told me and tells me a different story. We have mutual friends. Two of my friends told me he is bisexual. When they said it to him, he didn't deny it. I like him and see good in him. He also has a really bad temper and an ex-wife. He has a great body and is great fun to be with. He nearly died in a car accident a couple of years ago so I think that is why he can be a little wild.

    I fear I may be putting myself in danger by sleeping with him.


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  • #2
    kjl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    Going to assume that by the user name that you are only 14, relax, he is probably lying, people do that for attention when they are younger.

    I would also recommend that if you feel in danger about sleeping with someone, then you shouldn't really be in a relationship with them.


  • #3
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    mogrady14 wrote: »
    He tells me a lot of lies. Then later he forgets what he has told me and tells me a different story.
    He also has a really bad temper
    and an ex-wife.
    I fear I may be putting myself in danger by sleeping with him.

    Op just in case - these are the key points here, your words.
    Now please tell me that you are not seriously going to get involved with this accident waiting to happen...


  • #4
    whatsamsn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 911 ✭✭✭whatsamsn


    mogrady14 wrote: »
    I met a guy a couple of months ago and like him. He tells me a lot of lies. Then later he forgets what he has told me and tells me a different story.

    Tell tale signs of a complete liar, op. Its very stupid to get involved with a liar.
    mogrady14 wrote: »
    We have mutual friends. Two of my friends told me he is bisexual. When they said it to him, he didn't deny it. I like him and see good in him. He also has a really bad temper and an ex-wife. He has a great body and is great fun to be with. He nearly died in a car accident a couple of years ago so I think that is why he can be a little wild.

    I fear I may be putting myself in danger by sleeping with him.

    You are obviously referring to std's since he is bisexual. But heres the thing, if you ask him how many he has been with .. he'll most likely lie.

    This is a no win situation op. On several fronts. I'd walk. Theres a difference in taking a chance, and being blind.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    Hi,

    What is the worst that can happen here. You get aids, that is the worst. Are you willing to take a gamble with Aids, cause he is cute?
    Lots of other cute guys out there


  • #6
    encore1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 202 ✭✭encore1


    mogrady14 wrote: »
    He also has a really bad temper and an ex-wife.
    kjl wrote: »
    Going to assume that by the user name that you are only 14, relax, he is probably lying, people do that for attention when they are younger.

    indeed...


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  • #7
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    The trust issues aren't that he maybe bisexual, the isues are that he lies and you don't feel you can trust him and that he has a temper and his life is complicated with his ex wife.

    IF you don't trust him and worry what may happen the first time you two have a lovers spat then listen to you insticts and pass. There are lots of other 'cute' guys out there who are trustworthy.


  • #8
    Distorted
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    mogrady14 wrote: »
    I met a guy a couple of months ago and like him. He tells me a lot of lies. Then later he forgets what he has told me and tells me a different story. We have mutual friends. Two of my friends told me he is bisexual. When they said it to him, he didn't deny it. I like him and see good in him. He also has a really bad temper and an ex-wife. He has a great body and is great fun to be with. He nearly died in a car accident a couple of years ago so I think that is why he can be a little wild.

    I fear I may be putting myself in danger by sleeping with him.

    This sort of man (who is not sure whether he likes men or women, or anyone) can often be strangely compelling. He does sound like bad news OP, not worth risking your health for. He is in a higher risk group, if he does have full penetrative male sex with other males. But what makes him particularly high risk is the lieing. Allied with the "really bad temper", this is not a great combination. Probably best avoided.


  • #9
    JimmyCrackCorn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,691 ✭✭✭JimmyCrackCorn


    mogrady14 wrote: »
    I met a guy a couple of months ago and like him. He tells me a lot of lies. Then later he forgets what he has told me and tells me a different story. We have mutual friends. Two of my friends told me he is bisexual. When they said it to him, he didn't deny it. I like him and see good in him. He also has a really bad temper and an ex-wife. He has a great body and is great fun to be with. He nearly died in a car accident a couple of years ago so I think that is why he can be a little wild.

    I fear I may be putting myself in danger by sleeping with him.


    The bit that confuses me is how being bisexual is your issue. (if it really is)

    That is not a dig or attack. Just read over what you typed a few times.


  • #10
    gerryk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,726 ✭✭✭gerryk


    I'm also a little confused at why his sexuality is an issue. If he's untrustworthy, or is promiscuous and takes risks with sex, I agree, there is cause for concern, but STIs are as much a risk from a hetero partner, assuming they don't take the necessary precautions.


  • #11
    reprazant
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,417 ✭✭✭reprazant


    unknown friend wrote: »
    Hi,

    What is the worst that can happen here. You get aids, that is the worst. Are you willing to take a gamble with Aids, cause he is cute?
    Lots of other cute guys out there

    The Op could get Aids from them also. :confused:

    Or is the whole Aids thing due to the fact that he is bisexual?


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  • #12
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    The fact that AIDS has been mentioned is a complete red herring and the manner in which it has been mentioned just goes to show the level of ignorance of the person who mentioned it.

    You can not get/catch AIDS from another person.

    You can be come HIV positive after being exposed to the virus and have your condition then deteriorate from being HIV positive to having AIDS.

    The issue is not the possible HIV status of the man, or that he may be bisexual,
    it is that he is a liar and possible cheat, with anger management issues and a messy personal life which includes an ex wife.

    mogrady14 if you have doubts enough to post here then you have doubts enough not to risk your heart.


  • #13
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    mogrady14 wrote: »
    I met a guy a couple of months ago and like him. He tells me a lot of lies. Then later he forgets what he has told me and tells me a different story. We have mutual friends. Two of my friends told me he is bisexual. When they said it to him, he didn't deny it. I like him and see good in him. He also has a really bad temper and an ex-wife. He has a great body and is great fun to be with. He nearly died in a car accident a couple of years ago so I think that is why he can be a little wild.

    I fear I may be putting myself in danger by sleeping with him.

    The lies and bad temper are major red flags. I wouldn't get involved.


  • #14
    aidan24326
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,925 ✭✭✭aidan24326


    reprazant wrote: »
    The Op could get Aids from them also. :confused:

    Or is the whole Aids thing due to the fact that he is bisexual?


    As has been said, the issue here is nothing to do with 'catching AIDS', that's highly unlikely anyway.

    The lies and especially the really bad temper should be enough to have anyone heading for the door, so his bisexuality and STD status is irrelevant. I wouldn't bother waiting around to find out.


  • #15
    Distorted
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    gerryk wrote: »
    I'm also a little confused at why his sexuality is an issue. If he's untrustworthy, or is promiscuous and takes risks with sex, I agree, there is cause for concern, but STIs are as much a risk from a hetero partner, assuming they don't take the necessary precautions.

    I thought it was because the anus was at more risk of tearing and therefore of passing infection during sexual intercourse is higher, and this is what puts people who have anal sex (of any gender or sexual persuasion) more at risk of sexually transmitted infections? Is this wrong?


  • #16
    Nevyn
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    The vagina can get mirco tears as well and the cervix can start to beeld if bumped too roughly during sex and as you said yourself straight people have anal sex too.

    Just because a man is bi or gay that doens't mean he is has lots of unsafe sex.
    The most risk taking men I know and know of would be 'straight'.


  • #17
    cgcsb
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    unknown friend wrote: »
    Hi,

    What is the worst that can happen here. You get aids, that is the worst. Are you willing to take a gamble with Aids, cause he is cute?
    Lots of other cute guys out there

    she can get aids off any other cute guy as well, that is one of the main reasons why condoms exist.


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