I hate Facebook ...embarrassed :(

LegacyUser

Hello all, well I know this isn't really the most awful of situations..so i feel a bit silly about it, but I would just like others opinions if thats okay

well well facebook eh?

Lets begin, I like this guy I work with peter, now i really have not made this obvious ( well at least I didn't think i had) I have not told anyone I like him, so no other work colleagues could have said anything...but anyway, we added eachother on facebook about two weeks ago, and well so I was lookin at his page yadda yadda as ya do, and well I noticed just in passing that there were very few pictures of him, like one or two, normal right?


Well today in work me and another colleague were just chattin about eachothers pictures on facebook and how stupid we look in them and I was like "oh but peter has no pictures of himself maybe we should all take that route and boycott pictures of ourselves" just messin...and then my colleague said "peter has loads of pictures of himself up" so then I was like, no he doesn't, and of course i then saw my colleagues facebook and of course peter has hundreds

so ... this guy I like has gone to the effort of blocking me from seeing all his pictures ...i just feel so embarrassed.... why would someone single me out like that not to see any of them.

he must know i like him right? that or he thinks im a nut or something..... I feel like hiding under a rock ...or am i reading too much into this?

Why would you guys go to the effort of privatising pictures?

LegacyUser

I wouldn't beat myself up over this if I was you.

I can't think of any reason he's done this, it doesnt really make sense (I'm female!) but I can think of way more embarrassing situations for you to be in! Don't overanalyse it, could just have been accidental even

dudara

Holy moly - yet another Facebook thread.

Facebook has changed a lot of its privacy settings lately - it's entirely possible that this guy doesn't even realise that different people see his photos differently. Don't read too much into it - in fact, don't read anything into it.

LegacyUser

op here, no he hid all his tagged photos, his profile album and any albums with pictures of himself from me, to do that you have to name specific people ...meaning me...

i know hahaha another facebook thing, more trouble than its worth..i just feel really embarrassed, it definitely was not an accident

just embarrassed :S

i mean normally id take this as a hint, and just sorta edge away from him and ya know go to extra effort to hide any sort of crush! (not that im in anyway in his face rubbing his arm ad playing with my hair and stuff lol)

its just that most days its just two or three of us...so now i just feel awkward eeep...

Corkblowin

There's a setting that friends of friends may not be able to see pics.

So if a friend of peters had the pics and tagged him, they would appear on his profile page but you would not be able to see them unless you knew the other friend also. Your colleague may be friends with both of them. I doubt anyone would friend you & then stop you seeing things.

Don't worry about it & stop over thinking!!!!!!

messymess

emarrassed2011 wrote: »

Why would you guys go to the effort of privatising pictures?

Because if someone I didn't really know (especially from work) just friended me, I'd be hiding all of the photos of me doing things I shouldn't really be doing. Maybe there's pictures of me with girls I don't want you to see me with ... Hell on my facebook page I'm in a 'relationship' with my best mates mother! Paranoia loves facebook. OP seriously don't be worrying about this stuff.

Katgurl

Who sent the friend request initially?

LegacyUser

messymess wrote: »

Because if someone I didn't really know (especially from work) just friended me, I'd be hiding all of the photos of me doing things I shouldn't really be doing. Maybe there's pictures of me with girls I don't want you to see me with ... Hell on my facebook page I'm in a 'relationship' with my best mates mother! Paranoia loves facebook. OP seriously don't be worrying about this stuff.

Oh I know, I am just being silly..its just he has been working with us for a month so he is new and he didn't hide anything from the other person i work with (who doesn't have any mutual friends with him)

I guess whats bothering me is that although i have a bit of a crush..ya know... i still thought we got on as friends and stuff just as much as him and my colleague..so im a little over paranoid and stupidly offended ! I can't help it ! silly me's i know

LegacyUser

Maybe he created a specific group of people who can see his photos, for the purposes of preventing others (people he may have added but not want knowing all his business, exes etc) seeing them, at some time before you two became facebook friends, and he doesnt realise about the settings? Im pretty sure this kinda thing has happened to friends of mine before! Often if you can find no sensible reason as to why someone did something....they may not have done it! dont worry!

LegacyUser

Katgurl wrote: »

Who sent the friend request initially?

well he sent it, but I dunno we had been talking about facebook that day for some reason and then when i got home he had added me... maybe he didn't want to and thought it would be rude not to or something ...who knows i had not asked him to add me or anything...

Distorted

Were you added by him as a friend later than your friend? Facebook are constantly changing their control security settings, and it might be that newer friends have stricter security settings automatically applied to them than older ones, unless you specifically go into changing them.

btw OP, I'd be careful about using Facebook so much at work, some people have nothing better to do than catch people doing this and cause trouble for them!

shinikins

I think your over-analysing OP, he may have set his albums to be viewed by certain people-you can set your privacy so only named people can view them so you may not be the only person excluded. And as mentioned, tagged pictures may be only visible to friends. My settiings were changed recently and i didn't even realise it til one of my friends said she couldn't view a particular album, had she not mentioned that i would have been none the wiser. Its very possible Peter is in the same boat.

I'd also agree with messiness, i wouldn't want someone i just friended viewing all my pictures, especially a work colleague. God only knows what embarrasing pictures are there. Facebook is way over-rated IMHO, if you like the guy, let him know, ask him out for a drink and get to know him away from a work setting.

LegacyUser

I do similar quite a bit actually, it's not really a personal thing just sometimes I don't want everybody being able to see everything I put up, especially with work colleagues...don't take it too personally OP.

LegacyUser

Distorted wrote: »

Were you added by him as a friend later than your friend? Facebook are constantly changing their control security settings, and it might be that newer friends have stricter security settings automatically applied to them than older ones, unless you specifically go into changing them.

No we were added at pretty much the same time, so i think its safe to say he felt it was okay for one of us to see his pictures and as I said they have no mutual friends, ap oh well, gosh just paranoid i give off the most obvious of fancy signals!

ah well, ill just become mute for the next while!

tenchi-fan

Aw the shame!

I set up a separate group on facebook called "work people".

They don't see my photos apart from a few profile pics, and I also block them from certain updates I publish.

In my last job I was planning on leaving work so naturally posts like "My visa came through!" were also hidden from work people.

I don't think he blocked you personally. He just probably has you added to a different group than his non-work friends.

tenchi-fan

He probably hides you in chat too

It's amazing how much bother Facebook has caused! You don't poke someone back, play games with, or look at any other notifications and you're made out to be the worst person in the world!

OP, like people have mentioned, it's likely that he has all of these photos blocked so he can protect his personal life during working hours and is just likely he forgot to add this person to that list, or else the privacy settings came in after.

Facebook is no reflection on real life and people need to stop viewing it as such.

dudara

@tenchi-fan Please do make smart comments like that - you really should know better

dudara

shoes34

I have accepted friends requests and put those people on limited profile and also only have certain friends seeing photos, so op I wouldn't worry too much about it - facebook can cause so much bother if we allow it to.

He's your friend on facebook so that should be enough and really why do we always want to see other's photos.

mikemac

My sister is big into this facebook, I don't know a whole lot about it.

But as another poster said, people often manage their work colleagues differently.
You don't them knowing about job hunting or seeing certain things.

So maybe you are in a work group that he setup?
And his other non work friends are in another group

LegacyUser

maybe, just maybe he fancies you back and doesnt want you to see all the photos of him looking like a stoopid eejit on there.

Firetrap

Short of asking this guy if he deliberately hid his photos from you, you're never going to know the truth Perhaps it might be better to look at real life and see how things are between you.