Falling for a dancer

LegacyUser

hi everyone

this is going to sound silly but I need advice. On Saturday night a few friends and I visited a lap dancing club on a night out. The girls were friendly and I understand that is what they are paid to do. but one particular girl there caught my attention. i got a couple of dances from her and at the end of the night she came up to me and said she thought i was cute. she was taken aback when i thought she was messing. This is my problem, I was thinking of asking her out and am not sure if she was just doing what she is paid to do. she gave me a couple of goodnight kisses at the end too so am slightly confused.

Any advice will be greatfully received

messymess

Well, you've two choices. Do nothing and never know. Or ask her out and see how it goes.

Exclamation Marc

Looking at it cynically, she's just doing her job and whilst she may have given you extras such as telling you you're cute and kissing you goodnight, she's probably going above and beyond her duty to try and get you back again, which in turn is good for her job. As I said, I'm being cynical about it but the type of treatment she gave you is great in that line of work for getting return business because it makes men feel like they have a connection, so next time you'll be more inclined to go to her rather than anyone else, strippers have their customers and she's trying to make you hers.

Even beyond this OP, if anything ever did come of it, she's always going to be a stripper and you'll never change that so if anything did happen would you be happy that you're seeing someone who takes their clothes off and dances for men and kisses some of them?

By all means try and go and build a rapport with her, but I'm sure she gets asked out a lot by customers and it could be in her mantra to not date customers, so be prepared for the worst.

LegacyUser

She was just doing her job, thats what they are paid to do.

So if you think she fancies you then your going to keep coming back for more dances, spending lots more cash, and her commision goes up, giving her a v good wage!

If the dancers started dating the punters, therefore loosing money for the club then i think the dancers would be fired quicker than there platform heels could touch the ground!

Though i have heard that due to these recessionary times, dancers are making money on the side by meeting punters outside of the clubs and offering "Services" for cash, which is basically prostitution..

My opinion? You had a good nite with a fantasy girl dancing for you, leave it at that..

Stu

I think your a bit naive OP. This is what happened the other night. You were checking this dancer out, she notices that you only have eyes for her. She knows that giving you a compliment will have you drooling over her and that is all that matters at the end of the day. You go back again and again and she makes more money while you hang onto the idea that you and her have some kind of special connection, not like the other men, yours is different right. She wants you, she wants your attention right!! :rolleyes: She wants your money, end of.

Mammanabammana

messymess wrote: »

Well, you've two choices. Do nothing and never know. Or ask her out and see how it goes.

I think this thread could go on for 100 pages of arguments both for and against asking her out and at the end of the day, it'd still all boil down to this. Sometimes things really are just this simple.

omega666

Maybe she did like you, Maybe she was only doing her job.Who knows.

Call back, Give her your number. the worst thing she can say is no.
he who dares......