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Does he want to be more than just friends or what?

  • 21-01-2011 12:26am
    #1
    Daisyxx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 111 ✭✭


    I've known this guy for about 5 months now, we met through mutual friends and only see each other when on nights out. At the beginning I didn't think much of him however lately we have become good mates. But, he confuses me sometimes. For instance since he heard that I kissed a random guy drunkenly one night he keeps bringing it up in conversation, teasing me about it and asking me 'why'. He also started talking to me on a social network site quite a lot recently. The last time we spoke face to face we talked for quite a long time about nothing in particular, just about things that have happened to our friends over the last month.

    He dances and hugs me on nights out but hasn't tried anything and he has kissed been several other girls since we've met

    My question is...is he interested in being more than just friends? Maybe I'm assessing our friendship too much because I don't have a lot of guy friends, but I think I like him :/ I know I sound really immature but I'd like to know where I stand, but I'm way to shy to ask him.


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  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Daisyxx wrote: »
    My question is...is he interested in being more than just friends? Maybe I'm assessing our friendship too much because I don't have a lot of guy friends, but I think I like him :/ I know I sound really immature but I'd like to know where I stand, but I'm way to shy to ask him.

    Being shy will get you no where in this world.
    Tell him you are interested and ask him straight out if he feels the same.


  • #3
    gerryk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,726 ✭✭✭gerryk


    Beruthiel wrote: »
    Being shy will get you no where in this world.

    Something to live by - an ex-shy person.


  • #4
    Daisyxx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 111 ✭✭Daisyxx


    Meh...he has a new ''girlfriend'' now, and he only met her last week! Ah well, I'm not sure I care anymore to be honest!


  • #5
    Package
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,322 ✭✭✭Package


    the chances are he may be interested in you. on the other hand, some guys experience a kind of jealousy for no reason.

    he may not want you, but doesnt want anyone else to have you.

    on the other hand, if you have been out drinking and dancing on nights out and he hasnt tried it on? chances are he is not really interested.

    but if your interested iin him? then tell him how you feel. simple as that


  • #6
    Package
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,322 ✭✭✭Package


    Daisyxx wrote: »
    Ah well, I'm not sure I care anymore to be honest!

    yes ya do :cool:


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Package wrote: »
    on the other hand, if you have been out drinking and dancing on nights out and he hasnt tried it on? chances are he is not really interested.

    It's the aholes that do try it on when you're out drinking and dancing and arent really interested that do the most damage!

    Have to say I wouldn't recommend the just tell him route unless you have balls of steel, for want of a better phrase. That could be REALLY awkward afterwards if he doesn't feel the same!


  • #8
    Wompa1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,193 ✭✭✭Wompa1


    If he did like you and you got with some guy who has a reputation or something then maybe that put him off you. Or maybe he is just treating you as a friend and trying to get a rise out of you.

    To me it sounds like he saw you get with somebody and did like you but felt hurt when you got with the other guy. He was probably trying to throw you signals so you could send him some back before trying it with you. But has since decided since it doesn't seem like your interested he'd move on


  • #9
    Daisyxx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 111 ✭✭Daisyxx


    Thanks for the help everyone, I really appreciate it! He's a difficult one to read and I think it's best for the two of us if we just remain friends, especially now that he has a girlfriend! I wouldn't want to ruin the friendship we have by telling him how I feel...


  • #10
    John400
    Closed Accounts Posts: 179 ✭✭John400


    Daisyxx wrote: »
    He dances and hugs me on nights out but hasn't tried anything
    OP, just been reading the thread.

    As a guy, in my opinion is that he definitely had an initial interest in you for sure. 100%. Most guys will usually look for an opportunity to engage in physical contact if they like a particular girl (Not crude or anything).

    When you stated he 'hugs me on nights out', he was definitely giving you an indication of his interest by hugging you. For sure.


  • #11
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    John400 wrote: »
    OP, just been reading the thread.

    As a guy, in my opinion is that he definitely had an initial interest in you for sure. 100%. Most guys will usually look for an opportunity to engage in physical contact if they like a particular girl (Not crude or anything).

    When you stated he 'hugs me on nights out', he was definitely giving you an indication of his interest by hugging you. For sure.

    Do you think hand holding would indicate an interest?


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  • #12
    marglin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 81 ✭✭marglin


    Seekingopinion wrote: »
    Do you think hand holding would indicate an interest?

    does the pope defecate in wooded areas?


  • #13
    John400
    Closed Accounts Posts: 179 ✭✭John400


    Seekingopinion wrote: »
    Do you think hand holding would indicate an interest?
    Just giving a personal opinion here.

    I've a wide circle of friends and i've seen single guys who i know do this, i've done it myself. If a bloke is interested he will look for an excuse to make physical contact with the girl most definitely. Hugging being a prime example.

    As far as i'm concerned the guy the OP is talking about, 100% had an initial interest in her. She's now saying that things have changed which is fair enough, that happens, but he was interested in her previously in my humble opinion.


  • #14
    Daisyxx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 111 ✭✭Daisyxx


    John400 wrote: »
    Just giving a personal opinion here.

    I've a wide circle of friends and i've seen single guys who i know do this, i've done it myself. If a bloke is interested he will look for an excuse to make physical contact with the girl most definitely. Hugging being a prime example.

    As far as i'm concerned the guy the OP is talking about, 100% had an initial interest in her. She's now saying that things have changed which is fair enough, that happens, but he was interested in her previously in my humble opinion.

    Thanks for your opinion :)


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