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I want to lose my virginity

  • 20-01-2011 10:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey all. I'm a straight guy, nearly 17 and REALLY want to lose my virginity ASAP. I haven't got a girlfriend, and ones that I have had weren't up for it. I could really appreciate some advice on how to lose it. Cheers.


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  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Just becuase it is legal for you have sex now does not mean you have to rush out and loose your virginity. Why the rush?


  • #3
    IrishEyes19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,861 ✭✭✭IrishEyes19


    unregistered wrote: »
    Hey all. I'm a straight guy, nearly 17 and REALLY want to lose my virginity ASAP. I haven't got a girlfriend, and ones that I have had weren't up for it. I could really appreciate some advice on how to lose it. Cheers.

    I would advise, OP, perhaps finish school or whatever projects you are currently involved now and give this time. It's not a race to the finish to lose your virginity, and its serious business in my opinion when you do. You would be better off maturing a little more and reaching a stage where it's not such a huge deal to lose it, but when the right time or person comes along, it will be special. Just my opinion of course but I think it really impacts on it overall.

    Theres no rush to lose it. Truthfully no-one can tell whether you do or not, so if this is to do with following the crowd, trust me half the crowd who say they have are blowing steam. Also the fact that some of your ex-gf's not being up for it show what a big deal it is. Take time to get to know someone and trust them and feel ready, not desperate to do it.


  • #4
    Peanut2011
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,001 ✭✭✭Peanut2011


    OP, if you are in such a rush I suggest trip to Amsterdam!!

    Joking aside, WHY the rush?? What will you achieve by that? Your life will be no better of if you do it.

    If you just want to be "one of the lads" or whatever other reason is than I suggest you think about what the real reason is!


  • #5
    gerryk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,726 ✭✭✭gerryk


    Easy: have sex

    The question is... what's the hurry? I lost mine to the first one who would have me, and, if I am to be honest, I could probably have waited until I was with someone I actually gave a damn about.


  • #6
    Squiggler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 945 ✭✭✭Squiggler


    I'm with the rest of them, what's the rush.

    If you want to lose your virginity with dignity and minimum risk then I recommend waiting until you are in a relationship with someone you love and trust and who feels the same way about you. That way you are more likely to be able to relax and enjoy the experience. I've got several male friends who rushed the process and wish they hadn't.

    Just some of the risks of not thinking it through:
    Pregnancy - becoming a teen dad to the child of a virtual stranger isn't fun.
    STI - from sleeping with the local bike
    Private Humiliation - nerves etc might make it a less than impressive experience
    Public Humiliation - when she tells EVERYONE how rubbish you were


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  • #7
    Drodan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 461 ✭✭Drodan


    How bout grow the f*ck up maybe and then things might work out?

    I really hate the stupid attitude of teenage lads about loosing their V-plates as fast as possible. If it's a race, or your just desperate to have sex with anyone, desperate to just do the act, then emotionally you are no way near ready tbh.

    I lost mine late, quite later than the majority of my mates, didn't bother me. I wish I would of waited too because honestly the experience kinda sucked. We both just kind of rolled over when we were done and slept on opposite sides of the bed, only moving even slightly close as we heard the housemates starting to move in the morning incase they came into the room. With my current gf, she sleeps in my arms all night, or we spoon (really hate that word actually) and it's amazing, I love every second of it.

    While waiting might be tough now OP, in the long run you'll prefer it. Trust me.


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