Do you care what other people think of you?Do you care if they like you or not?

starlit

I'll start off. I very much care what other people think of me. I think first impressions count a lot for me. Do you care whether people like you or not?
I'm not bothered whether people like me or not. I very much know about it anyway if they do or not and I waste no time in telling them whether I like them or not and only associate myself with people I like and like being in the company with, I'm very honest and loyal like that.

I have a lot of trust issues when it comes to meeting new people. I tend to be shy and quite but when I'm out with friends I let my hair down and chat to anyone whether I have a drink on hand or not. I just feel more relaxed in a relaxing environment. Once I get to know someone well enough I trust them and become comfortable around them more. Knowing who my friends really are counts a lot for me too.

Anyone have anything to say on this? Would like some input from posters if they wish.

Peanut2011

Personally I could not care what others think of me. I know who I am and what I am and will always be myself.

However I do believe in first impressions, as I judge people on that and make my mind about them up after meeting them for the first 10-15min.

Squiggler

I don't lose sleep over what others think of me. I do think that it is natural to want people to think well of us, but to me the only esteem that matters is that of people who know me well (warts and all).

I think it is important to give people the benefit of the doubt, it is not possible to get to know someone, or make an accurate judgement about them in a few minutes during one meeting. Some people are wonderful actors and for 10 minutes can be the most wonderful person in the world, while their family and people who know them well could tell a very different story. Others are shy or awkward with strangers but wonderful people when they relax.

Nevyn

how is this a personal issue for you snuggles285?

scarymoon1

i care what others think of me. For example the other day I spilt tea at my desk in work and was mortified people will think im dumb. And i seem to ask alot of questions about my work and today I got something wrong - ( I hate getting things wrong - thats why I prob ask lots of questions so I dont ) well I thought I heard my co-workers talking about me today about me asking questions and its been playing on my mind that they might think im stupid - but f it - i shouldnt care right??? its hard not to care waht they think of me

starlit

Thaedydal wrote: »

how is this a personal issue for you snuggles285?

I over analyse things. Its not really a major personal issue but it does make me think what other people think of me if I say or do something stupid or just me in general. I can tell or get the impression from people just by their behaviour around me if they like me or not. It can bug me though wondering what other people think of me. I'm very self conscious like that and often seek approval/security.

Felt it this was the most appropriate forum as I know very well if I put it in AH or Ladies lounge it be moved to this forum anyway. Just a question I wanted to ask to see if anyone else felt the same as I do regarding the question thats all.

LegacyUser

It would be a PI for me too.
I'm very much my own person, but at work....wow, I really really care what people think of me. I know it's stupid, but it's something I just can't seem to help.It really, really affected my self-confidence in a very stressful job in the last 2 years - I thought people thought I was terrible at my job, that all they were noticing was the small number of very small mistakes (made over the course of about 3 years), that were talking about me all the time, that they felt annoyed when I stuck my head through a door to ask a question...so many things, it was verging on paranoia at one point!And of course, that meant I was petrified of everyone above me.

I've started a new job now, and resolved not to think that way, but the other day I did something and caught myself thinking "oh my god they must think I'm such an idiot"....and off I go again.

It's great to be able to say "I don't care what people think, why should I?" but everyone does to some extent. It's more about how much you allow it to impact on your life I suppose.I don't allow it to outside work, but yes, in work I really, really care.And not because I want to work my way up a career ladder or anything. I'm not sure why I think like this, but it does bother me.

Ickle Magoo

PI is a forum for posters to request advice from other posters on a specific issue they have and each thread is specific to that poster, it's not for conducting a poll on whether others feel similarly nor for requesting others with an issue step forward.

If you wish to set up a serious general discussion on caring about what other people think then I think Humanities is a more appropriate forum.

If anyone wishes to receive advice on a specific aspect of caring too much what others think then feel free to post your own thread detailing your issue.

Many thanks.