Should I ask her out

askheroutornot

Hi,

This is a serious issue that I need a bit of advice about, not sure where to post this.

Theres this girl in my college that I like. I have a feeling she might like me too...that's the thing though, I can't be sure...I need you guys to have a read of the following and tell me if you think she likes me


*She always seems to text me out of the blue, about nothing in general, just what i'm doing and stuff like that.
-- - - and she would text me and ask me stuff about college, even though i know full well that she knows the answer already (an excuse to text maybe? )
*She puts x's on the end of her texts nearly all the time, although i think maybe im looking into that too much ?

*We get on great all the time.

So, should I ask her out ? But if i do this and she says no it will be very akward cos we have a good few months left of college so not sure to be frank bruno.

Do the above points indicate that she might like me as more than a friend or what?

TheNewMee

Man up, stop over-thinking, ask her out.

Brown Eyed Girl 2011

Just ask, OP.

Start small- A trip to the cinema (or something of a shared interest) ,just the two of ye, then take it from there.

The only thing to fear is fear itself, so stop worrying about potential rejection and just ask her!

Ellie2008

Ask her for sure, maybe text her something like have you seen Z movie, got a great review, any interest in seeing it?

That way if she does say no you, it could be because of your rubbish taste in films.

But it sounds like she's very interested and you're slow to catch on....:D

askheroutornot

Ellie2008 wrote: »

Ask her for sure, maybe text her something like have you seen Z movie, got a great review, any interest in seeing it?

That way if she does say no you, it could be because of your rubbish taste in films.

But it sounds like she's very interested and you're slow to catch on....:D

Do you think so?...I have to admit, this has me feeling good

What do you think about the x's? I think I might be looking into them too much, but I don't know....she puts them on just about every tex.

Nemanja91

The x's at the end of the text may just be her, she could put them into texts to everyone but don't worry, from what you have explained it sounds like she likes you so go for it!

askheroutornot

Nemanja91 wrote: »

The x's at the end of the text may just be her, she could put them into texts to everyone but don't worry, from what you have explained it sounds like she likes you so go for it!

Actually you know what? - I'm going to go for it!
Thanks to you all for your help/replies

askheroutornot

askheroutornot wrote: »

*She puts x's on the end of her texts nearly all the time, although i think maybe im looking into that too much ?

Some girls just do this as a friendly gesture. I was once in contact with someone who was putting xxx at the end of her texts and a friend told me "3 kisses means she wants you bad." Turns out she didn't.

I know another girl now who does this in nearly every text but I don't read anything from it anymore.

Pauleta

If this was me i wouldnt do a thing because of the awkwardness of it all if she turned me down. Im quite goodlooking (maybe too goodlooking) but because of my fear of failure and awkwardness ive been single for 5 years and can count the number of times ive had sex since on one hand. Do you really wanna be like me? if you do nothing about this, what about the next girl and the one after that? Gonna do the same thing? Because not going for it gets easier, so easy that you accept it before a ball gets kicked.

kjl

Careful there OP, are you sure she doesn't just see you as a friend? I get random texts all the time from my female friends, and a lot would use x's.

She may have feeling for you, but they may be feeling of friendship. I think the whole asking her out might end up making things awkward. I know the advice on this forum is usually to go for it, but be careful is what I would say.

Do you get any other signs she likes you?

Bob the Builder

Dont ask her "on a date" first of all. Ask her to the cinema or something as a friend. This removes the possibility of rejection, which you seem to fear (and also losing a friend).

If you give her the opportunity to make the move on you without stalking her, and yet keep your distance, then she will be the one to make the move if the time is right.

gerryk

Pauleta wrote: »

If this was me i wouldnt do a thing because of the awkwardness of it all if she turned me down. Im quite goodlooking (maybe too goodlooking) but because of my fear of failure and awkwardness ive been single for 5 years and can count the number of times ive had sex since on one hand. Do you really wanna be like me? if you do nothing about this, what about the next girl and the one after that? Gonna do the same thing? Because not going for it gets easier, so easy that you accept it before a ball gets kicked.

As a counter example... some of my best female friends are ones I fancied, asked out, was turned down and once that was all out of the way, ended up great friends.

OP, ask her... awkwardness afterwards is only an issue if you make it one... if she goes for it... great, if not... laugh about it.

LegacyUser

askheroutornot wrote: »

Do you think so?...I have to admit, this has me feeling good

What do you think about the x's? I think I might be looking into them too much, but I don't know....she puts them on just about every tex.

Forget the xxxxx girls do this all the time, though it might mean something, does she text other people you know, do they get xxxxx's?

Hope you ask her out, if she says no it will not be pleasant but wouldnt you rather know either way and its not going to hurt for very long, everybody gets rejected, some of the best looking people I know get rejected all the time, I've been horribly rejected before you bounce back!

Let us know, I love the gossip!

nickobrien1985

The fact that you have to go to boards.ie and ask for advice shows you're a complete wuss

Silverfish

nickobrien1985 wrote: »

The fact that you have to go to boards.ie and ask for advice shows you're a complete wuss

I appreciate you are new here, but abusive and uhelpful posting is not permitted.

Please read the PI charter before posting.
Thank you.

SparkyTech

Ask her out OP, lifes too short and you have nothing to lose.

Just suggest going to the cinema, coffee, drink and take it from there.

Good luck!

Distorted

If she texts you often, the question is not whether she likes you, but why you haven't asked her out before now!

(the kisses are a bit irrelevant, as girls do this all the time, in texts to each other, etc). Its the fact she has texted you so many times for no good reason. She would have been expecting you to follow up with a suggestion of seeing a film or going for a drink or something. Depending on how recently her last text was, the only reason she would turn you down is if its been going on so long without any real response from you, she's fed up!

teaspach

Op - Do it man!!! What have you got to lose... ?? You should be able tell when you are with her, if she likes you are not. Body language is usually more than enough to know whether you have a green light, or not. Does she flirt with? You are never 100 % sure of course, that's why it's exciting... But, going by what you have said, it does sound like she is keen... just go for it!

Zen65

askheroutornot wrote: »

I have a feeling she might like me too...that's the thing though, I can't be sure...

Op, this is the uncertainty that makes life the wonderful experience it really is.

If you were sure, there would be no challenge, no fun, no romance. It's up to you to either try, or spend a lifetime waiting for an absolute certainty that might never arrive.

Be brave,


Z