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Grandmother's Anniversary Mass

  • 19-01-2011 11:10pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My grandmother passed away very, very suddenly last March. She was in perfect health Sunday night but passed away the following Tuesday. I was very shocked and upset when I found the news but my last memory of her was Christmas Day when the 2 of us were just joking around in the kitchen.

    I'm very emotional. In every aspect of my life! I lost my grandfather (other side of the family) 6 years ago and I would break in to tears randomly for months afterwards.

    I was closer to my granny but after the funeral I only cried 1 more time (when a class mate asked me was I ok, she didn't know, and I told her. A week after Granny's death). However, the other night in bed I cried again. It was the day, or day after, we found out the date of her anniversary mass. I suppose it brought it all back, but at the same time I just feel like I haven't moved on or something.

    I want to read a poem at the mass, though don't want something Religious as I don't believe in all that.

    I think I just wrote this to get it off my chest and I don't think there is any real reason to it.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Sometimes you might just need to let it out...don't ever be afraid to cry.

    I lost my Granny a few years ago-she was like my other Mum. Grieving is such a personal unique experience for everyone, so don't let time put a limit on when you feel you should or shouldn't miss her. Sometimes it might be something small that reminds you of her, other times it might be anniversaries/dates. Just take each day as it comes...if you miss her, don't be afraid to say it out loud.

    One saying I like about death and bereavement is that it doesn't get better, but you get better at it. As time passes, it does soften the pain somewhat, but as I said, let yourself feel whatever you want to feel when the emotions arrive.

    Remember the happy memories you have of her, and of the time you spent together.
    much hugs on your loss op, x


  • #3
    Realt11
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68 ✭✭Realt11


    i lost my gran ever so suddenly 10 months ago.she was sick on and off with various illness but never anything serious so we put it down to old age!

    she passed away suddenly with no warning and it hit me for six. i cried maybe twice and i dont know why i didnt cry anymore. i think its because im in shock like the OP. i dont get it at all. i lost a few friends in an accident a few months previous to gran passing way and i think it comes down to that because im still not over that and i think that was liingering in my mind.

    to the OP, i understand what you are going through!!


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