met this girl, now what?

LegacyUser

Basically i met this girl, a friend of a friend, out in dublin before christmas. The night we met she came up to me and said how much she liked me and how she had liked me for ages. We talked and kissed exchanged numbers and stuff. On that night she basically had mapped out our future together already, things we can do together and stuff. Which shocked me a bit to be honest had only met her like.

Got talking over the christmas and often stayed up really late texting eachother. Met over the christmas on nights out again. One night in particular i left the group of friends to meet up with someone in another pub. As soon i had left she texted me asking was i coming back and really wanted to come back which i did and we got together again. After a few days of that we met again in a club and chatted more and kissed.

I have found myself really attracted to her now and asked her out last sunday. Just to meet up during the week rather than always a pub/club. She replied usually very tired during the week, will let you know! Thought a bit strange when she always wanted to go out with me.

being honest i thought it would be a yes straight away from what she said before. But does what she replied mean yes or no or maybe? head is addled.

royal blue

similar problem to me, what is the story like??

Distorted

Maybe she wasn't impressed by you kissing her on more than one occasion without asking her out on a proper date. Maybe in the time it took you to ask her out, she's met somone else who asked her out on a proper date? Maybe she put a lot of effort into showing you that she liked you and feels rejected? Maybe she doesn't see you as serious boyfriend material and just as a bit of fun?

Sorry if this sounds old fashioned, but where I come from, unless you're something like under 20, a guy asks you out on a date before kissing you. If you get together in a club, if he's interested, he contacts you and asks you out afterwards.

LegacyUser

told her after the first night that wasnt sure what i wanted and to give me some time as had a few things going on at the time

TheresaT

That does sound a little bit odd, could be loads of explanations for it though.

Sounds like anytime you've met her before she's been in a pub / club.

Maybe she's nervous about going on a date when she's stone cold sober?

LegacyUser

decided to ask her what the story was and asked did i do something wrong. she said no and soon as something is heading in that direction she freaks out and then went on bout been in relationships before and wasnt looking for anything and didn't want to lead me on. she would love to be friends.

what i dont get is she pushed for something to happen right up to when i asked her out? i accept everything she said and will still be friends with her but find the whole thing odd. friend of mine said that she might just be playin games aswell, to see if i really like her and keep up the chase. Im not too sure about this