should I stay or should I go

LegacyUser

I´d need some advice as I dont know what to do with my life.

I´ve been living in Ireland for 6 years. It has been the best experience ever. I have a decent job with a good salary, but I miss my family a lot. Although I try to speak English properly, I have a very strong foreign accent, which makes very difficult to get integrated here. My country is not doing very well, and things are like in Ireland or even worse. My boyfriend is from my country as well, he is living with me in Ireland and he has a good job, and we are in our early 30s. he wants to go back one day but is confused like me.Getting a job there from here has been impossible so far. Dont know what to do, here I could start my own family but sometimes I feel miserably homesick. I,m afraid of not getting a job in my own country, we have a 12% unemployment rate in my city also.

Thanks a lot.

albeit

Follow your heart. If your family is important to you then you are probably important to them also. Is there someone in your country that you think might be needing you to come home?

Jane Eyre

For the moment, I'd stay where the work is. If you're a bit miserable here, think how bad it would be at home with no job. Dont worry about your accent. The longer you're here the better it will get. If you feel isolated, I'd suggest joining a local club and do drama or sport or even set one up yourself. Could you teach your native language? That could be a way to meet people. Combat the homesickness by getting your friends at home a webcam or invite them over here on hols.
We Irish are mostly friendly so try to speak more to Irish people at work. You're very welcome to the country. I hope you find a way to stay.

JuliusCaesar

doubty wrote: »

I´ve been living in Ireland for 6 years. It has been the best experience ever. I have a decent job with a good salary, but I miss my family a lot.

I think every emigrant feels this!

doubty wrote: »

Although I try to speak English properly, I have a very strong foreign accent, which makes very difficult to get integrated here.

would language classes help? Talking with more Irish people? What would reduce your accent?

doubty wrote: »

My country is not doing very well, and things are like in Ireland or even worse.

Yeah, this is also why Irish people emigrate...

doubty wrote: »

My boyfriend is from my country as well, he is living with me in Ireland and he has a good job, and we are in our early 30s. he wants to go back one day but is confused like me.Getting a job there from here has been impossible so far. Dont know what to do, here I could start my own family but sometimes I feel miserably homesick. I,m afraid of not getting a job in my own country, we have a 12% unemployment rate in my city also. .

Ok. I emigrated from Ireland to abroad, ended up staying about 8 years, came back when I had managed to secure a job here even though it was a recession at the time. Maybe you need to keep applying for jobs at home. Maybe you could use your time here to enhance your chances of work in your own country - speaking good English, for a start? What kept me away so lon was course after course, opportunity after opportunity, promotions...stuff I knew I coulndn't get here. So when I did start lookiing for jobs at home, I was in a good position - good experience, good qualifications.

Unemployment was high when I returned (early 90s) but I was in a good place because of what I'd done. I knew that Ireland was where I wanted to live even though the other place had a LOT to recommend it. I coulndn't imagine bringing up children there!

LegacyUser

Thank you albeit, Jane Eyre and Julius Caesar, your advice is helpful, and very much appreciated!!!!!