Should I stay or should I go!!

LegacyUser

Ok so basically I am with my boyfriend for over 4 years now, we got together when we were 18. And for the most part everything is great.

We moved to Canada nearly a year ago and I love it, I love travelling and I want to do more. We did a small bit of travelling before we settled into a city, and it was seriously cut down from our original plan because my bf didnt really like travelling.

Like I do feel bad for him he misses home, but so do I. Actually it is really annoying me, he thinks I dont miss home as much as he does because I dont mope about it as much as he does. I have missed some pretty big family occasions that I would have loved to have been home for, any thats off the point.

I think I am just more logical about the situation, we have really good jobs over here with the opertunity to stay on for a few years if we want. Or maybe go to Australia for a few years.. I just dont see what is at home for young people at the moment.

I figure other people might be in similar situations? Or maybe u were in that position in the 80's when loads of Irish went to england.

I just dont know what to do!! I love my boyfriend, but I think I will regret going home now. But I also know I will regret loosing my boyfriend. (I dont think a long distance relationship would work). I just dont know. I feel I have already compromised a lot for him, cutting out a lot of my travelling and he has decided he is going home with out consulting me.

I know no one can make up my mind for me but some opinions would be helpful!

spinandscribble

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Ok so basically I am with my boyfriend for over 4 years now, we got together when we were 18. And for the most part everything is great.

We moved to Canada nearly a year ago and I love it, I love travelling and I want to do more. We did a small bit of travelling before we settled into a city, and it was seriously cut down from our original plan because my bf didnt really like travelling.

Like I do feel bad for him he misses home, but so do I. Actually it is really annoying me, he thinks I dont miss home as much as he does because I dont mope about it as much as he does. I have missed some pretty big family occasions that I would have loved to have been home for, any thats off the point.

I think I am just more logical about the situation, we have really good jobs over here with the opertunity to stay on for a few years if we want. Or maybe go to Australia for a few years.. I just dont see what is at home for young people at the moment.

I figure other people might be in similar situations? Or maybe u were in that position in the 80's when loads of Irish went to england.

I just dont know what to do!! I love my boyfriend, but I think I will regret going home now. But I also know I will regret loosing my boyfriend. (I dont think a long distance relationship would work). I just dont know. I feel I have already compromised a lot for him, cutting out a lot of my travelling and he has decided he is going home with out consulting me.

I know no one can make up my mind for me but some opinions would be helpful!

you're both still quite young and it seems to me you want more freedom to do what you want. Bare in mind travelling by yourself is different than what you've experienced until now. If you think you'll regret going back home than don't.
I'm currently in a long distance relationship I think it can work but it can have set backs. I think long distance can test a relationship and its a good judge of whether yours is working or not.