Why is he doing this?

LegacyUser

hi all was seeing someone for a while..not officially going out for long at all when suddenly he lost all interest and basically did'nt have the courage to break up with me so made me do if for him. now its like he wont leave me alone..had keep things friendly/ well more like civil because we have work together every so often on projects.
now he'll text wanting to know how i am and then leave it days for reply and send me a really confusing "flirty " message.
oh he is really doing my head in, he was never like this when things ok between us.
does he just want keep me as 'just in case but im not really that interested"
note i am being barely civil in my replies, not asking questions, trying sound casual and like i dont care, but why is he doing this.
he just seems like a different person to me right now, once upon time (only matter weeks ago well month ago ) everything was so good could talk bout anything, now guy has got like split personality, never thought he would hurt me this way.

i thought at first he just wanted me to "be the last one to text" if that makes sense but no its like he wont let me move on and get over him.

what to do ??

I am a friend

Its an ego boost for him, to see if you still want him and by you replying at all, he thinks he has won. Sad but true. You should ask him to stop texting you and then stop replying to him. DOnt let him use you to boost his own ego... Move onwards and upwards... Good luck

Miss Fluff

Because he's a Grade A twat. That's why he's behaving like this.

He's keeping you (a) dangling on the subs bench so he can pick you up again when he feels like it, and (b) a convenient ego stroke whenever he wishes.

I've had numerous gob****es do this to me OP and you just have to ignore them/get your service provider to block their number.

Don't give him the time of day, you're only wasting your time.

LittleBook

I agree with the previous posters but just want to add that although you feel you need to be civil to him because you have to work together from time to time, there's no need to respond to his texts, particularly the flirty ones.

In fact, you responding might actually encourage him.

So if you want to move on, cut all contact outside of the work you have to do together.

LegacyUser

thanks guys
it hurts to hear but i know its the truth, what hurts most is i thought i was good judge character , he really surprised me , never thought he could treat anybody like this. dont want give him the energy of hate but not looking forward to meeting him again through work. feel like such fool for getting sucked in by him. genuinely thought he wasnt like this, but guess no one does:(