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When to act?

  • 17-01-2011 5:25pm
    #1
    toadpenguin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 87 ✭✭


    I'm 16 and I've liked this new girl in our year for about 3 months now. Everything was going well, we were talking a lot and even a slight hint of flirting on my part. I had been trying to muster up the balls to tell her I like her for a while, but then last Friday there was a few people from our school on a bus with some guys from another school up to Dublin, and on the way back she got talking to one of them (let's call him Guy for the sake of anonymity).

    There was four of them (her, her friend, Guy and Guy's friend) talking for a long time, at least an hour and a half, and everyone could tell Guy only had eyes for her. They exchanged numbers, took a few pictures together and he took her little flower that she wears in her hair and wore it on his head. At this point a lot of people were noticing that he was awfully focused on her, and there was a bit of slagging when we got off the bus and we stayed on, a few shouts of "Give him a kiss!" from the back and so on.

    As far as I know, not much else has happened between them since then, although I have no doubt they exchanged texts. We were talking again today and another girl asked her about Guy, as far as I can remember she said something along the lines of "I seem to be the only one who doesn't know what's going on with it right now." I don't know what meaning to take from that, does it mean she does like him and she's waiting for him to make the move? Does it mean she's hesitant? Or does it mean she isn't interested / embarrassed?

    I need some help, I really want to tell her I like her but I don't know when I should do it. Do I say it now and run the risk of her saying she wants to be with Guy instead, or do I wait until they drift apart (which I'm not sure will happen)? If I wait too long and they get together I'll hate myself but I just don't know how she would react to me right now.

    Thanks for reading.


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  • #2
    AvaKinder
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 271 ✭✭AvaKinder


    My advice is tell her ASAP.

    Worst case scenario, she's not interested and she gets with the other guy, you feel sucky, but then can move on.

    Best case scenario, she also likes you and you get together.

    Worst scenario of all I think would be you saying nothing and her getting with him, leaving you wondering for months on end what could've happened and pining.

    There's been two situations when I was around that age where a guy waited too long and I ended up with someone else cuz I didn't know they liked me (and I didn't make a move cuz I thought they weren't flirting/interested). Guy 1, nothing ever happened in the end and we're still good friends ten years on, Guy 2 told me as soon as I broke up with the other guy and we got together but I was on the rebound so it never worked out. broke up after a week was a big mess. But I always wondered how things would've been if either have them had just told me straight away they were interested.

    So I say, bite the bullet. Even if she's not interested at least you'll know and can begin to move on. Not knowing is worse than rejection sometimes.


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