Should I take her out and where?

killer kilbane · 17-01-2011 12:05am #1

Basically, the story is i have met this girl and when we have meet on a night out we end up kissing and spend a lot of he night. My problem is I plan on moving to canada at the end of the year and kinda dont want to get involved in a relationship, as it something i have always wanted to. However i kinda like this girl now and dont know what to do. As it would be a bit unfair to get involved and have to break things up to move away. Would i be better off telling her my plans and see what she wants.

Would like to take her out and not to a pub as thats where we always meet. Any ideas?

TheNewMee · 17-01-2011 12:26am

You're thinking a bit far into the future there mate. The end of the year is a long time away, don't limit yourself!

LegacyUser · 17-01-2011 8:40am

Ask her out but just be honest with her. Tell her beforehand (if you haven't already)that you are moving to Canada at the end of the year. That way the ball is in her court and might be into having a casual relationship with you or dating you until you leave.

Certainly don't lead her on and have her believe that she is in a committed relationship. only to have the rug pulled from under her at the end when you are leaving.

It's nice to be nice

seamus · 17-01-2011 9:20am

Take her out for dinner on a school night and plan to go to a quiet pub afterwards.

Being a school night, everywhere will be much quieter and less rushed and neither of you will be on for drinking too much. That way you can have a good chat without becoming so bladdered that all you can think of is wearing the face off eachother.

Just be honest with her - tell her that you like her but you plan on moving away at the end of the year, so you don't want to lead her on.

sporina · 17-01-2011 9:29am

relax - just ask her out - for a bite to eat or something... and as you are chatting I am sure the move to canada will come up.. I would not make a point of telling her in the same context of you two meeting up/going out or what ever,,

TBH I think that would scare her - after all you do not really know her..

take her out - see what happens..

killer kilbane · 17-01-2011 8:17pm

have kinda dropped the hint of me going away so, probably just ask her out and see what happens, and play it by year. Whats the best thing to do on a first date?

killer kilbane · 17-01-2011 10:47pm

Asked her to meet up during the week she said, she is usually tired during the week with work and stuff and will let me know. What do i take from that?

seamus · 18-01-2011 9:29am

killer kilbane wrote: »

Asked her to meet up during the week she said, she is usually tired during the week with work and stuff and will let me know. What do i take from that?

That she works hard and doesn't want to have to go to the effort of getting all dolled up after a hard day's work.

Don't overthink this stuff.

If a weeknight is out, then a Sunday night is just as good.

Should I take her out and where?

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