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Blurring the boundaries between friend and boyfriendish?

  • 16-01-2011 10:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I meet guys in college and stuff, everything is going swimmingly and then one night when we are both drunk we kiss. That's it. Never anything further as I am a virgin and am never that drunk.

    I am really awkward around lads when I am sober if I fancy them in anyway. This raises another issue, I fancy I'd say 70% of the lads I meet I am attracted to in some way.
    I feel like I have improved in terms of feeling more confident around guys but I think I have kind of gotten a name for myself - NOT GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL as I am so not comfortable around most lads even though I want to get to know them

    There were two guys who I nearly slept with but each time they were decent enough to stop as I was too drunk. Really embarressed. One was lovely and now I feel when we see each other it is like 'what could have been ...'

    I feel like I am never going to meet anyone

    In one way I think I am intimidating as I can be kinda blunt and a bit harsh to guys when sober and in a crowd, when alone with them I soften up and become more human if that makes sense

    Can someone gimme some advice?


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  • #2
    kerryman12
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    I am really awkward around lads when I am sober if I fancy them in anyway.

    100% normal I would say.
    This raises another issue, I fancy I'd say 70% of the lads I meet I am attracted to in some way.

    again 100% normal
    I feel like I am never going to meet anyone

    you will, everyone feels like this at some point.
    In one way I think I am intimidating as I can be kinda blunt and a bit harsh to guys when sober and in a crowd, when alone with them I soften up and become more human if that makes sense

    sounds like a lot of people I know, probably including me - though this is something I want to change. try to be yourself, and not spend you time worrying about what others think - easy to say I know. This is possible, I reckon I am 90% of the way there!
    then one night when we are both drunk we kiss.
    There were two guys who I nearly slept with but each time they were decent enough to stop as I was too drunk. Really embarressed. One was lovely and now I feel when we see each other it is like 'what could have been ...'

    Ok, this is my opinion and it is not a "normal" one as I dont drink but...
    you need to seperate these two words completly in your life- i.e. sex and drunk. do you want you first time to be a drunken haze with some guy?
    I am not saying dont drink, I am not saying dont have sex - just try to seperate the two as much as possible.

    best of luck


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