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I don't know what I want

  • 16-01-2011 4:06pm
    #1
    gayguy2009
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 70 ✭✭


    Well I've been seeing this guy the last week and I think he's a really nice guy, good looking, good personality. The only thing is though it feels weird being with him. Its like there is something missing.

    I keep comparing him to my last bf, he has so much better qualities than my ex. Another thing is my ex still keeps texting me saying how much he misses me and wants to be friends. I'm just so confused about everything.

    Sometimes I think I'm not giving the new guy a chance, but other times I just don't see myself getting serious with him. Like if the new guy suddenly stopped talking to me I wouldn't care, even though I he's everything ya'd want in a bf.

    I'm more eager to be friends with my ex than getting serious with this new guy.
    Is it a matter of wanting something I cant have?

    I'm so confused please help! :(


Comments

  • #2
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Why honestly do you want to be friends with your ex? How did ye break up? Sounds like you are sabotaging your relationship with this new guy

    Personally unless you are getting back with your ex I would cut all contact cos you don't seem to be over him and it's holding you back


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I know what you mean...Its very hard to get over an ex, especially when they keep telling you they want you...

    I know he says friends, but its extremely difficult to go from a relationship to being truly friends - at least not for a few years after you've broken up.

    What I used to do (still do) is remind myself of why we broke up.

    as for the new guy - the 'thing' missing may just be that you dont actually know him yet! you havent had time to develop a proper bond...give the poor lad a chance!


  • #4
    TheNewMee
    Closed Accounts Posts: 62 ✭✭TheNewMee


    How long is it since you broke up with your ex, and how long did that relationship last?


  • #5
    Distorted
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,064 ✭✭✭Distorted


    Give the new guy a chance. If you had spent as much time with him as you have done with your ex, you would probably prefer him anyway. Maybe your ex is a bit of a safety blanket, even though he is your ex. Expand your horizons, and maybe give it time without contact before converting your relationship with your ex into friendship.


  • #6
    gayguy2009
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 70 ✭✭gayguy2009


    It ended last summer because I was the only one giving my all in the relationship. I was with him for 4 months. He would text me now and again, but I kept giving in because I thought there was hope he would change. It was my first experience of having a relationship with someone. But then again it should't take it this long to get over someone.


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