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Noisy sex next door

  • 13-01-2011 12:47pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 339 ✭✭


    This was supposed to post last night
    I have just been woken up again by next door and i really dont know what to do. They are constantly "at it" :-o. Its usually between midnight and 1am when they start. And they are loud! Well she is. A strangled cat to say the least. So fake its pathetic but each to their own. I think 1 of the reasons she wakes me is that i think its my son whining. While i found it funny at first, the joke has now worn off. Iv gone into the spare rm but feel i shouldnt hav to give up my comfy bed every nite. Im not 1 for confrontation and think id be mortified bringing up the subject with them. However they hav only moved in before xmas but im absolutely wrecked, when they do wake me i cant settle for ages after. I think tonight they went into their spare rm but i had gone into mine because i wanted a good nights sleep. I think they did this because my partner banged on their wall when they were at it the previous night. Its got to the stage where i now dread going to bed and feel sick because im afraid partner will kick off at them. They dont make much other noise out of hours. Iv never heard previous neighbours and wouldnt be a light sleeper. Im also dreading my in laws coming to stay because of them. Sorry this is so long i just need to vent!
    Iv made all the jokes about it like if u cant bate em join em and im jealous. but its just.not. Funny.anymore. Phew! ;-)


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27 Pluck81


    The next time they wake you up, you should record their "session" and play it on loudspeaker back to them. It might embarass them into keeping quiet. Or you could tell her fella that she is faking. He might not put in so much effort in then. :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,001 ✭✭✭Peanut2011


    OP, previous post does have the comedy side on how to deal with it, however I do believe this is more serious matter.

    I guess trying to speak to the wife / girlfriend privately and see her response.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    This is anti-social behaviour no matter which way you look at it. If they are council tennants you need to contact your local authority. If they are privately renting then contact the landlord. If they own the house then I would take them to court.

    This is the same as if they were having a party/playing loud music each nite.

    You can refer to the case of Caroline and Steve Cartwright in the UK who were handed an ASBO for there loud "love-making"


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 104 ✭✭Chicago Chick


    I know this will seen a very mild course of action to take but if at the moment you really do not want to confrnt them about this could you try talking really loadly at night so that they can hear you through the wall. Maybe they might cop on if they can hear you then you can hear them too. If not you are probably going to have to address the issue with them.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 116 ✭✭dub_3


    Any time they make too much noise too late at tight,
    then what you and your partner should do is begin jumping up and down on your bed and making orgasmic noises.

    Firstly when they hear your racket they will realize you can hear theirs.
    Secondly your over the top noises should put them off their stride and they will have to stop. (If they don't stop hopefully they'll injure themselves trying to outdo you)

    If you've got anything that can make a cracking noise like a whip that would be good too. Also something to make a buzzing noise and your wife to scream louder at this point.

    If they try starting again later, then you do too, so it's impossible for them to do it without having to listen to you sound effects.

    If they should happen to complain to you about the noise, then apologize and say that you will confine your lovemaking to earlier in the day and will try to limit the noise as well.

    If you're really brazen say that it's been their lovemaking that's been getting you horny and that's why you've been at it so much lately.

    Hopefully that would freak them out sufficiently to stop them dead in their tracks.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,723 ✭✭✭Cheap Thrills!


    Its got to the stage where i now dread going to bed and feel sick because im afraid partner will kick off at them.

    Why don't you let your partner kick off at them? :confused:

    Problem solved and you don't have to be the bad guy!!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,772 ✭✭✭✭Whispered


    OP we have a friend who occasionally stays in our house, but his new g/f sounds similar! Noisy and almost as if doing a "oh look at me, I have a great sex life". It's gas.

    They were staying recently and I had the laptop and speakers all set up against their wall ready to play songs into the room to put them off their stride. We were considering the bloodhound gang and my boy lollipop. They behaved themselves, and I was somewhat dissapointed, I was looking forward to seeing their reaction. And had a laugh with my husband planning the most offputting sex songs.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,981 ✭✭✭ElleEm


    I lived with a girl that used to scream the house down while she was at it with her boyfriend, and I was too embarrassed to say it to her so one day, wrote a note and left it under her door. There was no talk of the note, and she kept it down from then on.
    Try doing the same with your neighbour if you're too embarrassed to say it. I'm sure they'd appreciate it too, instead of the confrontation mid- session.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭Kingpin187


    ElleEm's suggestion is good

    I think it could be effective and cut embarassment/awkward confrontation for all parties


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 339 ✭✭country_gurl


    Thanks for all your replies, funny and serious. To answer question Its stupid but i dont want things kicking off i want to keep a nice atmosphere between us. I do think i will have to write a note to them suggesting they keep the noise down. if they dont then il go to the landlord, not that he will do much id say. I have thought about recording a baby screaming crying and playing it in the middle of their session. Thanks again for listening and answering


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,025 ✭✭✭mad m


    Is your bed at the wall that divdes your house with there? How about putting the bed on opposite wall?

    This might be there first time to move in together and are all loveee doveee. Give it time and it will probably sort itself out...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,123 ✭✭✭GodlessM


    To all the people who have suggested retaliating in kind, note the OP said she has a son so I think waking him up at all hours with something he won't want to hear is hardly going to help matters.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 945 ✭✭✭Squiggler


    ElleEm wrote: »
    I lived with a girl that used to scream the house down while she was at it with her boyfriend...

    I lived with one of these too, whenever her boyfriend stayed over she did her best Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally impression. It was hilarious, but also pretty irritating and sleep disturbing. I tried talking to her once but to no avail. Then one night some friends of mine (male) came back to the apartment with me after a night out. I'd complained to them before about the noise my flatmate was making, they still couldn't believe it when they could hear her from the sitting room at the opposite end of the apartment. Anyway, when the lovebirds finished they were astonished to hear applause and male cheering and whistling outside their bedroom door. I was embarrassed for my flatmate, but the theatrics were dispensed with after that :D

    Edited to add:
    OP, maybe you could consider something similar next time you have a group of friends around late some evening. When they finish up all applaud loudly, call for an Encore, go the whole hog. Would at least be amusing. You might even be able to sell tickets ;) (ok, I'm joking on that last bit)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Nobody would take it personally if you asked them to keep it down. If my neighbor said anything I'd tone it down straight away, scarlet!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 716 ✭✭✭Reesy


    I'd have thought the first thing to do in these circumstances is to bang on the wall when you're woken. Do it immediately. That might work, & it's pretty un-intrusive, really.

    If that doesn't work I'd try one of the other options listed above.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 339 ✭✭country_gurl


    Just been bk after being away from wkend. Walked into my room and hey presto they are at it again. Doing something about it 2moro. Its just bugging me so much. Thanks 4 replies


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 105 ✭✭james098


    Just been bk after being away from wkend. Walked into my room and hey presto they are at it again. Doing something about it 2moro. Its just bugging me so much. Thanks 4 replies
    just get them told thats the only way round this


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 279 ✭✭pagancornflake


    OP, I had this same problem in college, I found a solution:

    As soon as they start (you hear rhythmic banging or softer moaning etc.)

    Blast this song at them through the walls: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UPI1nAqkpLQ&feature=fvst


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    OP, I had this same problem in college, I found a solution:

    As soon as they start (you hear rhythmic banging or softer moaning etc.)

    Blast this song at them through the walls: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UPI1nAqkpLQ&feature=fvst


    Now THAT! .....is a mood killer :D


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