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Confused In Love

  • 13-01-2011 11:09am
    #1
    Xylophonic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 364 ✭✭


    I met this girl a few years ago on the internet, we used to talk for hours on Live Messenger. We had lots in common. Anyway, after a while I began developing stronger feelings for her. I told her this, but at the same time she lost her gran, then we lost contact with each other.

    Last year, she got back in contact with me through facebook. I always thought about her during this time, and always hoped we could get back in contact with each other. She said she had been trying to find me for about a year (I had changed my email add. a few times). We started talking again, but not as frequently because I didn't really have access to the internet.

    Over Christmas when I was on a break from college, I thought I'd have lots of time to talk to her. I felt things were just starting to get back to the way they were, when she sent me a six page letter, explaining how she had done never stopped thinking about me, that she was in a bad place and was scared off, when I first told her how I felt. But in the letter she said that she realised she felt the same way back, but she didn't want to acknowledge it then, now she does. She goes on to say that she's 'in love' with me. I was suprised by this, as it was a like a dream come true, she was also the first person to tell me this.

    I think this is great, we hope to meet up within the next year, as we are both busy with college and the distance we live apart (she's in Mexico). We spend time talking to each other on the phone, texting, we even began writing to each other.

    My problem is with me at the moment, I can't stop thinking about her 24/7, I'm finding very hard to concentrate on anything other than her. It's mental, I've never been like this before. I don't think it's starting to affect my work, yet, but I fear for if/when it does. I'm also completely pre-occupied with trying to figure out how I'm going to mess this up, as any other girl I've had a chance with (and there have been few), I've messed it up immensely with little or no effort.

    I guess I just want advice, about whether I am doing the right thing, or if I should just let her down gently and go back to being just friends.


Comments

  • #2
    SparkyTech
    Closed Accounts Posts: 590 ✭✭✭SparkyTech


    Hi OP,

    I dont think you can make a rational decision untill you meet in person, to be honest. As much as WLM, Skype, etc can give you a good indication of what a persons like, you'll never know what someones true colours are and indeed if there is any chemistry at all untill you see her in person.

    There's a fine linew bewtween healthy lust/desiere and obesessing. You mention it may be starting to impinge on your work and thats not healthy! :). Overanalysing the other person is fruitless, because most of your thoughts/feelings/contrived scenarios arn't the real reality.

    Best of luck


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