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Ex girlfriend issue

  • 13-01-2011 12:16am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi.

    I'm a 20 year old man and I broke up with my first proper girlfriend at the start of June 2010. We'd been going out for 18 months or so and it was the best 17 months of my life. The last month or so of the relationship things just changed for the worse (I don't really know why tbh, I actually have no explanation for it) and we just decided to end it. We never really saw much of eachother over the summer, despite having the same group of friends. We did remain in fairly regular contact though (texting at least once a week).

    We're both in college in Dublin, and this year it has turned out we live a stones throw from eachother. At the start of the college year we became fairly close again and we ended up together after a few drunken nights. As I mentioned above, we have a lot of the same friends so it was always gonna happen that we'd see eachother quite a bit.

    In October some time she called an end to the getting together on drunken nights because she wanted to move on. Fair enough I thought to myself.

    In the mean time, her best friend and my best mate have started going out, and I'm now spending more and more time with my ex. Her best mate is a bit of a fruit cake, and tbh I didn't really like her for a while. We have however got closer in recent weeks. The best friend's annoyingness (is that a word?) sort of rubbed off on my ex and for a while I couldn't stand her as well, she just drove me mad everytime I saw her.

    However, the last month or so I've started to develop feelings for my ex again. Before this I never really missed her since we broke up, but we've just gotten closer and closer as time has gone on since mid November or so.

    We were all out a few nights ago and all had a few drinks, and me and the ex were having a good laugh together. Then out of the blue, the best friend whispered in my ear that I think we should get back together. She had a few drinks on her at the time, but the whole "drunken words, sober thoughts" thing came into my head.

    Here's my problem though...I would love to get back with my ex, but I'm not sure that she shares the same feelings. The best friend's words have really affected me though, because I don't know whether to think that it's just her thoughts, or whether the ex has said something to her about wanting to get back together recently. My head's absolutely spinning to be honest, and I don't know what to do.

    I hope anyone who reads this can make sense of it all, and any advice is appreciated.


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