getting over someone with constant reminders

LegacyUser

hi all, just really need to rant. was going out with my best friends brother for 6 months. i know its pretty short in scale of things but was mad about him and thought he was about me too. well long story short he has split up with me but did'nt have guts actually come out and say it.. just pushed me to getting so fed up of everything- became so strange last few weeks, going from friendly to really distant the next minute.

worst is i am friends with his best friend and his brother (who is very similar to him in looks ) (but lord no way would i now!!!) is due to start work with me tomorrow- this really was all i did'nt need hear today (its only been week since we split)

worst is he is staying in contact ringing up seeing how i am- i ignore most of his calls and just tx now and then just trying to keep things civil as i am going have to see him again.

it was admitingly a drunken fuelled break up- with me telling him i was fed up with things. he doesnt drink. and remained calm, i wish i remembered more of it ( i know that sounds terrible ) but i was just so upset same night - and going through so many emotions even no drink it would be hard recall.

i just think i will never figure guys out! genuinely thought we were mad about each other and dont understand his sudden change. i hear you all saying- another girl- and ya it probably is! but just hurts so much ..

Good thing is me and the sister are still best friends and agreed from the start we wouldnt talk about things regarding the brother and now i am glad because she is super there for me etc. but knows when i need space from her family...

just dread thought of work tomorrow having to look at look a like twin all day long

Craig9119

Hey op I'm going through a break up in a similar situation too my ex cheated on me and we broke up after a year but I'm actually quite good friends with her dad who gave me a job, long story short she's constantly leaving **** in the shop I work cus she knows I'm still in love with her and she's really trying to remind me ... It's really horrible of her to do but no one leaves things in work that often by accident ( she works there on Saturdays) but she's tried texting me too and I got real annoyed cus she knows I'm trying to get over her, you need to
Try cut all contact with him specifically and associate with his family just to show him he's not getting the better of you ( even if he is )

And hey if you wanna talk more specifically about it, inbox me cus for me it's only been a month.

LegacyUser

thanks craig for that..completely know how you feel with the constant contact it makes it much harder! but you having to actually see her too must be ten million times worse. are you sure she is trying just to rub your face in it and not wanting to rekindle things ? would someone go to those efforts , hope not


i have go to an event this weekend he is going to be at - already i can imagine how calm and collected he is going to be giving the image all is perfectly normal. when fair enough if he wanted break up with me he could have just the coward ish way he took about things that annoyed me..have a male friend lined up that is going come with me just so i dont get asked questions by his family not for flirting purposes...i would'nt give him the satisfaction of going to such efforts..he can be left wondering!


i have had the aunt in contact asking if there is anything she can do!!! woman means the best but just dont need it at the minute and suppose am bit embarrassed too because apparently i was v drunk night it all came to an end. but im not using this as an excuse- it was on cards anyway drink or no drink- he just did'nt have guts come out and say it!

to be honest i think my bf did cheat 2 weekends ago- contact was very strange that night- could be paranoia but just have feeling.

Monkey Allen

You'll meet someone else who you'll like even more than you do youre ex now. Thats probably what it'll take but it will happen.

Craig9119

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thanks craig for that..completely know how you feel with the constant contact it makes it much harder! but you having to actually see her too must be ten million times worse. are you sure she is trying just to rub your face in it and not wanting to rekindle things ? would someone go to those efforts , hope not


i have go to an event this weekend he is going to be at - already i can imagine how calm and collected he is going to be giving the image all is perfectly normal. when fair enough if he wanted break up with me he could have just the coward ish way he took about things that annoyed me..have a male friend lined up that is going come with me just so i dont get asked questions by his family not for flirting purposes...i would'nt give him the satisfaction of going to such efforts..he can be left wondering!


i have had the aunt in contact asking if there is anything she can do!!! woman means the best but just dont need it at the minute and suppose am bit embarrassed too because apparently i was v drunk night it all came to an end. but im not using this as an excuse- it was on cards anyway drink or no drink- he just did'nt have guts come out and say it!

to be honest i think my bf did cheat 2 weekends ago- contact was very strange that night- could be paranoia but just have feeling.

Hey op, ehm yeah I'm 100% sure she doesn't wanna get back together cus I asked her and she said it was too soon, I had a weak moment where I wanted her back, and she gave me a load of ****e excuses and then got angry and then upset so I told her not to text me,

And your right, you should go to that event be seen with someone else and enjoy yourself, tbh after seeing that she's got someone new I wish I could do the same to her as she really doesn't seem to understand how bitchy she's being by making it obvious to me, but I find that since she's doing all this I can tell myself that she must not have loved me if she thinks so little of me ... And it helps me quite well,

But anyways if you need to talk about it some more you can inbox me or we can exchange emails or something, cus there's gonna be times where you just wanna talk it out... And when you feel like that the beat thing to do is talk.

LegacyUser

thanks monkey allen and craig.

that sucks craig, it really is unfair she treating you like that, totally understand the weak moments had one today , basically he arrived at my work (and now obliviously brothers as well) all had go lunch together- no way was i missing out on lunch and not going just cause him. well he wanted meet up tonight - met him see what he had say after work - basically begged me to get back and that he was just going through a lot and got freaked out by how close we had become but now he suddenly wasnt and wanted it all back again ! such bull!

if this had happened few nights ago, i probably would have given in, but tonight i didnt even feel like trashing out his disappearance few weekends ago- he didnt justify himself at time -. he told me he wasnt with anyone and that he doesnt tell lies, like that line is suppose make me believe everything that comes out of his mouth! i just know how i felt that night and know something was up . on flip side i do still love him, mad about him in ways, but i wouldnt be content with being back with him- his not the person i taught he was - simple as . it totally get that it is hardest thing realising this now.

on working with brother- he couldnt be more of a gent! dont know what i worrying about - feeling we will get on great and now at all awkward thankfully as before this i wouldnt have known him as he has only moved home since before xmas.

hope craig you get this turning point too with her, its hard and as ye were going out double length time as i was can imagine things much deeper. you cant put your life on hold for her and hope you get out there and enjoy yourself for you and not for getting / making her feel it. (though that would be a sweet added bonus too of course

anyway ya tonight its a turning point, dont know what light bulb just went off in my head but guess he wasnt all i cracked him up to be
likewise craig feel free share if it helps !