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Getting over my first love

  • 11-01-2011 10:00am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey All

    Let me just tell you the whole story first....

    I met my ex a year and a Half ago and instantly fell in love and she told me that she felt the same, I was 18 at the time and she was 17 we had an AMAZING first 11 months together but thn all of a sudden she started to lose weight rapidly ( yet she had already been quite skinny) and started looking better and it made me quite insecure.

    I got quite low at this time and she noticed that and asked me what was wrong... This was around July, and I told her I feel like she's getting better looking to try replace
    Me, she assured me I was wrong but the feeling remained there. Then around august she asked me again an I told her but this time she said she loved me more then anything and she would never cheat on me.

    So then our one year anniversary came in September and we were happy, but then she blew off spending time with me... Which was really weird cus when she was back in school we only seen each other on weekends... So I left it alone then two weeks later she done it again... So I had to ask if something was going on... And when I did she FLIPPED and I apologised.

    So then two months later I let her use my laptop as she had broken mine... And when I got it back she had left auto sign in on for her hotmail and I hadn't realised it was her account when I was on the laptop so I hit inbox.... And seen like three msgs from her ex saying .... Well use your imagination... I was heartbroken....

    So the next time she comes round... I confronted her about it. We had a big tear filled conversation... Which ended in me giving her another chance... But of course the trust was gone... So

    One night she's babysitting and I'm waiting in her house for her to come home ( this is about a month after I found out the first time) so i got a little paranoid and looked at her new laptop... And signed into her msn... I know I shouldn't have but i guess I needed to know... So then my worst fears were confirmed ... She had left the save conversation on and It was all there... She had missed time with me one weekend she was babysitting sh was with him... So when she got in we had it out I got really upset and broke up with her.


    So it's been a month now... And before I was doing fine. I had made new friends ... But yesterday was the month to the date since we split and I realised I was still in love so I looked on her fb for the first time ( I hadn't blocked her for some stupid reason) and she's moved on has a new guy and everything... Which made me really upset...

    So I guess I'm looking for some advice... What do I do? How do I start getting over her?


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP! I'm really sorry you had to go through this, it sucks! And I wouldn't expect you to have even begun to get over it after only a month! Just cos she has a new boyf doesn't mean she's totally happy with how things went anyway - but you're best off hiding her facebook updates and avoiding her page (I never deletes exes- to me it seems like deleting them gives the message that you couldn't even bear to see them, which won't win their respect or make them care more), and just going out with your friends and not bottling things up - you're very young yet OP, and i know breaking up with someone you love is one of the hardest things you can do, but you can do much MUCH better than a girl who would cheat on you like this. Good luck! And chin up! :)


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