Feel directionless

Gunnerkid

Im a 22 year old guy Im in college in my third year and I have come to a point in my life where I just dont know where are what I want to do. For a awhile I knew what I wanted to do after college but now Im not shure and its starting to scare the crap out of me because it seems everyone else around me is on the right track and know where they are going in life. I find its the same with sports and hobbies one minute Im interested in one thing and the next I have lost interest and am onto something else. I sometimes think maybe I have a problem with commitment but then its like I start thinking I dont want to spend the rest of my days doing this or that. I think family and friends have started to notice this and are asking questions why I dont stick to one thing or have an idea of where I want to go in life, I feel like a freak because it reminds me of someone being in a mid-life crisis, and I know there are people on here with way worse problems then me and I do feel blessed I have a close family and good friends, so I dont know what Im really looking from through this post but has anyone else gone through this as-well??? any feedback would be great.

dory

It's very normal. Google Quarter Life Crisis to read more. Lots of people go through this when you're transitioning from carefree teen to an adult who needs a job!

The only advice I have is to experience as much as you can. It's your experiences that will help you decide what you want to do. Ignore those people who seem to know where they're going. It might be that they haven't given it much thought, and will find themselves suddenly 35 and in a job they hate.

alias141282

The college counselling service is free. It could be a help to you.

Wompa1

Hey man,

I've been working in my chosen field from college for nearly 4 years now and I'm still not sure what I want to do.

But ya know what, there's more to life than just work. Why not look at the things that interest you outside of your college work?

Complete your degree because any degree is useful to have, especially if travelling to places like Australia, America or Canada..if you go there and take up a non or low skilled job you are straight away put into a position of power based on your superior education.

I always told myself after school. Ok I got into this course, I'll do it for 2 years and get a cert (don't do those anymore)
then I decided since I lived a crappy life in those 2 years I wanted to go back to college for a third year having saved up money and live a little, which I did and still passed

So then I found myself in 4th year of a course, which I didn't really care about.

Worked at it got my degree, I had a lot of debt after college and was fed up working in retail so actively pursued a graduates position before I finished college and started my job a week after my last exam.

It could be worse. My mother told me at a young age when I complained about hating my job then (working in a feckin centra) that nearly everybody hates their job and you will most likely never really like your job so just get on with it.

Further to the losing interest in stuff...I am in the same position and just coming out of it, I chalk it up to depression. Once upon a time I loved soccer, music, video games etc. But all of a sudden nothing interested me and the thought of trying new hobbies just made me even more unmotivated..I'd use every excuse not to do them

I think as I said a little earlier what you need to do is thing about the small things you want rather than the big ones. Have you always wanted to be able to play guitar? Learn Do you like writing? Try writing short stories Would you like to go around Ireland on a road trip? Plan it

Have things you want to do, plan them out and do them. Best of luck getting out of your rut

Gunnerkid

thanks guys, ya I think Im just going to complete my degree and have a go at lots of different sports and what not, just to try and find something Im into

LegacyUser

You say the people around you "seem" to be on the right track.
I know the feeling, just get talking to people about what they do, weather they like it, what their ideal job would be, it would be a real eye opener. Things are not always what they "seem", trust me.

I am in my early 30s now, I found I got more chilled out about life compared to my early twenties, because I discovered that no matter how well you plan life does not work out EXACTLY like you want it.

A piece of advice I would give is.....do what you want, look after your health and friendships.

Maybe talk to some old people, that can help too.

Enjoy life!