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low self-esteem

  • 10-01-2011 8:35pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So recently I was on a night out in Waterford, was pretty drunk, met a girl and got her number,Organised a first date. Got on great, at the end of the night had a bit of a snog so can have gone too bad. Asked her out again and she had acceptted also.

    The thing is this girl seems perfect, great personality, extremely attractive, great body, good job, own house etc... (I know there has to be a flaw somewhere but I haven’t found it yet!)

    Me on the other hand, got an okish job, i wouldn’t consider myself great looking,
    small bit overweight, useless at saving money, no house.

    So I’m wondering what the hell do i have to offer this woman,
    Instead of having a great time doing the first dating thing and all that I’m worried
    how the hell can i keep this woman interested and am I’m setting myself up for a fall.
    I know she could have the pick of any number of guys.
    The only thing I’ve got going for me is I’m a decent person. But I’m sure that isn’t enough.

    The first g/f i had years ago was a stunner and i was hurt badly so since then I’ve always dated average looking girls i think because in my head it somehow lessended the chances of being rejected. I suppose trying to protect myself/

    I know i have a low self-esteem problem but i don’t know how to make me feel better about me? I really dont want to mess this up! Any suggestions?


Comments

  • #2
    gossipgal08
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 178 ✭✭gossipgal08


    You dont say how old you both are but it is unlikely she owns her house and prob has a huge morgage. Dont feel too bad about that.
    How you look is not really a problem as she like you. Remember that


  • #3
    IrishEyes19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,861 ✭✭✭IrishEyes19


    firstly, relationships in my opinion are not about what you can offer the other person in general. Its about working together to find a nice balance.

    also stop putting yourself down, I bet anything you're not as bad as you say you are. Its low self esteem talking and also I'm sure this girl has had her fair share of bad relationships and ended up hurt also, which would give reason to why she finds you a nice decent guy attractive, its a positive, not a negative. Countless people wish their OH would love them for their personalities or decency. You at the moment have hit the jackpot, be happy for yourself.


  • #4
    Zebra3
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,006 ✭✭✭✭Zebra3


    gossipgal08 wrote: »
    You dont say how old you both are but it is unlikely she owns her house and prob has a huge morgage.

    So true.

    Maybe the girl could be thinking "I've massive debts and huge negative equity, why would this guy want to be with me".

    OP, don't think about things too much. Just keep seeing her and enjoy yourself.


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