Living with an idiot

slum dog

I live with biggest idiot in the country. this ape gets up every morning at 7 a clock and starts studying in the other room while evreyone sleeps. she stays in the room from dawn till dusk and doesnt budge. studying involves slamming presses and dragging furniture about the room. new years day i was awoken to this bull s.hit. just because she doesnt celebrate christmas it gives her the fcuking right to intrude on peoples free time with her b.ull****. studying with me involves going to the library which is 5 minutes down the bloody street. i tried to drop her a hint that i couldnt study in my own room because i would find it hard to study in my place of rest. while she answered that she couldnt study there either because it was too small and had no desk. i think this girl is a freak. i was lying in bed the other night and could here her watching braveheart. then she went to bed and started balling crying. i couldnt help but think that william wallace was a murderer who killed women and children and how she could possibly sympathise with such beast. i try and watch tv with her but she leaves when i enter the room. when i go to bed she gets up and watches tv. she always tries to pass me off without saying hello and would be happy if i just didnt. i fcuken hate people like this. how do you cope with such people?

tenchi-fan

The only thing that sounds annoying is her dragging furniture across the floor.

Everything else seems to be you. If she doesn't want to watch Tv or say "hi" to you that's her business.

finbarrk

She doesn't sound too disruptive to me anyway.
A bit of study yourself might improve your grammer.

Fittle

You could move out.

VinnyTGM

Ok, she makes a bit of noise when she starts studying. How much noise can a person make whilst studying? Not much I would guess.

How do you know her crying was related to Braveheart.

slum dog

tenchi-fan wrote: »

The only thing that sounds annoying is her dragging furniture across the floor.

Everything else seems to be you. If she doesn't want to watch Tv or say "hi" to you that's her business.

come on, in all fairness, if you live with two people you cant pretend they dont exist. you should at least make an effort. this girl wants to block out the world. on a couple of occassions i came home and she was talking to herself in a high pitch voice and when she noticed me she became hostile and stared at me.
i think there maybe something wrong with her.
the girl cries alot to herself aswel. im pretty open minded but im beginning to resent this person because of her hostility

Agent J

There is a lot of hostility in your post & to be very honest i dont see any reason for.

Why are you really so angry with her?

Also, if you have an issue with a housemate over noise. I strongly suggest you talk to them directly about in a calm, reasonable manner. Don't drop hints or dance around the subject matter.

How they study, what they do in their room .. are really none of your business. For all you know she saw braveheart with an old boyfriend & it brings back a lot of memories. It doesnt matter in the slightest anyway.

If she doesnt want to be polite then that is her business. If both of you do not at least be civil then that is a problem.

Chucky the tree

I don't blame her for avoiding you, I'd do the same if I had to live with you. You seem very aggro and if you are like this in person it's easy to see why she avoids you.

slum dog

Agent J wrote: »

There is a lot of hostility in your post & to be very honest i dont see any reason for.

Why are you really so angry with her?

Also, if you have an issue with a housemate over noise. I strongly suggest you talk to them directly about in a calm, reasonable manner. Don't drop hints or dance around the subject matter.

How they study, what they do in their room .. are really none of your business.

it is my business when it starts to interupt my sleep. i was woken this morning at 7.20 and was awake all morning. and im tired and pissed today cause ive exams all this week and was looking to get some rest b4 they start. if she wants to ignore me then thats fine but she cant have it both ways. i came home the other day from study and was in my room at 5 in the evening. i was listening to music and she told me to turn it down. the college is open 7 days a week cause of study and she cant go there? been down right rude to me and then expect me to co operate with her wishes. im been very accommodating with this obnoxious person and im really annoyed

Agent J wrote: »

For all you know she saw braveheart with an old boyfriend & it brings back a lot of memories. It doesnt matter in the slightest anyway.

If she doesnt want to be polite then that is her business. If both of you do not at least be civil then that is a problem.

Agent J

slum dog wrote: »

it is my business when it starts to interupt my sleep. i was woken this morning at 7.20 and was awake all morning.

Have you asked her about this?

slum dog

omg cant believe she just sat down beside me in the computer room lol

slum dog

Agent J wrote: »

Have you asked her about this?

i dont have the b.alls to do it. i dont want to cause hassle

petes

7 in the morning is a perfectly acceptable time to be up in the morning!
Problem seems to be on your end mate!

Wurly

slum dog wrote: »

it is my business when it starts to interupt my sleep. i was woken this morning at 7.20 and was awake all morning. and im tired and pissed today cause ive exams all this week and was looking to get some rest b4 they start. if she wants to ignore me then thats fine but she cant have it both ways. i came home the other day from study and was in my room at 5 in the evening. i was listening to music and she told me to turn it down. the college is open 7 days a week cause of study and she cant go there? been down right rude to me and then expect me to co operate with her wishes. im been very accommodating with this obnoxious person and im really annoyed

I share a house with 4 other people. Some are shift workers so it varies when people get up/go to bed. Can I suggest you do as I do and get some good ear plugs??

It appears that you expect her to work around you but are not prepared to work around her.

The way you speak about this person is disgusting, quite frankly and smacks of passive aggressive bullying tbh. What's it to you if she has personal problems or cries in her room?? Is that reason to hate someone? Get real.

She has every right to study where she wants. She pays rent in this place and has the right to be at home 24 hours a day if she likes.

She might ignore you as she realises you hate her. Vibes like this are easily picked up.

At the end of the day, if you don't like it - leave.

alias141282

You need to be more tolerant. She doesn't sound at all that bad compared to some of the flatmates you could have. Also, if she is crying at night she could be suffering from depression. If that is the case she needs your support and kindness, not criticism.

Wompa1

You sound pretty self obsessed. I've worked with people that worked different hours and moved around a bit at different hours. Like someone else suggested get ear plugs.

Who cries after watching Braveheart? Someone who is crying because she's lonely and depressed I'd imagine.

Maybe she finds talking to you difficult, You obviously aren't very similar to each other so what common ground do you have other than living with each other, Maybe she's seen something in you that she doesn't like or relate to.

Outcasts tend to hang around with other outcasts.

Distorted

Um, 7am is a perfectly normal time to get up. So she makes some noise when she is in her room. Some people go to the library to study, others study in their rooms. She actually sounds quite hard working and disciplined. But I guess if you have someone listening to your every movement, you might pick out some slightly odd sounding noises. But to be honest, I can't see how someone can object to a person arising at 7am. Is it not you who is unreasonable, wanting someone to be quiet after the hours at which a person might reasonably be up and about?

Have you tried making normal, low key, friendly conversation with her?

LegacyUser

She sounds very depressed maybe you should cut her some slack. Try to put yourself in someone elses shoes instead of delighting in her situation. Most people get up at 7 to prepare for the working day it's a normal time to get up. You could ask her nicely to try and keep the noise down in the morning. You don't have to be best buddies but at least keep it civil.

tenchi-fan

slum dog wrote: »

come on, in all fairness, if you live with two people you cant pretend they dont exist. you should at least make an effort. this girl wants to block out the world. on a couple of occassions i came home and she was talking to herself in a high pitch voice and when she noticed me she became hostile and stared at me.
i think there maybe something wrong with her.
the girl cries alot to herself aswel. im pretty open minded but im beginning to resent this person because of her hostility

Leave her alone!

She obviously cannot afford to rent her own place so is forced to live in a small room and share with strangers. If you don't like it, maybe you should move out and move in somewhere with friends.

Nevyn

finbarrk Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
Have a nice day.
Thaedydal

Danniboo

She pays rent she's entitled to study in the house if she so wishes. Maybe she avoids you or leaves the room when she enters because of your aggresssive and derranged attitude. She can get up at whatever time she wishes. Sounds like you're a very light sleeper. Is this girl messy, does she shout and scream,throw parties? Does she pay not pay her bills on time, eat your food? No? Then what entitles you to call her obnoxious or an ape. Are you female? I'd imagine you are very young with little/No lilfe experience if you think this is a nightmare housemate. You are in for a rude awakening if you ever really encounter a nightmare housemate. The girl is doing nothing wrong here you are the one with the problem, so what you have exams i'm sure she does too. Perhaps you are jealous that she is so focused and puts in so much work. Maybe she is under a lot of pressure from parents or herself to do well hence the long hours studying and the crying? Either way none of your damn business. You need to grow up.

spinandscribble

you complain she takes up the sitting room to study.

Then you say she leaves if you come in to watch telly. (Am i missing something or did you contradict yourself?)

then you have a go at her because she cries in her room.

What exactly do you expect from her? To be all smiles even in privacy? She has the right to behave in her room as she should so wish emotionally.

Maybe she's not friendly because she is depressed. Maybe she has no family for xmas.

Maybe she doesn't study in the library because she cant study with groups around.

At the end of the day none of this is any of your business. she pays rent and doesn't eat your food or expect anything from you. Count yourself lucky.

dudara

OP - to be honest, you sound like the one with the problem. Your posts come across with overtones of bullylike behaviour and you appear to show no sympathy for someone who cries alone in her room.

Based on what I have inferred about you from your posts, I would probably leave the room too when you entered.

If you have a problem with the level of noise this person is creating, then sit down with her and have a calm chat. If you can't do that, then you really should stop complaining here.

We would also appreciate it if you could tone down your language - it really is not acceptable.

Keyzer

finbarrk wrote: »

She doesn't sound too disruptive to me anyway.
A bit of study yourself might improve your grammer.

You could do with a bit of study time yourself, your spelling of the word grammer is wrong.

Big Bag of Chips

So, somebody made a suggestion, which was sound, reasonable and to be honest, very obvious to anyone who lives with others... "have you spoken to her about it?". To which you replied...

slum dog wrote: »

i dont have the b.alls to do it. i dont want to cause hassle

Can I ask what you expected to get out of posting? Because other than "talk to her" there's not really any other advice to offer (although ear plugs could work!) and there's not very much else you can do.. other than move out!

I think this girls just annoys you, so everything she does annoys you, whether it's actually annoying or not.. but that's your "issue" not hers!

Did you think that everyone would agree with you that she sounds insufferable and you could continue your life without "the b.alls" to ever do anything that is slightly uncomfortable for you, but safe in the knowledge that at least everyone thinks you're right?

Bottle_of_Smoke

I'd say the best thing to do is say

''Hey Jane, When you get up early to study could you try to be a little quieter, it often wakes me up and I find it difficult to get back to sleep - thanks''
Send it by email if you can't say it to her face. But make it pleasant and don't be a d*ck about it!

By the way if you haven't seen braveheart it bears little resemblence to the historical William Wallace - he is made out to be a valliant hero/demigod in it and the film ends with him being tortured to death. So her crying at the end isn't very strange at all.

ztoical

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

By the way if you haven't seen braveheart it bears little resemblence to the historical William Wallace - he is made out to be a valliant hero/demigod in it and the film ends with him being tortured to death. So her crying at the end isn't very strange at all.

Or it might be totally unrelated to the movie. She might have had a bad day and was trying to forget about it watching a film or the film has a connection for her unrelated to the subject matter of the film. I can't watch Braveheart, not because of the film which is average at best but because my dad and all his FCA mates got to be extras in it and my dad passed away a few years ago so I know I will cry my eyes out if I try and watch that film.

Honestly nothing you've posted sounds like anything worth calling this girl an idoit for. You share a house, you don't have to best friends or any type of friends. As long as she's not leaving the place dirty or not paying her bills who cares how she spends her time. 7am is the time most people would be getting up to go to work, if your looking for a lie in then get some ear plugs. If your not adult enough talk to her then consider moving in somewhere on your own cus it really doesn't sound like your able to share.

dudara

Keyzer wrote: »

You could do with a bit of study time yourself, your spelling of the word grammer is wrong.

@finbarrk & @Keyzer

If you have nothing better to do than to comment on other posters' grammar, then please refrain from adding to the sum of stupid comments in the world.

dudara

slum dog

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

I'd say the best thing to do is say

''Hey Jane, When you get up early to study could you try to be a little quieter, it often wakes me up and I find it difficult to get back to sleep - thanks''
Send it by email if you can't say it to her face. But make it pleasant and don't be a d*ck about it!

By the way if you haven't seen braveheart it bears little resemblence to the historical William Wallace - he is made out to be a valliant hero/demigod in it and the film ends with him being tortured to death. So her crying at the end isn't very strange at all.

Thanks. Sounds like the best bit of advice out of 27 posts.

As for the rest of yee, get a life :cool:

Zaph

slum dog wrote: »

Thanks. Sounds like the best bit of advice out of 27 posts.

As for the rest of yee, get a life :cool:

Well considering that the vast majority of posters share a similar opinion, it's clear that you really have no interest in listening to other people's advice, so I'm not really sure why you bothered posting here in the first place. I can't see this thread being of much more use to you so I'm closing it.