Little bit of help?

Craig9119

Hey all I'm quite new to the forum, (well brand new actually so If my topic is in the wring place, which it prolly is, then I'm sorry :P)

Okay well basically I'm looking for tips on talking to women, in clubs pubs or just out in general, I'm not one of these desperately ugly looking lads who put in no effort with appearance, I work out ive been told on many occasions I'm quite handsome/good looking.... I've got a personality...

I'm just terribly terribly shy.... If any guys( or girls ) could help with some tips... ( and not the usual smart-arsery) I'd really appreciate it

OR if I'm in the totally wrong place or there's a topic on this elsewhere feel free to put me in my place :P ( again I'm a noobie)

Thanks in advance

Well, since you're new here, you should be aware that this is the wrong place to ask questions like this. If you would like proper advice, you could try asking in Personal Issues, where you might get some constructive criticism.

Fremen

Get hammered.

Craig9119

Thanks

krudler

Smartarse replies, you will go on my first whistle!

Meme spewing knobends, you will go on my second whistle!

AntiMatter

Practise is the best way to learn.

Perhaps look into NLP or CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) to overcome your shyness.

And then practise some more.

And don't forget to practise.

MagicMarker

Talk about periods, ask them what kind of pads/dipsticks they use. They'll love that you're so interested in their physiological make up and will warm to your sensitive ways.

Tar.Aldarion

It's just what is the worst that can happen? Nothing. Stopped minding years ago, will never forget the first time though her shyh, then ye. You just gotta realise it's just a person and the worst that happens is one of the few billion women say no or not kiss you or w/e. >_>

krudler

MagicMarker wrote: »

Talk about periods, ask them what kind of pads/dipsticks they use. They'll love that you're so interested in their physiological make up and will warm to your sensitive ways.

talking about if she has a light or heavy flow might get him well in there as well, chicks dig that sensitive stuff.

AntiMatter

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

It's just what is the worst that can happen? Nothing. Stopped minding years ago, will never forget the first time though her shyh, then ye. You just gotta realise it's just a person and the worst that happens is one of the few billion women say no or not kiss you or w/e. >_>

This.

I used to fear the embarrassment of rejection, to the point of debilitation, until like yourself, I learned not to care and to just laugh it off with a shrug.

A girl saying no isn't the end of the world.

krudler

AntiMatter wrote: »

This.

I used to fear the embarrassment of rejection, until like yourself I learned not to care and to just laugh it off with a shrug.

A girl saying no isn't the end of the world.

Agree, you're in the exact same position if she says no as you were before you asked her, she might even appreciate the balls (and maybe your balls) if you do ask as it takes a lot to walk up and start talking to a girl.

AntiMatter

krudler wrote: »

Agree, you're in the exact same position if she says no as you were before you asked her, she might even appreciate the balls (and maybe your balls) if you do ask as it takes a lot to walk up and start talking to a girl.

And it does get easier with each rejection.

I do understand the OP's shyness, though, as I used the suffer the same myself. My knees would be shaking, my mouth would be dry, my voice would rise an octave or two, and I was barely able to even get any words out at all.

If your shyness is that crippling, OP, there are plenty of tools to learn some confidence. Then it's just a case of try, and try again.

Ficheall

Browse the pics in the "Know your posters" type threads here and find someone you like the look of. Then subtly search her posts and discuss topics she's interested in. Then send her a pm suggesting you meet to discuss something in person.Then report back here and let us know if she puts out.

Tar.Aldarion

Ficheall wrote: »

Browse the pics in the "Know your posters" type threads here and find someone you like the look of. Then subtly search her posts and discuss topics she's interested in. Then send her a pm suggesting you meet to discuss something in person.Then report back here and let us know if she puts out.

She will.

Eric Cartman

lash yourself full of drink , pretend you have a lot of money , be a dickhead, go talk to girls and keep mentioning the money , rob cash from her purse while shes gone to the jacks then use that money to buy her drinks and a taxi home, afer your done leave/kick her out - repeat

Craig9119

AntiMatter wrote: »

And it does get easier with each rejection.

I do understand the OP's shyness, though, as I used the suffer the same myself. My knees would be shaking, my mouth would be dry, my voice would rise an octave or two, and I was barely able to even get any words out at all.

If your shyness is that crippling, OP, there are plenty of tools to learn some confidence. Then it's just a case of try, and try again.

It's not just the shyness tho I have no knowledge of what to be saying to them, I'm 19 and I've had like one serious relationship ( the rest were when I was a kid) and it lasted like 2 years

Tar.Aldarion

What do you need to know, you'd swear you never talked to a girl. Ask them about themselves, make jokes, blah blah. They are generally drunk you know :P

Craig9119

Okay well I'll give an example.... There's a few girls in the centre where I work and I am really attracted to them but like what do I say, walk up and ask " could I get your number?" or "would you like to go for a few drinks sometime? " like I'm terrified I'm coming off as a weirdo...

Tar.Aldarion

You could do that or you could chat to them about general stuff first. End of the day if they are attracted to you they will say yes.

coffee_cake

Make small talk about work first then suggest drinks

AntiMatter

Craig9119 wrote: »

It's not just the shyness tho I have no knowledge of what to be saying to them, I'm 19 and I've had like one serious relationship ( the rest were when I was a kid) and it lasted like 2 years

Like Tar says just ask them about themselves, how they're doing, what they work at etc., and if they're interested the conversation will flow from there.

Ficheall

Craig9119 wrote: »

There's a few girls in the centre where I work and I am really attracted to them

Just direct them to this thread. They'll probably feel so special that they'll throw you a surprise orgy party.

AntiMatter

Craig9119 wrote: »

Okay well I'll give an example.... There's a few girls in the centre where I work and I am really attracted to them but like what do I say, walk up and ask " could I get your number?" or "would you like to go for a few drinks sometime? " like I'm terrified I'm coming off as a weirdo...

Don't ask them out straight off.

Start off by saying hello, or how's work going, if you get a positive response, get into conversation about the centre where you're both working, and take it from there.

TPD

Ficheall wrote: »

Just direct them to this thread. They'll probably feel so special that they'll throw you a surprise orgy party.

Don't you just love it when that happens? :P

Gaudizeit

Cockiness with a sprinkle of cheekiness...without being arrogant.

You'll be knee deep in clunge.

biko

Craig9119 wrote: »

I'm just terribly terribly shy.... If any guys( or girls ) could help with some tips... ( and not the usual smart-arsery) I'd really appreciate it

As boneyarsebogman said, PI is really the best place for you at this time.
Good luck with the girl hunting.