Help. This is such a strange girl?

LegacyUser

I need some advice on a girl that I like if anyone could voice their opinions on this becuase I am so confused over the matter. A few months back I met my friends sister for the first time ever and we got on great and I spoke to her for ages about general things, We got on so well that I really liked her and I swear she liked me to (she told her brother she thinks I fancy her) and anytime I was around her she seemed to act really strange for example I was at a party a few months ago and I went to the bathroom (beside her bedroom) and she shouted don't let him in my room he will go through my knicker draw????? and last time i saw her she looked at me in a real sexy way and told me I was tall and she lied tall people I took from this that she knew I fancied her?

Me and her bro spend a crazy amount of time together and since we are both unemployed we go for cycles, drives, shopping and go out crazy hours of the night together. But she keeps telling her brother that she thinks were gay together and anytime he goes anywhere with me she taunts at him ''going to meet ur fella'' and she has made several comments to him for weeks now


Why is she doing this all of a sudden. She has only met me 3 times so surely she can't think i'm gay (i'm not BTW)


Help please people I'm absolutely lost on this..

wasper

allovertheplace wrote: »

I need some advice on a girl that I like if anyone could voice their opinions on this becuase I am so confused over the matter. A few months back I met my friends sister for the first time ever and we got on great and I spoke to her for ages about general things, We got on so well that I really liked her and I swear she liked me to (she told her brother she thinks I fancy her) and anytime I was around her she seemed to act really strange for example I was at a party a few months ago and I went to the bathroom (beside her bedroom) and she shouted don't let him in my room he will go through my knicker draw????? and last time i saw her she looked at me in a real sexy way and told me I was tall and she lied tall people I took from this that she knew I fancied her?

Me and her bro spend a crazy amount of time together and since we are both unemployed we go for cycles, drives, shopping and go out crazy hours of the night together. But she keeps telling her brother that she thinks were gay together and anytime he goes anywhere with me she taunts at him ''going to meet ur fella'' and she has made several comments to him for weeks now


Why is she doing this all of a sudden. She has only met me 3 times so surely she can't think i'm gay (i'm not BTW)


Help please people I'm absolutely lost on this..

I think she just like to shock people with flippant comments. An example is 'Don't let him in my room. I wouldn't be surprised if moves from the gay thing into a new theme.
If you fancy her & you think she fancies you, then go for it & find out.

dudara

Indeed - the "knickers" comment and the "gay" comment sound like someone who likes to cause a bit of noise and fuss.

If you think that you like her and vice versa, then ask her out (maybe just check with your friend first to make sure that it doesn't freak him out).

Wompa1

It sounds like you've fallen for Sarah Silverman!!! I don't know what to say, it's either her personality or she's winding you up

dub_3

She absolutely doesn't think your gay,
there a slim chance she's just slagging her brother (as siblings do) and you're just caught in the crossfire,

but more likely she's trying to get your attention, i.e. get some banter going.

If he makes another gay remark in your direction, then ask if she thinks she can fix you. (and yes I know it's not something you fix)

Any comments about her knicker drawer and you reply you're not interested what's in the drawer, but wouldn't mind seeing what she's got on now.

If she's implying you might take her knickers to wear cos you're gay, say you're not interested in putting on her knickers, but wouldn't mind taking them off.

Next time you use the bathroom, when you return before she gets a word in, say you're disappointed, you thought she would have sexier stuff.

Or 'that G string I robbed the other day is cutting the arse off me'

Basically engage with her in the banter, flirt with her, then ask her out.

Your mate could have kept quiet about the 'my sister thinks you fancy her'.
But he didn't, that seems positive to me.

If you've still got doubts, then say to him 'I think she fancies me should I ask her out',
that should result in useful feedback one way or the other.

Good Luck.

Wompa1

dub_3 wrote: »

She absolutely doesn't think your gay,
there a slim chance she's just slagging her brother (as siblings do) and you're just caught in the crossfire,

but more likely she's trying to get your attention, i.e. get some banter going.

If he makes another gay remark in your direction, then ask if she thinks she can fix you. (and yes I know it's not something you fix)

Any comments about her knicker drawer and you reply you're not interested what's in the drawer, but wouldn't mind seeing what she's got on now.

If she's implying you might take her knickers to wear cos you're gay, say you're not interested in putting on her knickers, but wouldn't mind taking them off.

Next time you use the bathroom, when you return before she gets a word in, say you're disappointed, you thought she would have sexier stuff.

Or 'that G string I robbed the other day is cutting the arse off me'

Basically engage with her in the banter, flirt with her, then ask her out.

Your mate could have kept quiet about the 'my sister thinks you fancy her'.
But he didn't, that seems positive to me.

If you've still got doubts, then say to him 'I think she fancies me should I ask her out',
that should result in useful feedback one way or the other.

Good Luck.

Ha Ha...my god you got swagger!

LegacyUser

'dub-3' I love the comeback there mate, I got a good laugh out of them.

Thanks everyone for the replies but I just wanted to add this (I should have added this earlier) She has never made a gay comment to me or infront of me, She always slags her brother when i'm not around he tells me what she does be saying.

About the knickers comment: I never thought that she could have meant that in a gay way but now i'm thinking maybe she did?

Jesus she is much older than me I thought she would have been more mature than this

dub_3

Excellent, so ignore the gay stuff, that's just her slagging her brother.

Maybe subconsciously it's because she's jealous of the amount of time you're spending with him.

She told you she likes taller guys like you. You need to tell her you like older women (like her)

In the context of what you've said so far, her knickers comment doesn't appear to be at all gay. Rather she's playfully accusing you of being obsessed with her (so much so that you might steal a pair of her undies, or at least rummage through the drawer to have a good look)

Maybe she's just messing with you, but you absolutely should engage with the banter and see where it gets you (should be good fun anyway).

Never go to the bathroom without telling her how difficult it was to resist the urge to go into her room, or say you made a mess but can't find it to wipe up.

If she keeps slagging you about knickers, pretend to be offended that she's accusing you of having a knicker fetish, then say actually you like bras too.
Then ask if you can borrow a matching set of hers, cos you get too embarrassed anytime you go into a lingerie dept.

It doesn't matter what you say, cos it's only a joke and she started it anyway. And from what you say robust slagging is allowed in that house.

I've got a bit of a devious mind so what I'm thinking is, can you engineer a situation where she's home alone and knows everyone else is out for the day.

You turn up on the doorstep apparently looking for the brother. Of course he's out and she knows won't be back anytime soon. Maybe she invites you in, otherwise you ask if you can use the bathroom. When upstairs shout down "which drawer do you keep the knickers in?"

Kimia

Op, how old are you, and how old is she?

Big Bag of Chips

OP, my take on it.... She fancies you!

You say she's "much older than you".. but how old? Older doesn't necessarily mean more mature. She seems to do a fair bit of talking about you to her brother. Classic sign that she's interested! If she wasn't interested you wouldn't even be on her radar.

Do you like her? Do you want to ask her out? If you do and she turns you down, or it doesn't work out is it going to make things strange between you and your mate?

Either way - she is still carrying on with playground stuff. She fancies you, so she's slagging you (have you ever done that to a girl?!)

LegacyUser

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

OP, my take on it.... She fancies you!

You say she's "much older than you".. but how old? Older doesn't necessarily mean more mature. She seems to do a fair bit of talking about you to her brother. Classic sign that she's interested! If she wasn't interested you wouldn't even be on her radar.

Do you like her? Do you want to ask her out? If you do and she turns you down, or it doesn't work out is it going to make things strange between you and your mate?

Either way - she is still carrying on with playground stuff. She fancies you, so she's slagging you (have you ever done that to a girl?!)

The age differnce is i'm 18 and she is 21. But the reason why I was so certain that she didnt fancy me was because

1. the age thing
2. she is doing well in college and has a big job making loads of money whilst I have none of that.
3. I really did think that she thought i was just her brothers little friend, Which is why i was suprised by all these 'flirty' comments and behaviour.


Also just to add anytime I have been in the house she and her brother always tend to argue and she bitches at him really badly. He said she is always like that but i'm suprised she would act like that infront of me while i was in the house, When my brothers friends are in my house I wouldnt dream of starting an arguement in front of them maybe thats just me?. The other night I LIKED her status on facebook and she went out of her way to tell her brother '' You friend liked my status'' I thought that was weird.



To answer 'big bag of chips': I really do have it bad for her and I am thinking about her now most of the time and I even like to chat to her anytime I can and look through facebook pics.

Kimia

allovertheplace wrote: »

I need some advice on a girl that I like if anyone could voice their opinions on this becuase I am so confused over the matter. A few months back I met my friends sister for the first time ever and we got on great and I spoke to her for ages about general things, We got on so well that I really liked her and I swear she liked me to (she told her brother she thinks I fancy her) and anytime I was around her she seemed to act really strange for example I was at a party a few months ago and I went to the bathroom (beside her bedroom) and she shouted don't let him in my room he will go through my knicker draw????? and last time i saw her she looked at me in a real sexy way and told me I was tall and she lied tall people I took from this that she knew I fancied her?

Me and her bro spend a crazy amount of time together and since we are both unemployed we go for cycles, drives, shopping and go out crazy hours of the night together. But she keeps telling her brother that she thinks were gay together and anytime he goes anywhere with me she taunts at him ''going to meet ur fella'' and she has made several comments to him for weeks now


Why is she doing this all of a sudden. She has only met me 3 times so surely she can't think i'm gay (i'm not BTW)


Help please people I'm absolutely lost on this..

The reason I asked what age both of them were is because tbh, it sounds just as likely she's just poking a bit of fun at her younger brother's mate who she knows is infatuated with her. She told her brother she thinks the OP fancies her, she tells him to stay away from her underwear drawer, she taunts him calling him gay - nowhere here does it sound like she fancies him too. Sorry OP.

dub_3

Seen your reply:-

To answer 'big bag of chips': I really do have it bad for her and I am thinking about her now most of the time and I even like to chat to her anytime I can and look through facebook pics.

I hadn't realized you had it so bad for her. Was thinking you were just curious about this strange girl and wondering if she might be game for something.

It's hard to know what to tell you as I can't tell if there's actually been much interaction between the pair of you, or if it's mostly from messing / slagging relayed by her brother.

She's obviously a flirty type and thinks you're cute, but that's no guarantee she's interested in a relationship, she might just like messing with you. If you were just game for some fun, I would say carry on with the banter and see where it gets you.

Do you have much real interaction with her?
Does she talk to you on facebook?
(or are you just lurking on her page)
Do you have her phone number?

If you've got it really bad, the only thing to do is to bite the bullet and ask her on a date.

Either she says:-

Yes: Yippee (just remember, try not to do anything to fcuk up your friendship with her brother)

Definite No: Well now you know, let your head move on

Polite No / Maybe: Carry on with the banter and try again another time

FayeRayRay

she sounds very immature

Big Bag of Chips

Ah, bless you OP... 18 and 21 isn't a huge age difference!

Can I be blunt.... she sounds very childish and immature. She's 21 ffs.. time to grow up and stop fighting with her brother, particularly in front of people.

She knows you fancy her, and she's "showing off" in front of you. Can I ask why you have it so bad for a girl who treats your mate like sh*t in front of you?

But you're only young once. You need to go through this sort of thing and experience people like her for yourself, so you know what to avoid in the future! Go for it, ask her out, but even if she does say yes don't ever expect to be the boss (or even her equal!) in the relationship. She's too wrapped up in herself!

Bottle_of_Smoke

Either she likes you or she's absolute poison and is having a great laugh knowing you like her.

LegacyUser

Well this is what confuses me?

I was down at my mates gaf a few weeks ago (outside chatting to him) and she turned up in a taxe after a night out. She was a bit tipsy but she started loudly wispering to her friend she didnt know I was listening '' I think he fancys me and then said i think he is gay'' I was so confused by that as it didnt make sense to me? This was the second time she told people that I fancied her but it was also the second time she told someone she thought I was gay?

Dub_3:As far as interaction goes I would see her maybe once every few weeks which is why I find it strange that she keeps talking about me with ehr brother like. I don't like to talk to anyone on facebook or even text anyone I find it very difficult to enjoy a conversation that way.I did chat to her once on facebook and we had a good chat about driving (she wanted tips for an exam). I do have her number but that's just because her brother called me on it just this morning actually.

Big bag of chips : I simply don't know why I like her so much I just do. She is the type that would stand up to anyone and doesnt care about what people think I am quite attracted to that I always have been fond of that quality it women actually. A sfar as the fight they fight all the time.

She just seems very similar to me in big and small ways likes the same music, movies, same sense of humour and we get on great anytime we have a proper conversation.

Big Bag of Chips

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Either she likes you or she's absolute poison and is having a great laugh knowing you like her.

Or, she could be both!

LegacyUser

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Either she likes you or she's absolute poison and is having a great laugh knowing you like her.

Ah I really don't know anymore I am getting a headache trying to analyze this girl lol what a head wrecker

Kimia

allovertheplace wrote: »

Ah I really don't know anymore I am getting a headache trying to analyze this girl lol what a head wrecker

Stop it. I would completely forget about her. She doesn't sound like she likes you in my opinion, she sounds like she's taking the piss. Please move on.

Zombrex

allovertheplace wrote: »

Well this is what confuses me?

I was down at my mates gaf a few weeks ago (outside chatting to him) and she turned up in a taxe after a night out. She was a bit tipsy but she started loudly wispering to her friend she didnt know I was listening '' I think he fancys me and then said i think he is gay'' I was so confused by that as it didnt make sense to me? This was the second time she told people that I fancied her but it was also the second time she told someone she thought I was gay?

You are assuming that this all has to make sense in some way with in the context of you figuring out if she likes you or not.

People say contradictory things all the time, I wouldn't read much into it either way. She isn't attempting to inform you whether or not she is interested, both times she was talking to someone else.

By the sounds of it you don't want to ask her out unless you are sure she will say yes, and are finding her behavior frustrating because it isn't providing the answer in a clear fashion.

That really isn't anything to do with her. I say just ask her out, and if she seems not interested then just take it on the chin. Or if you are really not sure ask her out in a subtle way like her and your friend down to the pub and see if things go well.