reading too much into nothing?

LegacyUser

ye have given me good advice in the past, and I need it again!
met this guy and dated for a month, all was great, then I moved back to my country and we continued in LDR for a few more months, flying to visit each other for a weekend every month.

at his last visit he expressed doubts about the distance and we realised we wouldn't be living in each other's country for at least 4yrs min, and we agreed the relationship would be better ended now before we got too hurt down teh line. I was surprised how hard I took it as I knew it had to end at some time, something I had told him from the start. well, he cut all contact, despite telling me he'd like to give it a go if our situations changed in the future. I assumed from cutting me off that he'd changed his mind.

that happened 2mths ago. I got in touch recently as I knew he'd be home, to offer to meet and return some stuff of his I had and he agreed and suggested coffee.

So we met and talked for a good 2hrs, all seemed good and it was great just to talk to him again. as we were leaving, after a hug, he told me I should get in touch the next time I'm home. I said well, considering teh cut in contact I assumed you didn't want to keep in touch. he told me that it was easier to cut contact after the split and that he'd like to keep in touch again so it's not awkward if we happen to bump into each other on the street. I told him the next move was his if he wanted to keep contact.

So now I'm a bit confused - do you think he only wants to avoid the awkward bumping into the ex moments (not likely considering we live in other countries) and hasn't really any interest in me anymore.....?

I really want to meet him again before I fly back but I'm hesitant to make the next move after telling him the ball is in his court. I know i still feel a lot for him, and if the relationship can't happen, I'd just love to spend time with him...but I don't know after what he said if that's teh case with him, whether he'd appreciate me contacting him again or not. shld I leave things as they are or pursue and stick my neck on the line? It's a really crappy reason to stay in touch, and if it's true, if that's how he feels, I'd rather not pursue things as I want to know he feels what I feel - that I miss chatting to him.

so what should I do? during the coffee he had asked me my plans for the week - small talk or was he looking into things? if he wanted to see me again, would he get in touch or be put off by my busy last few days?

peoplepie

Meet with him. You'll regret it if you don't. Nothing has to happen unless the two of you want it to. However, because of the distance nothing concrete can really happen at least for now, but talk him and discuss how you feel in a calm manner. The whole ball in who's court thing is a bit dated. Naturally you would like him to be the one to do the chasing but if you need the closure you should go and get it. Something very similar happened to me and i left "the ball in his court" and now he no longer speaks to me.

LegacyUser

but do you not think that leaving it in his court, and him then not speaking to you is a good, very sure way of finding out he wasn't that interested? if he was, he'd take the hint - especially as I told him what I was doing, I told him he had to make the next move and considering it was him that cut the contact, I need that proof I think that he wants to start contact or at least has interest.