Men trouble! Aghhhhhhhhh!

peoplepie

Hi guys. I have a conundrum. A guy i have known for 7 years, who now lives in austrailia told me how he felt about me about a month ago. I told him i felt the same. Then he got cold.

I texted him xmas day as i wanted to chat to him. He never replied.

I don't understand his behavoir. He's not contacted me in ages. What is this about?


Sinead

rainbow kirby

Moved from tLL to RI.

It could be possible that he realized the distance would be just too great to make any form of a relationship viable?

peoplepie

Sorry for posting in the wrong place.


I was thinking that too but why ignore me compleatly? I don't understand

Cheap Thrills!

He might have met someone else OP.

peoplepie

I thought that too. I would be happy for him if he had, after all i'm so far away. I don't understand why he wouldn't tell me though. We've always been close.

Cheap Thrills!

Could it be he is broke and has no money to top up his phone?

peoplepie

Thanks hun but i doubt it. He's very well paid and works a lot

Josh_Calvert

If there's one thing that guys fear more than rejection, it's mutual acceptance.In many ways it's the scarier outcome.Maybe he realised he couldn't live up to the emotional depth of someone he's thought about for ages feeling the same for him.

Of course he just have been nostalgic and homesick and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying he's maybe not actually pining his soul away about you after all.

Generally speaking guys love clarity and simple communication.Send him an email no more than 5 lines long saying how you feel, and saying you'll be ready to hear from him when he's ready to put his thoughts and feelings into shape.

peoplepie

Josh_Calvert wrote: »

If there's one thing that guys fear more than rejection, it's mutual acceptance.In many ways it's the scarier outcome.Maybe he realised he couldn't live up to the emotional depth of someone he's thought about for ages feeling the same for him.

Of course he just have been nostalgic and homesick and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying he's maybe not actually pining his soul away about you after all.

Generally speaking guys love clarity and simple communication.Send him an email no more than 5 lines long saying how you feel, and saying you'll be ready to hear from him when he's ready to put his thoughts and feelings into shape.

Thanks for your lovely post. I think you are probably right. I think i will email him.

peoplepie

Hi josh. I did what you said and it turns out he has been having some personal problems over there and was a little overwhelmed. The subject of us didn't come up, i felt it best not to press it and anyway the distance puts paid to any kind of a relationship. But i feel much better knowing whats going on even though i feel bad that he's having a hard time. Thanks for your advice