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Friendship before relationship? Good idea?

  • 05-01-2011 10:53pm
    #1
    John400
    Closed Accounts Posts: 179 ✭✭


    Hi all, i'm looking for opinions here on this subject. Do you think it is good to have a friendship with somebody before a relationship eventually develops?

    The reason i'm asking is that i do know of two couples who initially got to know each other in their workplace, they had a good friendship before a relationship eventually developed. One couple eventually got married and another couple got to know each other over an extended period of time at work (i.e they both liked each other at the start, had a good friendship, were friendly towards each other etc and again a relationship eventually developed, getting together while attending a work night out).

    Personally i think when this happens it's most definitely a positive.


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  • #2
    Chuchoter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,305 ✭✭✭Chuchoter


    I'd always think it is a good idea to be kind of friends (not best friends, but just people you hang out with) before hand.


  • #3
    John400
    Closed Accounts Posts: 179 ✭✭John400


    crayolastereo wrote: »
    I'd always think it is a good idea to be kind of friends (not best friends, but just people you hang out with) before hand.
    I'd agree.

    I'm in this kind of a situation at work, i.e. i've gotten to know a girl and i'm friendly with her at the moment. I've no idea if something other will develop but i'm optimistic. I wouldn't say no if i did get together with her eventually but i'm at the friendship level with her at the moment which is comfortable.


  • #4
    Monkey Allen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166 ✭✭Monkey Allen


    John400 wrote: »
    I'd agree.

    I'm in this kind of a situation at work, i.e. i've gotten to know a girl and i'm friendly with her at the moment. I've no idea if something other will develop but i'm optimistic. I wouldn't say no if i did get together with her eventually but i'm at the friendship level with her at the moment which is comfortable.
    Just keep in mind that if you do get together and it doesnt work out, you will most likely lose that friendship


  • #5
    johnnyvega86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 42 ✭johnnyvega86


    A woman will often refuse to see a guy again if he has become her friend, got into her good books and then springs the truth on her that he has fancied her all along. She will often feel she has been had and that everything the guy has said and done up to now was all part of an elaborate sneaky deception.


  • #6
    Monkey Allen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166 ✭✭Monkey Allen


    johnnyvega86 wrote: »
    A woman will often refuse to see a guy again if he has become her friend, got into her good books and then springs the truth on her that he has fancied her all along. She will often feel she has been had and that everything the guy has said and done was all part of an elaborate deception.
    Not if she feels the same way


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  • #7
    johnnyvega86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 42 ✭johnnyvega86


    Monkey Allen wrote: »
    Not if she feels the same way

    She might have felt the same way but if the guy drops the mask suddenly she might change how she feels.
    Lots of guys have found themselves as friends and were patiently waiting only to find another guy she only just met has swept her off her feet.


  • #8
    Monkey Allen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166 ✭✭Monkey Allen


    johnnyvega86 wrote: »
    She might have felt the same way but if the guy drops the mask suddenly she might change how she feels.
    Lots of guys have found themselves as friends and were patiently waiting only to find another guy she only just met has swept her off her feet.
    Right, so it would be wise to find out if she is seeing someone currently. But the OP should take the risk and ask her out (if he wants). Thats what lifes about.


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