Is our sex life in trouble?

LegacyUser

Posting here now but I meant to this morning but got busy in work. This has been on my mind the last while.
Details are brief and I'm not trying to be sickening when I give them but..

I mentioned recently to my boyfriend (2+ years together) that we don't have enough sex, he came back saying we do, and then I brought it up again and he said we do, again...

When going to bed the last few nights I've cuddled up to him etc etc but was told every time he's tired. So alright, he's tired, leave him be. Then one of the mornings I brought it up and he said I could have insisted and that "it's never stopped you before"... So I'm left confused. He said no. If I do anything more then it's like rape, he was tired and said no!

There've been a good few times now that he's fallen asleep and I've masturbated beside him because he simply hasn't been interested. Last night I was sure he was awake as he was odd with me this morning, but it's his fault. I told him the problem and he didn't listen, twice.

So I've taken to looking up a known website and have ordered a vibrator.. I plan on using it whenever he's not around.

Is this a sign we're in trouble? I'm not sure how to qualify this as I've not been in many relationships.
thanks

dub_3

Is there a reason he's always tired?
Try to resolve that issue first.

japasca

Usually sex is the first thing to suffer when a relationship is in trouble. What else do you fight about or are working to resolve?