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Pre-Wedding Marriage Ceremony??

  • 05-01-2011 2:45pm
    #1
    Silcocky
    Closed Accounts Posts: 81 ✭✭


    Hey Guys,

    Myself and the other half got engaged over the Summer but never made any firm plans.
    After much trying, I'm now expecting a bundle of joy - best engagement present ever! Unfortunately, we were told yesterday, it looks like I'll be made redundant next month. Not good timing, as you can imagine.

    As unromantic as it sounds, I wondered about the possibility of getting married asap, legally (for tax credits etc..) and having a proper wedding down the line when babs is born and we can afford the big day the groom has his heart set on. We may do a nice dinner to celebrate it or may not tell anyone in the meantime - we only just mentioned it in passing, so nothing decided yet.

    I read in another thread that priests won't do a subsequent wedding (I think Toots said it) - anyone shed more life on this. He is quite religious and would be devastated not to be able to do it in the church 'properly' down the line.

    Any advice if we were to go down this route? Whats the procedure for arranging a civil ceremony etc...

    Sorry for rambling.... :o
    Thanks a million.


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  • #2
    seamus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    To arrange a civil service, you will need to contact one of the HSE offices (doesn't have to be your local one). You have to give a minimum of 3 month's notice of your intention to marry, but you might not get a civil ceremony appointment that quickly.

    http://www.groireland.ie/getting_married.htm

    I'd be surprised if most priests won't do a religious ceremony in your case. The religious ceremony consists of two parts - the religious part, which has no civil significance; and the civil part, which has no religious significance.
    There's no reason why you can't do the religious part without the civil part. I think though a lot of priests/parishes have been cracking down on people who get a civil marriage and then only do the church bit to have their "day out".

    If you have a priest who knows the family and you explain your situation, I'm sure they would happily perform a religious ceremony later on down the line.

    In terms of whether it's a good idea, your main concern really is parental rights for your fiance in the unlikely event that something bad happens to you. Being married when the child is born gives him absolute custody of the child in the event that something happens to you.


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