Camping

Laauraaa

Right so im 16 and me and my friends want to go camping during the summer just a few feild in from my house. we went with our school back in like october or something and it was great. so theres like 4 girls and we invited all our friends that are lads. i dont know should i tell my mam were going campin just the four of us our that the boys are going too, or that im stayin in my friends house? Any advice ?

Faith

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ziedth

Ok,

If it was me at 16? I def wouldn't tell your mam boys were going and assuming your close to the house (a few fields over could be miles away in theory) I'd tell her that you are staying in a tent ya.

Having said that, you know your man better then anyone and how protective she is. How is she usually with you and boys? Staying away overnight?

ElleEm

Whether you tell her your going with boys or not, DO NOT lie to her regarding the location.
You're only 16, and even if she allows you to spend the night with no other adult present, she needs to know where you are in case something happens.

curlzy

Agreed that you need to tell her where you'll be and bring a phone. She'll skin you alive if she can't reach you at the house you're supposed to be at, that kind of worry will destroy a mother's trust and you'll be an awful long time regaining it. So yeah tell her you're camping with the girls and then sure if the boys turn up it's not really your fault is it?;) TBH though when I went camping at that age my mother wouldn't let me go if it was just girls, she felt it was safer to have a few lads there too. She was right too, I never did anything silly with guys and they did come in useful when randomers turned up.

Laauraaa

Thank You Peoplee
It definetly is like 2 feilds in from across my house.
i will have my phone too:L goes with me everywhere:P
yeaah shes all like no i dont want you to have a boyfriend:L but my dad just tells her be quiet and get over it because im growing up or whatever:L
Soo yeah thaanking yee:p

Fittle

Do what others have said OP, tell your mam where you are and keep your phone switched on. Whether you decide to tell her about the lads being there, is your own decision. No doubt, she's worried if there's lads there, you will be having sex...which would also be my concern if I was the mother of a 16yr old girl if I'm honest.

anyway, just make sure she knows WHERE you are, should anything go wrong and she needs to get to you.

Laauraaa

We might have a few drinks, but im not having sex :L:L
i said it to her about going camping and she said no but its my mam shell come around on that idea because its a few months away im just not goin to tell her about the boys:P

doughef

Hi there,

Im a guy, lets say a little older than you (ok I'm 30 )

I remember when I was 16 there was a gang of us that used to hang out together, all guys and girls from around the same area.

The reason I'm replying to you is that we used to go camping very near where I used to live, (i lived a little further outside town than the others but when I think back it was laughably near my house ) I remember the excitement leading up to it. Us fellas rarely had any trouble getting away for the night but the girls all spun some sort of lie cause they would not have been allowed come otherwise

Long story short... we went a few times.. loads and loads of drinking, loads of people being together.. (but as far as i remember no actual sex) and were all sorta friends still.. I'm actually still best friends with one of the girls (who i kissed camping but who subsequently got married to someone else

Long story short.. im not condoning underage drinking or sex or whatever.. but it was so much fun... and we actually still talk about it to this day,
- go for it cause you'll find as you leave school and get older you might not see as much of these people as you do now.. but be careful, and dont do anything you dont want to..

Happy camping

Laauraaa

Sorry to hear about that girl
but we wont even drink that much id say all my friends are interested in sport soo (:
And thanks everyone for your stories i actually cant wait now :L

weatherguy

Why deceive your parents?
If you spin them a yarn that it's only girls, then one or both of your parents or parents of another girl may decide to drop in on you all. They will be worried about you all. So if they saw lads there they may not approve and drag you back home, kicking and screaming.

I would be honest with them. Tell them lads are going too. They must know who the lads are. But that the girls and guys are sleeping in separate tents.

If you lie it will take a long, long time before your parents will trust you.

As for boozing. You are under age. So, it is breaking the law. You have years ahead of you to enjoy a few drinks.