Hot girl, bad in bed, not so hot girl good in bed.

LegacyUser

Bit of a problem, and not one I want to put up with my user name as the parties use the site. I also don’t mean to sound like a cnut/prick.

I am single for the last 6months, I have however in the last 7 weeks met two women with whom I have had relations. Both are lovely girls and are great craic. They are both trying to become more serious, so I have to chose one. I couldn’t deal with stringing the two of them along.

One is smoking hot(way out of my league) but she is rigid in bed. We have been together a good bit in last couple of weeks and I think this is as good as it gets.

The other has a beautiful face but her body is not great. However she is a deviant in bed, and i have never had anything like it in my life.

Both girls are great fun and i want to go out with one and not string the other along.
Any advice would be great.

IrishEyes19

This is a tricky one as I dont particularly like the idea of seeing two people at once anyway, but lets say if you prefered the girl you consider better looking, cant sex be improved on, I dont believe its something that is amazing straight away, people have different methods or one person is more experienced, its all all about communnication and finding out what works better for each other.

At the end of the day, sex will only be one factor in a relationship, obviously its a huge one, it defines the difference between friend and girl/boy friend, however personality will also play in this. a relationship that is only based on sex will fizzle out if theres no personality its routine, I often think sex can be worked on, but no connection, personality or spark is a dead relationship from the beginning. I would suggest giving it a shot with the girl you connect the most with, but at the end of the day, one girl is going to be hurt because of this.

killerking

itburnswhenipee wrote: »

Bit of a problem, and not one I want to put up with my user name as the parties use the site. I also don’t mean to sound like a cnut/prick.

I am single for the last 6months, I have however in the last 7 weeks met two women with whom I have had relations. Both are lovely girls and are great craic. They are both trying to become more serious, so I have to chose one. I couldn’t deal with stringing the two of them along.

One is smoking hot(way out of my league) but she is rigid in bed. We have been together a good bit in last couple of weeks and I think this is as good as it gets.

The other has a beautiful face but her body is not great. However she is a deviant in bed, and i have never had anything like it in my life.

Both girls are great fun and i want to go out with one and not string the other along.
Any advice would be great.

You are looking for a good looking girl who is also good in bed so why not keep looking and break if off with both of them?
If you pick the good looking girl and the sex is bad you are going to regret it.
If you pick the less attractive girl who is great in bed you are also going to regret it.
There are lots of good looking girls who are also great in bed so keep looking.
That's obviously what you want.
It's not fair on you and more importantly not fair on both girls is you want something better all the time.

Jenneke87

Does the other girl still want to get back with you after you let her go? If not the issue is quickly solved.

Whats more important to you? Good sex or a good body? Let's say you were to stick with the pretty one whoes crap in bed. I don't know how old you are but how would her body look 10/15 years from now? You might end up with a woman who can't please you sexually and whoms body isn't "so hot"as it used to be. What will you do then?

If you do wanna stick with her you'll have to talk to her about it. You can't let her go on thinking she's doing it right when she doesn't. Either have a subtle but proper talk with her about it, or give clues to her as to what you like and see if she "improves" The rest is up to you really.

dudara

Forget looks - they don't matter worth a damn. Sex, as another poster said, can be improved, but only if there is a spark to start with.

So the question is, which girl do you feel the most chemistry with, both sexually and mentally?

LegacyUser

Ok so i'm 26 bith girls are 25, i'm looking at the here and now. I'm no player I'm just lucky the way this has worked out. i dont care about 15years in the future as if we are still together it'll be more that her body i'm into.

When I say one girl is good looking, I mean she is Jessica Simpson hot. I do conceed that there is little spark between us. She has a limited sexual experience and seems rigid. I dont know if she has had negative experiences or what but I like to enjoy myself and am quite open, she just seems off the mark. She is great fun and we have similar interests and I would say if looking long term she would suit me better.

The other girl is crazy in bed, Michael Hutchinson sh1t going on. I have had my boundaries pushed outside of what I thought was my comfort zone, and I liked it. Although I now think everytime should be better than the last. I have to say although we have a sexual spark and have good fun together. I do not like her body, i'm no adonis but I do keep myself trim. I know it sounds shallow but I blame spanks or whatever these suck in knickers are called. Its basic misrepresentation. As a consumer I am within my right to complain!!! Other than my shallow complaints she is a great girl, a lot of fun but I suppose I wouldnt see a long term future.

I'm making a decision today, I'll consider all the advice and let you know how I get on.

LegacyUser

itburnswhenipee wrote: »

Any advice would be great.

Well as your username suggests, if it burns when you pee, maybe you should lay off sleeping with women you barely know. Or wear protection.

Above all, have respect for youself. It's hard to repect yourself when you're sleeping with any randomner that comes along

LegacyUser

i think you are being mean about both of these girls and you come across as extremely shallow and self absorbed.

IrishEyes19

I think you have it all wrong, OP, in 15 years time it will be personality you'll want and not ONLY great sex, because a healthy balance is essential in the long run to maintain such a relationship.

Secondly, I dont think you're ready for a relationship if you think the girl you have the less spark with "The better looking girl" is the one who would be better in the long term, thats a little backwards sounding. I think you feel she'll be better looking on your arm, but Im sure she'll eventually come to realise your reasons for being with her and may resent you for it.

I think both girls deserve a better man to be honest, one who respects (a) that the "better looking girl" just needs a little more patience from her OH when it comes sex and can get better. and the second girl (a) is actually pretty in more ways than one but doesnt fit your unrealistic Jessica simpson sex appeal.

Elle Collins

I'm just surprised anyone can get to the age where they can have legal sex without realising that both parties are responsible when the sex is either good or bad.

OP, like it or lump it, in the sex department you're clearly better suited to fat arse. You need to leave Jessica Simpson to the type of man who can bring out the best in her, because believe me, he's out there, and with looks like hers she won't be long finding him.

S23

Elle Collins wrote: »

I'm just surprised anyone can get to the age where they can have legal sex without realising that both parties are responsible when the sex is either good or bad.

I'm not going into the whole, fairly shallow, topic of who to 'pick'. All I'll say is a big plus one to the above.

It takes two to tango. Women come in all shapes and sizes with all sort of different proclivities. I learned, many years ago thankfully!, that each woman is completley different.

I was seeing one particular girl and I'd do x,y and z (don't want to get graphic) to her in bed and she's screaming her lungs out and climbing the walls in ecstacy. The next girl I went out with I did the same things, same techniques thinking that it would get the same end product. Not a hope! You have to roll with the punches and adapt. We did in time and the sex was great but it takes two people to work on it.

The next girl after her was differnt too etc.. etc.. etc.. and I know if I was ever to not be with my OH that the next person I'd have sex with wouldn't nessicarily respond to what I've been doing with my OH for years.

You're attitude towards women needs a tweak IMO, you really seem to be objectifying both girls, but when it comes to sex just keep in mind it's a two way street.

SirDelboy18

Beauty is common these days. If you are looking for something more meaningful then personality is more important. Don't place too much emphasis on physical beauty. At the end of the day you are only viewing the social implications that come with having a knockout versus having a less sexy girl.

Knockout - More peer respect.
- Greater future female interest perhaps. If you are seen with this girl then your value rises significantly.
- Good for a temporary ego boost.

The alternative is perhaps more appealing in a longer term setting. While every man pursues the beauty for fun and sex (which she sucks at), very often they aren't good relationship material. I'd take a chance on the other one, if I were you

Benincasa

How about dropping both of them and waiting until you grow up and find a girl that you like for her own sake, for who she is, rather than just using somebody as you are clearly doing right now?

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dudara wrote: »

Forget looks - they don't matter worth a damn. Sex, as another poster said, can be improved, but only if there is a spark to start with.

So the question is, which girl do you feel the most chemistry with, both sexually and mentally?

I agree with this completely. Which one do you feel most comfortable with?

LegacyUser

both girls deserve better than your pretty criticisms about their looks and figures - it's impressive that a 26 year old has managed to get this far in life without realising being so shallow will only get you so far. i hope they both choose not to be with u. they deserve better.

Josh_Calvert

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IrishEyes19

Josh_Calvert wrote: »

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That's disgusting!! :eek:

@Op, don't lead either of these girls on anymore. Be honest with them and tell them you dont feel the same anymore and Perhaps wait for the girl that fits all your needs. However its rare than someone finds a person who is the perfect human. I find most relationships always require a bit of tweeking along the way, you learn more as time passes, thats what makes relationships so good, when you find the right person, it brings out the best in you. Either set the record straight with these girls or chalk it up to experience and move on.

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allandanyways

Some of the responses to this are shocking. Men wonder why women think so many men are superficial and only judge on looks? This kind of "crisis" from a 26 year old is why.

OP, do the two girls a favour and stop f-ing them around. You're not really interested in either of them for anything other than looks and sex and that is not the grounds on which to take something further.

Moomoo1

firstly you shouldn't be sleeping with two girls at the same time

secondly, I'd go for (2). I am biased though, since when I was a bit younger than you I chose (1). But looks don't last forever whereas bedroom proficiency should do...

Nevyn

If you dont' care for either of them and I mean the basic, would you look after them if they were ill then end it with both of them and move on.

randomchild

TBH I think you are unwise to base your decision based on looks and prowess in the sack. You mention both are great craic, but what else do you like about them?

Distorted

The OP does sound shallow on first reading but sometimes people get dilemmas, which at the time seem pressing. I'm female, and heres my (slightly unusual) take on it:

I think you should choose the more attractive one that you get on better with OP. I sometimes see guys with not very attractive girlfriends/wives and so often they are trying to cheat or line up another woman without the other finding out. Plus I must be shallow too but if I see a guy with a really ugly, out of shape, badly presented girlfriend, I do kind of think the guy is maybe deficient somehow, unless the girlfriend has something else really going for her, like really talented at something, incredibly intelligent, whatever.

I don't really agree with the people that say choose the one who's good in bed because the attractive one's looks will fade. If the ugly one is ugly now, theres no limit to how ugly she might look in 10 or 15 years time, whereas the attractive one might at least have some hope.

And as looks fade, so does the urge to do everything possible in bed in a new relationship.

Moomoo1

but you shouldn't chose a partner based on what others will think of you

in fact, the first thing I think of when I see a good-looking guy with an ugly girl is 'she must be a wizard in bed'.

Emme

Maybe the OP is actually crap in bed and the more voluptuous girl is actually faking!:D

Whatever about the voluptuous girl, do the pretty one a favour and let her go. It sounds like she hasn't much experience and she deserves to know how good sex can be. She won't find that out with the OP.

dazzacon

I'd go with the hot one!

LegacyUser

I have gone with the better looking girl. I had a really hectic day yesterday but I met with both girls and did the honourable thing.

I feel the better looking girl will offer more of a challenge, perhaps I can create my ultimate 'Lady in the street, Freak in the Bed'. Or die trying!

Thanks for all the advice, but seriously I'm 26 i'm not looking to marry this girl, I want a fun time now. If it turns into something else then great. But i'm here for a good time not a long time.

I also kinda got a bit of a fright when I spoke to Girl number 2, she wanted to remain in a FWB situation even though I told her I would be going out with someone else.
I'm just glad I was not silly and that I wrapped my willy! Or it really would burn when I pee.

discus

dudara wrote: »

Forget looks - they don't matter worth a damn.

Excuse me, yes they do.

I'd personally go with the hot girl, and work on the sex with her. If you hadn't mentioned the other girl in the OP, everyone here would be saying "oh go for it, you can work on the sex, go you - BLAH BLAH BLAH".

LegacyUser

itburnswhenipee wrote: »

I'm just glad I was not silly and that I wrapped my willy! Or it really would burn when I pee.

Bit of a weird name to use so! Don't tell your girlfriend it burns when you pee, even in jest
(although it's a good way of getting rid of someone if you have the same dilemma in future)

Josh_Calvert

<snip>....unless you've specified otherwise to them you're not doing anything wrong by sleeping with 2 girls.Enjoy your life and as long as you're getting your fun, it doesn't really matter what they think.Do what you want, do it calmly and don't worry about the girls.

Fittle

Oh to be 26 and catch you OP!! What a catch:rolleyes:

Firetrap

Neither unless it's just sex you're after and nothing serious beyond that. You've more or less boiled these women down to two things - their looks and their performance in the sack. Not too much about their personalities or how wonderful a person they are.

Oroel

do they have personalities?
Maybe go on that...

pwd

Such man hate on this.

A woman asks for a guide on how to have an affair with a married man. She gets thoughtful considered responses. Anything else results in a ban.

This question here is far more reasonable. Most people seem to be ganging up on the OP in outrage. It comes across as pathetic and jealous tbh. If a woman said the same thing, many of the same posters would be creaming themselves.

The OP must find someone frigid and frumpy, but who is friendly though.

Oroel

man hate?
no.
objectification hate. yep.
what on earth are we supposed to be 'jealous' of?
really now. Stop arguing pointlessly on the internet, and making sweeping generalisations. Offer advice, or don't offer advice. Stop trying to incite an argument.

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Emme

Josh_Calvert wrote: »

<snip>....unless you've specified otherwise to them you're not doing anything wrong by sleeping with 2 girls.Enjoy your life and as long as you're getting your fun, it doesn't really matter what they think.Do what you want, do it calmly and don't worry about the girls.

I don't like your attitude but that's none of my business.

However you could have advised the guy to use protection at all times if he is sleeping with two women.

Billy7878

have you decided who your friday night girl is yet? you could use the good looker if u were going out and the bad looker if you were staying in.....

[Rasta]

The final choice is yours, people may think you are inconsiderate and pathetic in the way you treat these girls. If you just want a few years of shaggin with the good looking one, then there is noone holding you back.

Just remember if she notices you just want the sex and that she wants more, she'll be gone in no time. You'll find it hard to get over the good looks because thats all you seem to care about. You will almost guaranteed feel miserable if you split up but thats for you to think about, cause getting another 'jessica simpson' like that, isnt gonna be easy.

Sometimes its worth thinking with your head instead of your penis, but thats up to you.

Ickle Magoo

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itburnswhenipee wrote: »

I have gone with the better looking girl.

Excellent, issue solved and I'm going to lock the thread to prevent this dragging on with any more OT/silly/lazy generalised replies.