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travellin relationship

  • 04-01-2011 3:02am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I left Ireland under two weeks ago and met a girl straight away when i came to my new country, i since moved in with her and she says she never wants me to leave, I am paying her rent though so not taking advantage of the situation, the thing is i was desperate to move into some accommodation and this girl was really welcoming and we get on great, but at the moment i know in my heart its not a long term thing, am I not been fair by accepting this kindness while knowing its not really the long term thing she wants, the way i see it she is benefiting through rent, company and friendship etc including the rest!:) am I being a dick?


Comments

  • #2
    Carpe_Diem
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17 ✭Carpe_Diem


    You're not being a dick if she understood how it was from the start, or if you made it clear to her when she started making noise about you staying "forever".

    That said, if you stay once you know she wants this to be a long term thing, you're not doing her or yourself any favors. Yeah, you can't control what she wants, but if you know she's wanting it to be more and you stay you know the longer you stay the more she's going to get hurt and the more complicated and messy it's going to be to get out of. Exactly how much drama do you want to face when you're getting ready to leave?


  • #3
    Tar.Aldarion
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,110 Mod ✭✭✭✭Tar.Aldarion


    It' under two weeks, talk to her and make your intentions clear.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Just a note....you only know this girl a few weeks....how can you be sure
    that she means what she says. Just remember.....she could be a dick too.
    I think being honest about things helps a lot, but just be wary and try to get honesty from her too, it works both ways.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    i suppose so... these are good comments, i need to be careful as well myself in getting to know somebody new


  • #6
    Carpe_Diem
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17 ✭Carpe_Diem


    littlesthobo1234 wrote: »
    i suppose so... these are good comments, i need to be careful as well myself in getting to know somebody new

    Honestly, the fact that she's making noises about wanting you to stay forever after knowing you for two weeks is a pretty big red flag, don't you? Whether she's incredibly immature, unstable or something else I don't know, but what kind of stable, reasonable, realistic person behaves that way?

    That would have me getting out of there fast.


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