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should i try and see if we could give it another shot

  • 04-01-2011 12:19am
    #1
    myboylollipop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭


    Hey!

    My boyfriend ended our relationship due to our relationship being a long distance one. Even though we both might only see each other every two weeks it was quality more than the quantity of time that mattered. Everything was great, until we both went our separate ways for christmas holidays. We spoke over the christmas period and everything was grand. Until we had a small disagreement about new years eve and i questioned his feelings for me. He told me it reflected nothing about relationship but already had plans for new years prior to us getting together and that i meant alot to him and it didnt reflect that he didnt enjoy our time together. I was still abit pissed off with him when we met up for coffee but I never expected him to end it. I knew it once we met up that something was up, conversation between us was stilted and he looked so uncomfortable. I told him to spill and he came out with the classic line "where is this going?" I didnt let him say much because I was upset but from what little I remember he said that the distance had become hard and he was sick of missing me and that with us both being in final year in college he could see us being tied up with that.

    Its been a few days since that, im ok but just the idea of him gone out of my life forever hurts. Like he wasnt just my boyfriend but my friend and we got on so well. I feel I freaked him out with the intensity of my feelings when we had our argument. I just think that maybe if we could talk again and see if we salvage anything from our relationship. Like I rather have him in my life than not. We are both in our twenties so we aren't thinking marriage or anything like that. But whilest we both care about each other I dont see why we cant try to make it work even if its a little less serious. I just wanted to know do you think I should phone him and tell him this?? Please dont tell me to move on and get over it.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yea it's no harm discussing it. Get in there fast. Look at my post: Can't get over ex-girl

    I'm late 20's and I left it too late and now she's in another relationship, I'm heartbroken!


  • #3
    myboylollipop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭myboylollipop


    I read your post. I'm very sorry to hear about the pain you are going through. Your ex seem to be very cruel in regards to your feelings. Some women(not all) get off on the attention of having so many options. There is no advise I can give but to cut contact with her and let close friends be your support network. I know that be hard as guys aren't very open in talking about their feelings.


    I think I will, we ended amicably but I'm so afraid he will say no. If he does I'll think it was something to do with me physically, maybe he isn't attracted to me any more.


  • #4
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    There is no harm in giving him a call and getting some closure one way or the other but I think you have to be prepared to hear that he got fed up with the long distance issues, met someone else or just came to the conclusion you two just weren't compatible - and you have to also acknowledge that's no reflection on you, physically or otherwise. Not all relationships go the distance, it doesn't mean either party are wrong or bad or unlovable, just that both parties aren't in agreement that they are right for each other.

    All the best.


  • #5
    myboylollipop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭myboylollipop


    Ickle Magoo wrote: »
    There is no harm in giving him a call and getting some closure one way or the other but I think you have to be prepared to hear that he got fed up with the long distance issues, met someone else or just came to the conclusion you two just weren't compatible - and you have to also acknowledge that's no reflection on you, physically or otherwise. Not all relationships go the distance, it doesn't mean either party are wrong or bad or unlovable, just that both parties aren't in agreement that they are right for each other.

    All the best.





    I did phone him a hour after we split up and apologised for shouting at him and said i didnt hate him and it was fun while it lasted yada yada. But ive had a few days to reflect and I feel he does still have feelings for me its just the distance. Thanks for all the advice


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