lifes purpose and other stuff!

LegacyUser

hi looking some help with this

I am struggling with some kind of search for lifes purpose.
I am a single parent to an 11 year old (great kid/really proud of him)and am finishing a course which i started when I had a similiar struggles. I have my own house, a degree, a job, great friends, good family. I am out of a relationship two months but it wasnt a great one and was only a couple of months anyway. Sometimes i feel when i am in a relationship that life has more meaning! Weird! I was looking up visas to see if i could emigrate but dont know if this is just running away, thinking the grass is greener or just this constant search for purpose or meaning. I write down my goals every year and I achieve all of them:) I feel like doom and gloom though generally I am happy and optimistic. I get bored easily hence all the goals yet refuse oppurtunities of carreer promotion(dont want additional responsibility) I know its January, weather is gloomy and Ireland is a bit sad generally. I dont know what it is. I eat well, drink occassionally (a session or two a month maybe). I am not interested in a relationship. Babies and marriage conversations bore me.(that may because i had my son so young) but then maybe its cos I have not met anyone I would like to marry. Travelling appeals to me(single parent how would that work?)
i just dont feel fullfilled or feel like something is lacking. I ve great friends, the usual slighly dysfunctional family. I am not mad into shopping buying stuff etc. I appreciate all the good things in my life. ive no hidden issues that I have not dealt with.

How does one(me) become fullfilled/content ?
Does anyone eles feel like this?
I want more but dont even know what I want. Whats that about?
Sorry if this is all waffle just need to clear the head with a rant in the hope of finding some answers?

Professional Griefer

First let me just say I don't think emigrating is ''running'' away, cause its not as if you'll leave it behind.

Do you have any hobbies? Try to pursue them to whatever extent you can, for example, I love dance music and rock music, so I used to play in a band, and now I just recently bought myself a DJ mixer, not even for the purpose of ever DJing, just to entertain myself, you'd be amazed.

Maybe try and do some activities with your son?

Just live your life to the max, do what you want, and most importantly what makes you happy, you never know whats around the corner, so make the most of it:)

killerking

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hi looking some help with this

I am struggling with some kind of search for lifes purpose.
I am a single parent to an 11 year old (great kid/really proud of him)and am finishing a course which i started when I had a similiar struggles. I have my own house, a degree, a job, great friends, good family. I am out of a relationship two months but it wasnt a great one and was only a couple of months anyway. Sometimes i feel when i am in a relationship that life has more meaning! Weird! I was looking up visas to see if i could emigrate but dont know if this is just running away, thinking the grass is greener or just this constant search for purpose or meaning. I write down my goals every year and I achieve all of them:) I feel like doom and gloom though generally I am happy and optimistic. I get bored easily hence all the goals yet refuse oppurtunities of carreer promotion(dont want additional responsibility) I know its January, weather is gloomy and Ireland is a bit sad generally. I dont know what it is. I eat well, drink occassionally (a session or two a month maybe). I am not interested in a relationship. Babies and marriage conversations bore me.(that may because i had my son so young) but then maybe its cos I have not met anyone I would like to marry. Travelling appeals to me(single parent how would that work?)
i just dont feel fullfilled or feel like something is lacking. I ve great friends, the usual slighly dysfunctional family. I am not mad into shopping buying stuff etc. I appreciate all the good things in my life. ive no hidden issues that I have not dealt with.

How does one(me) become fullfilled/content ?
Does anyone eles feel like this?
I want more but dont even know what I want. Whats that about?
Sorry if this is all waffle just need to clear the head with a rant in the hope of finding some answers?

Life doesn't have any meaning or purpose unless we give it meaning or purpose ourselves.
You are born you live and you die.
What you do with your life is up to you.

claireeney

Firstly may I say congrats on all you have achieved!! Well done! You're obviously a very driven and goal orientated person.

have you a new list of goals for the new year?

If travelling appeals to you why not take your son and get away for a few weeks in the summer? At 11 he'll probably love it, as he gets older he may not want to go with you. It may give you a few ideas about travelling in the future and you might pick up some new hobbies too! I know a girl that went to Thailand and took a cookery course over there and now loves to cook when she didnt do any previously!

Ask your son if he has any goals and maybe help him achieve them! Could be as simple as team sports, learning a craft etc.

Other than that I'm all out of ideas, best of luck to you!