Women's Attitude to Condoms

Motley Crue

A female friend doesn't carry condoms on her on a night out. She's single, and says that she wouldn't rule out the possibility of a one night stand or a sexual encounter on a night out, but that if this happens she would depend on the man to provide the condoms.

While it's none of their business, she's already on the pill as a young single woman who doesn't want a child, and she says (quite rightly so) that despite this she would still expect the man to have and to use condoms and has, on at least one occasion, left a man with his trousers down at the crucial when he said he didn't have one.

The only problem I have is that she doesn't carry them herself, she defends this by saying they make her feel cheap and if anyone saw them in her bag (man or woman) they might simply assume she is up for anything as opposed to taking care of what might happen as opposed to what will - but what do you guy's think?

Should both male and female partners both carry condoms in the event that their MIGHT be a respective sexual situation with the alternative or same sex (indeed this also means running to the toilet at 3am to get some from the machine) or are women particularly afraid or nervous or uncomfortable with either purchasing or carrying condoms upon their person?

I used to work in a corner shop many moons ago, and a customer used to come in every Friday, about exactly the same time (quite attractive young female) - she'd ask for a box of Durex and a single bottle of red wine. Almost every Friday I worked there for about a year or so. Did she have a partner or was she simply getting ready for a night out?

honru

Generally women do not want to take any responsibility for sex or a one night stand happening and if she is the one who pulls out the condom she is assuming some responsibility.

With such responsibility comes the potential to be called or thought of as a slut or promiscuous or whatever.

WindSock

Motley Crue wrote: »

I used to work in a corner shop many moons ago, and a customer used to come in every Friday, about exactly the same time (quite attractive young female) - she'd ask for a box of Durex and a single bottle of red wine. Almost every Friday I worked there for about a year or so. Did she have a partner or was she simply getting ready for a night out?

I think this last paragraph highlights your attitude to women having condoms too. The fact that you notice and wonder what it is that she does on her weekends, when really it is none of your or anyone elses business.

I guess there is an attitude that men carry condoms moreso than women. Perhaps men less encounter shop assistants that make mental notes when they purchase them...

Personally I think there is no reason why a woman shouldn't carry them, There are many pockets in bags where they can be stored if she wishes to conceal them from prying eyes.

Otis Driftwood

At this stage what with the rise of STIs then is foolhardy of anyone to rely soley on "the other person" to provide the condoms.

I wouldnt think any less of a girl for carrying condoms,quite the opposite in fact,whats embarrassing about being careful about ones sexual health?

Galvasean

I've noticed quite the opposite of the example in the OP. Most girls I know supply their own condoms because "you'd never know how long a lad has had a condom in his wallet/pocket", which is a fair point IMO. By and large, they don't trust guys to have condoms of working order.

Princess Peach

I never carry condoms around with me, just because I'm not a girl to have one night stands. But I wouldn't think any less of a girl who did carry them around. In fact a friend of mine does have one night stands a lot, and never carries condoms. Always just assumes the guy will have one, and a few times she doesn't even know for sure that he used one. I think she really needs to start taking responsibility for her own health, especially since its something that happens quite regularly. I think I'd honestly have more respect for girls who have many partners and carry condoms. Cause the ones that don't are just stupid.

When I had a boyfriend I always made sure I had plenty of them in my house. I had never had any problem buying them, I really don't think my chemist cared, and so what if they did!

FruitLover

Motley Crue wrote: »

a customer used to come in every Friday, about exactly the same time (quite attractive young female) - she'd ask for a box of Durex and a single bottle of red wine. Almost every Friday I worked there for about a year or so

She was trying to drop you the hint, lad - you blew it!

Otis Driftwood

smokie2008,post deleted.I suggest that you familiarise yourself with the charter before posting here.

oompaloompa

I have 2 condoms in my wallet at all times. I'm in a relationship, and even if I wasn't I'd probably leave them there...

Not that I'm into one nighters, but it's better to be safe.

I have a friend (mid 20s), still lives at home with parents who have no respect for privacy and regularly search her room for condoms and the pill. As a result, she doesn't carry condoms, never buys them and wouldn't consider being the one to take responsibility for her sexual health.

On a side note, condoms are quite expensive..

Josh_Calvert

necessary evil.feel envious of the babyboomers who had the 60's and 70's to **** casually.damn herpes.damn hiv.

minidazzler

Galvasean wrote: »

I've noticed quite the opposite of the example in the OP. Most girls I know supply their own condoms because "you'd never know how long a lad has had a condom in his wallet/pocket", which is a fair point IMO. By and large, they don't trust guys to have condoms of working order.

I hate carrying condoms simply because I usually don't wear clothing suited to carrying them, so they could be damaged in my pockets. It's grand when I wear a jacket with a good pocket for them, but by and large how I dress makes me nervous for the state of the condom itself!

Most women I know take handbags with them, which are much better suited to carrying condoms given the roominess, and I definitely wouldn't judge a woman for having condoms, in fact, given my own general negligence in the area of carrying them, I would welcome it if it were a situation where I needed it, and think more of her as a person in general just for being prepared. I have to admit, I do think less of girls I know who are pretty promiscuous and don't carry their own condoms, it defies logic IMO.

I have, thankfully, only ever had one breakage and it didn't result in anything bad, was a result of putting it on without due care for clearing the air out though, but I will always be quite nervous about keeping condoms in my pockets given how heated they get.

oompaloompa wrote: »

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On a side note, condoms are quite expensive..

Kids and STD's cost a helluvalot more in money and stress. Which, actually, now that I think of it, is a reason condoms should be cheaper!

DazMarz

I'm not the promiscuous type, and so on... but I still usually have a condom in my wallet, just because you never know!!!

I also think that women who carry them with them are not being anything other than careful, considerate and prepared!!! They're not expecting anything to happen!

Sound Bite

30 year old female here.

I always carry my own condoms on the basis that I know where they were bought, I know they are in date & they are a brand I'm happy with. Chances are most condoms carried by any man are too but imo my sexual health = my responsibility.

I wouldn't have regular ONS but you never know what might happen on a night out.

I'll always insist a condom & have yet to see a man walk out because of it. (In a relationship its a different story, but that's for a different thread).

Think most women my age would be the same.

Nevyn

A wallet is not a good place to keep condoms, they can get damaged in them.
Fair enough to put them in for the evening and take them out when you dont' get home and store them some where suitable (dry dark place away from heat sorces) until you go out again.

If I had nosey parent's i'd be buying a lock box or one of those cushions with a hidden pocket in it.

I do carry condoms, even when in a relationship where they are not being used, I'd rather have them then not and have on occasion given them to friends or ladies who I have meet in the ladies wondering why the vending machine only has pads and tampon but not condoms.

Pembily

I have 2 condoms in all my 3 going out hand bags along with my lip gloss! They always come out with me!? I don't care if I'm called promiscuous or slutty, I'm being safe and I know the brand of condoms is good and they are in date! I'm the onward who can get pregnant and I can also get STIs so of course it's my responsibility to carry them... I prefer not to use them but that's only after both of us have had an STI test, so for ONS I always use them cause while sex is nicer without them my life is way nicer without an STI!

IMHO pity the fool of a girl who doesn't carry one!

Galvasean

Thaedydal wrote: »

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If I had nosey parent's i'd be buying a lock box or one of those cushions with a hidden pocket in it.

And that is why Galvasean still has his box of Warhammer.

shinikins

I've always carried condoms in my purse since i first became sexually active, I consider it to be the mature and responsible attitude towards my own sexual health, and i don't give a damn if someone else regards me as being a slut! As a point of fact i've never actually had to use any of them-they're usually given away to friends, or thrown out when the date is up. It was funny though when i bought a new pink wallet and my mother decided to have a rummage and found them!

Inspector Coptoor

I used to carry them with me at all times when I was single.
I dont need to use them anymore but if I went back to being single in the morning, they;d be the first thing I'd buy.

As for them being expensive, I disagree.
If you plan ahead and go into Boots, there's nearly always a deal on them.

Novella

I have a boyfriend so it's not that I carry a condom in case I have a ONS, but I do have a condom in my purse. I've always had condoms, I guess, since I was sexually active. Just because there's nothing worse than the heat of the moment, "Eh, I don't have a condom..." disappointment, and obviously to prevent STI's/pregnancy.

tatabubbly

I used to carry one when i was single.... Thought it was up to me, not the man.

In a relationship now so got the implant in... Simples.....

annieire

I don't carry them with me but i would expect the guy to carry some or have some at his place. That said i do have some at mine.
I'd just feel that if a guy saw them in my purse he'd think...oh she's promiscuous...whether its true of the girl or not.

Connie_c28

I carry them most nights. I don't on a girl's night out cause I know we always go home together but if I thought anything was going to happen I would stop at a centra or in the club use the dispensers there. In saying that I'm not one for ONS so would only be if I was going back to my booty call and I know he has some in his bed stand cause I put them there :P

Be sad to think you had AIDS or HIV cause you didn't want to appear promiscious...... It only takes one encounter so although I know it sounds drastic I do believe pregnancy isn't the worst thing that can happen to you with unprotected sex!

sam34

i dont carry them with me, but i do have a supply at home.

if i hook up with someone on a night out and we're gonna have sex, we'll be going back to my place,so they'll be there in the bedside locker for us.

killerking

I sleep with a lot of women so I always have a new condom in my wallet ever few days or so and I always get a new box of condoms every week from the chemists.

It's just another stupid taboo people seem to have integrated. They see a girl that carries condoms as someone who engages in casual sex - which makes her a whore. It's so sad that we can't get past this, even in an age when women know the dangers of having unprotected sex.
I always have condoms. I don't even go out that much, and when I do I rarely meet a guy I'm interested in. I've also never had a one night stand. But I know I should never say never about these things and ensure to have one or two there if needed. It doesn't make me a slut, it's not me displaying how 'open' I am; it's just a sign of a sexually-enlightened person taking care of themself.
If I noticed any other girl carrying some I wouldn't be bothered. If she's using them and what she's using them for are none of my business. Let her do whatever she wants.

killerking

Deleted User wrote: »

It's just another stupid taboo people seem to have integrated. They see a girl that carries condoms as someone who engages in casual sex - which makes her a whore. It's so sad that we can't get past this, even in an age when women know the dangers of having unprotected sex.
I always have condoms. I don't even go out that much, and when I do I rarely meet a guy I'm interested in. I've also never had a one night stand. But I know I should never say never about these things and ensure to have one or two there if needed. It doesn't make me a slut, it's not me displaying how 'open' I am; it's just a sign of a sexually-enlightened person taking care of themself.
If I noticed any other girl carrying some I wouldn't be bothered. If she's using them and what she's using them for are none of my business. Let her do whatever she wants.

There are a lot of sexually confused men out who have issues with women.

Josh_Calvert

herpes=reason to ALWAYS have condoms to hand.

Nevyn

Josh_Calvert wrote: »

herpes=reason to ALWAYS have condoms to hand.

Herpes one of the many STI condoms do not completely guard against.