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Married friend flirting?

  • 31-12-2010 05:19PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Myself and my GF of 5 years made friends with a couple about 1 and a half years ago, and while at the start we didnt see them that much, over time we've become good friends and see them quite a bit. We attended their wedding this year.

    Anyway, a few month back Y mentioned that her hubbie had jokingly thought we were having an affair. I was surprised, but, its a joke, fine, no big deal. Since then though, I've noticed her touching me a bit more when we're out for drinks. At first, I presumed it was a) just friendliness, then b) Maybe just a bit of jokingly winding her man up, as he was always present. However, at a recent night out, he went home early and she stuck around. She wrapped herself around me while we were smoking joking that she needed to keep warm. My GF reacted quite angrily to this later when we got home, saying I should have done more to stop her, but I felt that it had kind of crept up on me and i didnt know how to push her away without being rude. I told the GF theres nothing in it, and that I'll make a conscious effort to send the message to her that the behaviour is not acceptable. I figure the friendship is too good to ruin because of it, and the best approach is to try deal with it without offending anyone.
    However, the GF may have a point, as what she didnt notice was Ys hand behind my back slipping down and squeezing my ass once or twice. In my drunken state, I think I might have returned a squeeze, which I'm fairly embarrassed about now. I still think it might be down to her just being drunk , and that nothing would ever come of it even if I was up for it, but how do I control this without upsetting her, my GF, or her hubby?


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  • #2
    astra2000
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    Hi op well firstly I think in future you should be more concerned with how your gf feels rather than about been rude to this attention seeking woman. Obviously you were caught off guard and didnt react, dont let this happen to you again be on your guard all the time you are around her in future, if she wants to jepordise her relationship thats her choice, but dont let her drag you down with her. If she chooses to be touchy feely with you remove her hand or step back out of her reach, if she is offended tough luck, she is obviously not considering your gfs feelings, why should you continue to consider hers or her husbands. Tell your gf you wont be tolerating this in future she probably needs some reassurance.
    Not tolerating this behaviour does not mean you need to fall out with this couple, you can set boundaries with out doing so in an agressive way. Best of luck


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