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Is he interested?

  • 31-12-2010 4:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm a single parent and a long term family friend has beeing coming to visit me and the kids, spending time with us etc. He never wants to leave when he gets here but doesnt tell me at the time but rather afterwards by text etc.

    He has made some plans to come over for a DVD or have a night out but often has to work at the last minute and we have had to change plans due to the weather etc. When he does come to see me he mentions we should arrange something for us without kids being involved. He sometimes mentions future plans. He's a bit shy too.

    Sometimes I don't hear from him for days but if I or he does initiate contact, we text for a while.

    Ive seen him flirt with a certain other lady on facebook. Definitely more than banter. I'm not sure really where I stand and afriad to put my neck on the line as Ive have been horrifically burned in the past by an ex. I'm also out of the dating game for some time as I had to give myself time to get over what my ex did. The fact that all our families know each other so well doesnt help.

    He is deciding between me and the other lady? Is he not sure either or is he just not that into me? He certainly wants to hug/put his arms around me when he is here.


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  • #2
    killerking
    Closed Accounts Posts: 157 ✭✭killerking


    intome? wrote: »
    I'm a single parent and a long term family friend has beeing coming to visit me and the kids, spending time with us etc. He never wants to leave when he gets here but doesnt tell me at the time but rather afterwards by text etc.

    He has made some plans to come over for a DVD or have a night out but often has to work at the last minute and we have had to change plans due to the weather etc. When he does come to see me he mentions we should arrange something for us without kids being involved. He sometimes mentions future plans. He's a bit shy too.

    Sometimes I don't hear from him for days but if I or he does initiate contact, we text for a while.

    Ive seen him flirt with a certain other lady on facebook. Definitely more than banter. I'm not sure really where I stand and afriad to put my neck on the line as Ive have been horrifically burned in the past by an ex. I'm also out of the dating game for some time as I had to give myself time to get over what my ex did. The fact that all our families know each other so well doesnt help.

    He is deciding between me and the other lady? Is he not sure either or is he just not that into me? He certainly wants to hug/put his arms around me when he is here.

    He wants to spend time with you and hugs you when he is with you so he seems interested. You have nothing to lose so go for it.


  • #3
    astra2000
    Closed Accounts Posts: 734 ✭✭✭astra2000


    It sounds like he is interested. Take the initative arrange a night out for the two of you without the kids and see how it goes.


  • #4
    tenchi-fan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    Maybe you should take him up on his offer to arrange something without the kids.

    he seems to be more confident when texting you! Maybe that's why he finds it easy to flirt with this woman on facebook. Chances are he rarely meets her in real life.


  • #5
    miec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 856 ✭✭✭miec


    I am not sure if I am being a bit thick here or seeing things in a skewed way but I don't believe he is into you not in a proper sense, if he was he wouldn't be bothered with the other woman, he would have made his mind up some time ago.

    Op it may be possible that he is saying the same things to the other woman and for some reason I feel he is taking advantage of your position. He comes to visit but only as and when, he is flirting with another woman, he wants you alone without the kids, I have been a single parent for a long time and I have met men who see a woman on her own with kids and think yep she is lonely and up for it, its a licence to act in whatever way (I should add not all are like that just some), in a sense they are right, sometimes I do feel extremely lonely but I'm a person, and I wonder is this guy just looking to get his legover without any committment or hassle. If you do decide to go out with this man, please look after yourself and make sure he treats you fairly, I would suggest no sex until he is with you and not in contact with the other woman and don't let him dictate all the terms or when you see each other.

    If he doesn't work out, maybe consider getting out there and meeting other people.


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