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advice how to tell girlfriend

  • 31-12-2010 10:36AM
    #1
    kilkennycd
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6 ✭


    Hi im going out with an amazing girl for 3 years no...were very much in love and no doubt she is the one...but I have one problem I like to crossdress. I am looking for advice on how to break the news to her as i feel the time is right the start of a new year ect. I feel she will be accpepting no doubt probably a little shoced and have a million and one differant questions I dont know will i have all the answers....so please let me know your taughts..I am 100 percent straight.


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  • #2
    seenitall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,727 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Download some Eddie Izzard, watch it together and broach the subject in that way. I love EI, I think he is funny and witty but also very fanciable, and yes, that's even when he has a dress and a ton of make-up on! (Put another way, he certainly makes the manliest-looking woman I've ever seen! :D)

    So you never know, you may be pleasantly surprised by your gf's reaction, but I do think the important thing is to ease into the conversation as gently as possible, as no matter what, it will be a shock, and you have to keep that in mind.


  • #3
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    I think as long as you bear in mind that although she may not be horrified, she may find it a complete turn-off and that's her prerogative and good indicator she isn't the one, then you should be fine.

    You sound quite positive about her reaction though so you have a choice, you can just sit her down and let her know as she means so much you want to be honest and come straight out with it or you can steer the conversation in that direction and ask a few probing questions about how she feels about transvestitism and see how it goes from there.

    Best of luck!


  • #4
    Wurly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,095 ✭✭✭Wurly


    kilkennycd wrote: »
    Hi im going out with an amazing girl for 3 years no...were very much in love and no doubt she is the one...but I have one problem I like to crossdress. I am looking for advice on how to break the news to her as i feel the time is right the start of a new year ect. I feel she will be accpepting no doubt probably a little shoced and have a million and one differant questions I dont know will i have all the answers....so please let me know your taughts..I am 100 percent straight.

    One evening when you're sitting down relaxing together, tell her that you need to talk to her about something that's important to you.

    I know that if I really loved someone, I would be accepting. It's part of who you are and it's what makes you happy. And that's what we want for the people we love.

    If you don't have the answers, that's perfectly okay. Do any of us?;) Just be as open and and honest as you can.

    Best of luck OP.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi Kilkennycd, decided to go unreg for this one for my partner's sake rather than mine ;)

    I'm going out with my boyfriend 4 years now, and a year ago he told me he liked to crossdress also :) I must say, and this is awful, all I wanted to do is laugh right then! It's not something I ever expected! But I find it kinda cute now, so I'd say tell her, and don't be upset if her initial reaction is off, she may need just a little time to get used to it ;)


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