crisis pregnancy

LegacyUser

my boyfriend and I had sex last week with a condom and since that i am having symptoms of pregnancy. i am feeling very tired and my breasts are very sore. The thing is i cannot understand it because the condom didn't break and my boyfriend used it correctly. We have had sex a few times about four months. the second last time was about four weeks ago a week later i got my period. The reason why we don't have sex much is because I don't want to get pregnant because two years ago we were in a situation where i was pregnant but i didn't go ahead with it and i am still disturbed and not over it yet.

I am circumstances are very hard i am trying to get by on welfare and studying to progress to degree level so i can have some chance of getting a job. I don't have support of a family or anyone that is there for me apart from my boyfriend. His circumstances are very hard to too. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two and a half years , he is an non eu and studying here, he is barely surviving and working part time to pay the huge college fees. I don't know if i am pregnant again what will happen.

I really want to have a child in my heart but the circumstances of our situation is terrible to bring a child in to this. We are both 29 and our plan was once we were finished college here was to move out of ireland because were are already had enough of dublin, i don't know how i could live here for the rest of my life. I feel very very angry and depressed. If it does really happen, I would have to consider adoption but i don't know if i can be that strong to detach myself and separate my head from my heart. Is there anyone in similiar situation to mine or have been, if so how did you cope?

tk123

Take a pregnancy test OP - it could be a false alarm?

curlzy

Hey OP,

I very much doubt you are pregnant but it certainly sounds like you're still in alot of pain from the termination. Contact the Crisis pregnancy agency to maybe set up some councelling. The tiredness could be a wee bit of depression maybe? You could do a "clearblue pregnancy test", they work the earliest and they're very reliable. Even if it turns out you are not pregnant you should get some councelling to move past the abortion. There is alot of stigma involved with terminations in this country and it really is nasty that girls are made to feel very bad about it but you did the right thing. You say that it would have been the wrong time for you to have a child, I think you did the right thing. You owe it to yourself to be happy and healthy so go about getting some councelling. On a side note if you're very worried about contraception go to the family planning clinic, there's depo which last 3 months and Implanon which last 3 years so they're very good options and could help with the fears you have about pregnancy. Big hug op, I'm sure this will work out fine.

Best of luck.

I would be inclined to think it's a false alarm. Take a pregnancy test as soon as it's viable. You're still struggling to get over your previous loss, maybe your issues are manifesting physically as pregnancy symptoms. Some people have hysterical pregnancies which is actually far more common if you've been pregnant before. Breast tenderness is a small symptom which it's very early to be feeling. I wouldn't be surprised if it was psychological. That said, take a test to put your mind at rest, and if you are pregnant just stay calm and don't worry.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_pregnancy

WesternNight

I'm gonna suggest the simplest explanation..

So, four weeks ago you had sex and a week later you got your period. Now, assuming you get reasonably regular periods...could it not be that your next one is due in the next few days? That could easily explain the tiredness and breast tenderness.

LegacyUser

curlzy wrote: »

Hey OP,

I very much doubt you are pregnant but it certainly sounds like you're still in alot of pain from the termination. Contact the Crisis pregnancy agency to maybe set up some councelling. The tiredness could be a wee bit of depression maybe? You could do a "clearblue pregnancy test", they work the earliest and they're very reliable. Even if it turns out you are not pregnant you should get some councelling to move past the abortion. There is alot of stigma involved with terminations in this country and it really is nasty that girls are made to feel very bad about it but you did the right thing. You say that it would have been the wrong time for you to have a child, I think you did the right thing. You owe it to yourself to be happy and healthy so go about getting some councelling. On a side note if you're very worried about contraception go to the family planning clinic, there's depo which last 3 months and Implanon which last 3 years so they're very good options and could help with the fears you have about pregnancy. Big hug op, I'm sure this will work out fine.


Best of luck.

Thank you for much for your reply and for all the other relpies, they are kind and thoughtful replies. Well i am 95% sure i am pregnant i know my body very well and i remember what it feels like i just have to do the test to confirm it. We had sex last week with a condom it didn't brust or tear i cannot understand how this can happen, it was used correctly we had sex only a few times. the second last time was 4 weeks ago a few days before my period and the last time was last week. The circumstances of my situation is terrible to bringing a child in to this, there is no one there for me to help for support. my boyfriend and i was struggling to get by by ourselves. I am extremely tired and these symtoms i don't know i will be able to do anything and study. im not a superwoman im not made of steel everything is extra effort with this tiredness. This couldn't happen to a worser situation, well there would be worser situation but i have been here before its very hard to take again. I would accept it if i didn't take responsiblity but i did we rarely had sex and always used a condom which i thought is the safest most natural way because i get bad side effect from the pill. I really don't know anymore what to do, i will give it time.