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im i a fool?

  • 30-12-2010 12:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    not to sure what im looking for here, im just so confused atm. maybe someone could help me with my problem!

    cut as short as poss. met a guy two and half years ago, didnt fancy him at all!! we were great friends though, very close. eventually i realised i felt more for him and we did get together. i was very wary, having had few knocks from past relationships. he was the same. but we kept on seeing each other, and fell in love.

    he didnt have much experience as regards relationships, didnt seem to understand the sharing, give and take, that are part of it. he seemed far more like a teenager in these things. (we are in our 30's)
    things started going wrong, he said he loved me, i was great etc.etc. he wanted me around but just didnt want to be together properly, like a real couple.

    he started backing off. i eventually had to stop seeing him. he keeps in touch though. it really did break my heart because i thought he was the one. completely. he never explains why he acted like he did, going hot and cold, wanting me, not wanting me.
    i dont think he ever was with anyone else, it wasnt about that.

    i guess my confusion really is this, i didnt jump into this with anyone, we were friends for so long i thought i knew him. he is a really good guy. he just didnt act like a good guy towards me. i dont get it. he is decent and thoughtful, he just wasnt to me.

    should i have given him more time? he has a good heart, have i been too hard on him? i wouldnt like him to feel that i just didnt care. i did, so much, he seemed not to be able to express himself very well. i think i did everything i could, maybe i have been too hard on him? i just felt so thrown around by him, never knowing where i stood.
    or was i just completely stupid?
    we were seeing each other for pretty much a year and a half.


Comments

  • #2
    miec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 856 ✭✭✭miec


    Hi Op

    I don't think you did anything wrong, you were just looking after yourself, he was blowing hot and cold with you and that type of treatment is extremely hard to take. Besides what about your feelings in this? Don't you deserve better?


  • #3
    Firetrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,442 ✭✭✭Firetrap


    Sorry to hear this OP. I don't think you did anything wrong. It sounds like he was the one who didn't know what he wanted and it's unlikely that if you had stayed together, that the problem would have gone away.


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