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How long is long enough?

  • 29-12-2010 11:14pm
    #1
    Chuchoter
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    I'm 17 and I've been out for more than a year now to my parents. I was understanding and patient when they didn't like it, I gave up a lot of friends, changed the way I looked and so on. I've worked really hard in school this year and I think I've managed very good grades in everything. I did absolutely everything they wanted.

    I'm going out with a girl this weekend who I met on Facebook (I know she's real, she's a friend of a friend). I know I need to tell my parents who I'm with because the lying that went on throughout my coming out exacerbated the problem. Have I waited long enough for them to accept me? If they say no thats not happening do I just walk out the door anyway? How do I tell them and should I tell them at all because I don't know if it will go anywhere with the girl, I just think it will be fun?


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  • #2
    ninty9er
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    What will you be doing.

    Standard teenage response or broken information:

    I'm going to [insert place/activity here] with some friends. I'll be back later.

    You are not lying as you've told them truthfully where you are going and it is likely that there will be more of your friends there, yes?


  • #3
    Chuchoter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,305 ✭✭✭Chuchoter


    I've told her I'm going into a film, but it will be just us and maybe her friends I think.


  • #4
    Annasopra
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    How did you meet her? Have you met her before?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #5
    Chuchoter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,305 ✭✭✭Chuchoter


    No but we've been talking the last few days and I've verified with a good friend she's nice. We're meeting in public though.


  • #6
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,214 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    crayolastereo wrote: »
    No but we've been talking the last few days and I've verified with a good friend she's nice. We're meeting in public though.

    I think that once a few friends know where you are going and who you are going with then it is no harm to not say anything to your parents for now

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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  • #7
    bodice ripper
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    crayolastereo wrote: »
    Have I waited long enough for them to accept me?


    you could be waiting the rest of your life. you could be wating the rest of your life if you were a straight, academic cheerleader.

    I am a fan of making your life easy when possible. Tell them you are heading out with mates.


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