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OH's parents hate each other

  • 29-12-2010 9:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all, not so much a personal issue as I am a third oarty to this but I would like some advice.

    My boyfriend's (of 7 years) parents hate each other. They don't spend any time together except with the rest of the family. They rarely talk directly to each other and when they do it is to say something snide. Thay give out about each other and salg each other off to me and everyone. I have suggested to my OH and his sister that they should approach them and suggest counselling but they both say neither parent would go. No one knows what caused this hatred or when it started.
    I know on some level I should not interfere, and for the most part have not, but if this was my family I would want to talk it out and do something. It's a very poisonous athmosphere sometimes. I know through a friend who had the same thing, when parents relationship is sour it CAN be salvaged - her own parents was and it was party through the grown up kids tackling the issue head on and in the open.

    I suppose I'm asking anyone here who knows is there anyway I can help at all??. I am not looking forward to decades of inlaws fighting :-)


Comments

  • #2
    Neyite
    Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,948 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    Would you want a somebody much younger, and whom you may not know particularly well dictating the terms of your relationship with your partner, when they have no idea of the problems between you? Even their children who know them all their lives say they wont get them to counselling.

    I would say dont get involved. It is nothing to do with you, and you will only become the target of their anger.

    If you feel uncomfortable, minimise your time with them. If a snide remark is made to you directly by either about the other, politely inform them that you dont want to discuss it. Support your partner if he gets upset about it, but thats about all you can do.


  • #3
    MJ23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,039 ✭✭✭MJ23


    Stay out of it, never get involved in a domestic


  • #4
    curlzy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,708 ✭✭✭curlzy


    If you get involved in that prepare to get burned. It sucks for your partner so just concentrate on helping him, don't worry about their relationship, it's none of your business even if they're trying to bitch about each other to you.


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