B¡tchy comments from men

Will

Was out last night in town meeting up with some old friends. Night went fine but a weird thing happened, something I've never really come across and im dumbfounded.

Basically I was just after coming out of the loo to wash my hands. Two guys were both washing their hands. Both strangers, then all of a sudden one lad turns to the other and says something along the lines of "wow you are some mess, you'd think you would have tidied yourself up before coming out, have you no self respect?!". The other man just stood there shocked, the same as myself.

The man was quite upset about it I think. Told him not to mind the asshóle and enjoy his night. I've heard of women having a go at each other over clothes and such but never until last night had I experienced a grown man be so b¡tchy towards another.

Wolfe Tone

Thats bloody weird, lucky he didnt get a dig tbh

parker kent

You sure he wasn't messing? My group of friends would be liable to say similar stuff as a joke.

Otis Driftwood

Ive deleted a couple of After Hours style answers,if you dont have something more constructive to add to the thread than a smart comment then dont bother posting in it,there are lots of other forums for rubbish,cheers.

Dimitri

I've heard similar said as a joke on numerous occasions but never anything like that said in a serious manner.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Not something I've come across so directly. Though some people are just dicks.

I think there is a more passive-aggressive bullying behavior some men take part in which I would see as the male equivalent of bitching

itsallaboutheL

I've gotten idiots commenting on a number of occasions, i supect it's some sort of small man syndrome. Or a need to assert themselves or something. Usually just laugh.

ladypip

Woman's opinion here.

A woman wouldn't say that to a stranger unless she was looking for a slap we aren't that bitchy!!

Either the guy was trying to joke and it fell flat on is face or he was looking for a fight!.

Otis Driftwood

Will wrote: »

Was out last night in town meeting up with some old friends. Night went fine but a weird thing happened, something I've never really come across and im dumbfounded.

Basically I was just after coming out of the loo to wash my hands. Two guys were both washing their hands. Both strangers, then all of a sudden one lad turns to the other and says something along the lines of "wow you are some mess, you'd think you would have tidied yourself up before coming out, have you no self respect?!". The other man just stood there shocked, the same as myself.

The man was quite upset about it I think. Told him not to mind the asshóle and enjoy his night. I've heard of women having a go at each other over clothes and such but never until last night had I experienced a grown man be so b¡tchy towards another.

Thats a strange one in fairness.Ive never encountered this at all and I really dont know how Id react if similar comments were directed at me from a total stranger.I give my friends guff on a regular basis and get it back in spades but Id never say anything untoward to a randomer,yer man was lucky he didnt get a slap.

killerking

You should have told him that he would look worse picking up his teeth if he goes on with smart comments like that because next time he might be unlucky enough to meet someone who might take violent exception.:D

Will

These were two total strangers, and it was definitely serious and not said in jest. The other fella wanted to go after him but i just told him not to waste his time. He was most likely looking for a fight I'm sure.

evercloserunion

Pure looking for a fight I'd say. I've experienced the same myself. Not such a weird bitchy comment but a more typical "ya better get the fcuk outta me way" (when I'm not standing in his way at all). Guys who are just way too drunk and getting aggro probably because the night isn't going their way for whatever reason. And of course after having a few drinks yourself you'd just love to say something back to them, but you have to remember what they're looking for and that the best way to piss them off is to not bite.

Maguined

Bitchy is so subjective.

Like most I reckon I would normally see guys being dicks in the more traditional macho display of dominance and looking for a fight. However I would also of witnessed plenty of comments that I would consider bitchy from men, this normally happens as a class thing, some upper class guy making bitchy comments on a lower class guys clothes or vice versa etc.

HavingCrack

Mmm, it's a bit weird alright, it does happen though. Usually Pretty much always the person is just looking for a reaction so they can have a fight. Some lad came up to me in the middle of the day in McDonalds of all places and told me my clothes looked 'stupid and crap'. When I just ignored him he started saying 'are you not going to stand up for yourself?'. This was from someone I'd never met before. Eventually I just left. From my experience they just want a fight.

DublinWriter

Will wrote: »

The man was quite upset about it I think. Told him not to mind the asshóle and enjoy his night. I've heard of women having a go at each other over clothes and such but never until last night had I experienced a grown man be so b¡tchy towards another.

Serves you right for meeting up in The George.

Seriously though, I've been there several times and the level of politeness and toilet queuing etiquette wrecks my heterosexual-head.

limklad

Will wrote: »

Basically I was just after coming out of the loo to wash my hands. Two guys were both washing their hands. Both strangers, then all of a sudden one lad turns to the other and says something along the lines of "wow you are some mess, you'd think you would have tidied yourself up before coming out, have you no self respect?!". The other man just stood there shocked, the same as myself.

I had something similar said to me 10+ years ago, I was a little (maybe a bit more) drunk at the time. I replied loudly to the dumb ass with golf type clothes on with manicure nails at the pub Toilets "I have a dick and proud of it, I never been ashamed for been a man" That set him aback and other men laughing at him as I left.

Dravokivich

Guys talking in the jacks...

I thought we didn't do that?

eitherhow, some other blokes appearence is of no concern to me and if it was appearent the both of'em didn't seem to know eachother, what the hell was yer man doing wasting his time saying that?

Panthro

Sounds for the world to me that the fella that passed the remark was a bit of a nasty aul twit, and a good few yards up his own hole to be honest, what sort of friend puts another mate down in public like that? If he was a real friend, he would either accept his mate's dress sense the way it was or at least attempt to have a bit more tactic in his approach.
If a friend of mine said something like that to me, I'd have no hesitation in saying "would you ever go and fúck yoursel".

Dravokivich

papagormo wrote: »

If he was a real friend

The guy who made the comment was a total stranger to the guy it was aimed at.

Panthro

Dravokivich wrote: »

The guy who made the comment was a total stranger to the guy it was aimed at.

Oh right, missed that, I stand by previous logic that he must have been a nasty aul twit that was a few yards up his own hole, and that my most probable response would have been "go fúck yourself"

BrianD3

Witnessed what sounds like a similar altercation in a men's toilets where one lad started saying to another that he was a "f*ckin waste of space" and a "f*ckin sack" and some other abuse that I can't remember. The fella being abused seemed to ignore it so the other lad turned his back and went to walk out. As he walked out the lad that had been abused took a big gulp of water from the tap went up behind him and spat it over the back of his head. Surprisingly, a fight didn't ensue at this point! Might have been one later on in the night though

Dimitri

BrianD3 wrote: »

Witnessed what sounds like a similar altercation in a men's toilets where one lad started saying to another that he was a "f*ckin waste of space" and a "f*ckin sack" and some other abuse that I can't remember. The fella being abused seemed to ignore it so the other lad turned his back and went to walk out. As he walked out the lad that had been abused took a big gulp of water from the tap went up behind him and spat it over the back of his head. Surprisingly, a fight didn't ensue at this point! Might have been one later on in the night though

*RANT* That's absolutely ridiculous why on earth do people think it is ok to carry on like that. What annoys me even more is that if you ever challenge a friend on their bad behaviour on or after a night out they hide behind the "I was drunk" excuse and all too often bad behaviour is written off as "ah sure he was after a few, he's not normally like that". It's not an excuse, yes alcohol alters your mental state lowers inhibitions etc but regardless are we not still responsible for our own behaviour? */RANT*

If this had been banter between two guys that knew each other fair enough but as pointed out they weren't the guy was an asshole, where do these plebs get off, did they ever hear that it's nice to be nice?

tallaghtmick

the lads in my job can be very bitchy at times,but i still reckon men are nowhere near as bitchy as women.

ToxicPaddy

Witnessed something similar a few years back, a guy in the toilets minding his own business and some guy starts mouthing off at him about his shirt and the general state of him.. the guy who was having a p*ss, just ignored him and finished up, went to wash his hands..

The assh*le mouthing off, started again about his shoes, state of his jeans etc etc etc.. after the guy had finished washing his hands, the assh*le was coming to the sink, the guy turned, hit the guy one absolute hammer of a punch, the assh*le, stumbled and dropped.. and the guy turned on his heel and walked out, cool as you like..

Everyone else just stopped and looked at each other, look at the assh*le trying to pick himself up off the ground and then just walked off leaving him there.

Its rare that guys get bitchy, but this guy was just being a d*ck and looking for a fight, he didnt expect what he got, but he deserved it 100%

very bitchy from a man! Girls would never say that directly to another girl but whisper it quite loudly to their friends standing nearby. Girls are right bitches....turns out men are too!

MrStuffins

ladypip wrote: »

Woman's opinion here.

A woman wouldn't say that to a stranger unless she was looking for a slap we aren't that bitchy!!

So evidently you're a woman who's never met other women?

daithi2011

HavingCrack wrote: »

Mmm, it's a bit weird alright, it does happen though. Usually Pretty much always the person is just looking for a reaction so they can have a fight. Some lad came up to me in the middle of the day in McDonalds of all places and told me my clothes looked 'stupid and crap'. When I just ignored him he started saying 'are you not going to stand up for yourself?'. This was from someone I'd never met before. Eventually I just left. From my experience they just want a fight.

The exact same thing happened to me.
He said, "I expected you to stand up for yourself"
I just floored the guy and off I went.

MrStuffins

daithi2011 wrote: »

The exact same thing happened to me.
He said, "I expected you to stand up for yourself"
I just floored the guy and off I went.

:rolleyes:

tallaghtmick

one night i was out and in the toilets and noticed some fella minding his own business so i decided to have a go at him over his shirt and the state of him i thought it was funny coz he was having a p**s but he just ignored me and went and washed his hands,at this stage i thought ill slag his shoes and jeans yet still he stood there until he had finished and all of a sudden he hit me a hammer of a punch at which point i stumbled and fell and the guy walked out real cool,the worst part is everyone stood around looking at each other and didnt help me up it was only a bit of fun.......true story

TimeToShine

A woman wouldn't say that to a stranger, she'd wait until they're gone and then tell her friends.

ladypip

MrStuffins wrote: »

So evidently you're a woman who's never met other women?

No im a nice woman who only knows other decent women:D. Im not under the illusion that there aren't any women out there that are bitchy but the majority of us are nice people really

mistyd

I would think he was definitely looking for a row. I've never heard a man insult someone like that before, would usually be messing.

And the majority of women would never be so insulting and the women who are 'bitchy' usually do it with a sidekick attached to her for back up :rolleyes:, we've all felt that sting i'm sure

Josh_Calvert

I has just been warned about posting in the ladies lounge...I felt such a warning was bitchy

Otis Driftwood

Josh_Calvert wrote: »

I has just been warned about posting in the ladies lounge...I felt such a warning was bitchy

If you have been warned about your posts in another forum then maybe you should examine how and what you post.You are a new member so Im going to give you the benefit of the doubt but as an FYI,criticism of any other forum on Boards will not be tolerated.Please bear that in mind when posting here or any other Boards forums.

Bull76

whats it to anybody else what a person wears or looks like. Who cares only a limited bunch of fools who think they are the dogs bolloxs. Get over yourself...There is more to life...
People should learn to keep there smart ass comments to themselves. I wouldn't nor do I know anyone stupid enough to comment on a complete strangers looks...Why..
Amongst friends maybe some gentle slagging...

Wompa1

This might be controversial because even mentioning said group now a days get's ya branded as a homophobe but here it goes. Gay men can be quite catty when it comes to clothes and appearance, maybe the guy that made the bitchy comment was gay?

I had a guy say to me in secondary school before "Nice shirt, quick someone call the fashion police" Sure enough it turned out a few years later that he was gay

But sure who knows. The men of Ireland have become pretty femenine in the last 10 years. Metrosexuality and Cristiano Ronaldo are in, Steel Toe Cap boots and burping are out. Maybe the guy was just really into the metro thing...

PrincessLola

Starla_o0 wrote: »

very bitchy from a man! Girls would never say that directly to another girl but whisper it quite loudly to their friends standing nearby. Girls are right bitches....turns out men are too!

Speak for yourself. Me and my friends are too busy having a laugh and discussing the drinks/music scene to say something nasty to another girl in a night-club bathroom. Conversley, I have often found myself having a cosy heart to heart in club bathrooms with girls who I don't even know (usually drunk tho lol:pac:)

amacachi

ladypip wrote: »

Woman's opinion here.

A woman wouldn't say that to a stranger unless she was looking for a slap we aren't that bitchy!!

Either the guy was trying to joke and it fell flat on is face or he was looking for a fight!.

When I had long hair I had more girls than fellas pass comment on it and it wasn't meant as a joke.

Inspector Coptoor

itsallaboutheL wrote: »

I've gotten idiots commenting on a number of occasions, i supect it's some sort of small man syndrome. Or a need to assert themselves or something. Usually just laugh.

In the Bernard Shaw, talking about deadlifting and lifting weights in general in the jacks with L and some weed of a lad hearing what we are on about looks at us and laughs.
L says " funny, isnt it?"
Weed "what?"
L "life in general"

I just don't get bitchiness, really I don't. I don't understand what could possible go through a person's mind to make them say something like that to another person. Why on earth would you want to make someone feel like sh*t for absolutely no reason? Is it any wonder that fights happen on nights out?

All I'll say is thank f*ck I've never come across anything like this myself.

Handsome Bob

Never got it myself I have to say, the closest I got was someone saying to me "one doesn't usually find the likes of yourself in this club", referring to my clothes, which started a convo. Looking back on it now, I think he was coming on to me.

:pac:

WindSock

Bitchiness is not a trait that is exclusively held by women. I have heard some men be complete bitches about other people fairly frequently.

Latchy

That's sounds so weird and I wonder if he said it hoping the guy would react ?? I mean saying it a friend , knowing you would laugh it off is one thing but to actually say that to a stranger in the jacks ..wtf , well that would piss anybody off and the odds of getting away with such like comments twice are low , very low indeed .

johnnyvega86

This is what happens when you make a stupid bitchy comment too many!:D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2oP1NMB_I0s