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LegacyUser

I decided to unregister for this.

Just some opinions needed here because the more I think about this the more complicated it gets.

In bullet points this is my background:

Friends with this guy for ten years and always got on really well.
Then finally we ended up dating and starting going out.
He was best friends with a relation of mine.
Relation of mine not happy we got together.
One night out, relation of mine made up a lie about me being with someone else and told boyfriend.
We had a blazing row. It wasnt true and he believed his best friend/my relation.
We broke up.
My relation very happy with it all and everything went back to "normal" in his point of view.
My ten year friendship with ex went down the swanny after that and we havent spoken really since.
We met out on a mutual friends night out and he apologised for not beleiving me saying that he would no longer be friends with my relation. Relation moved away due to work but I told ex couldnt take the chance of wasting however long we were together until relation came back and messed things up again and said it would be better to leave it as things were, which I think was rational thinking on my part.
Again about six months later, ex texted me to try and get back together again but I said no, I was sort of seeing someone at that point and let him down as gentle as I could. We havent spoken since.
My seeing someone didnt last.


So why Im posting this now is, its a long time nearly a year since I last spoke to him but more things have come to light and I cant stop thinking about it all. I would like to contact him again and try and get back on an even keel because he was a good friend before the "relationship" and "relation". It is on my mind a lot recently but Im not sure what to do because
1) he is now seeing someone else and
2) I dont know if its the friendship back...or more?

So, opinions pleez. Do I let sleeping dogs lie and just forget about it all over again...or get in contact with him?

Thanks in advance for any opinions or help

curlzy

Hey OP,

Why would you get back with someone so pathetic?? Like how old are you guys, the time scale you mention makes it sound like you're late 20s to early 30s but the fact your "relation" made up lies about you and your ex believed them, well to be honest that's really juvenile and immature. I wouldn't talk to the liar ever again and I wouldn't get back with your gob****e of an ex. Just cut both of them out of your life and get your life the way you want it. Socialise, get hobbies and you'll soon move on.

Best of luck.

booboo88

I think let it ly. He didnt trust you enough to beleive you then, why now?
And also he's seeing someone, that would be very unfair on the person he's seeing.

Distorted

If he didn't trust you or believe you before, and then reacted to finding out the truth as weakly as he did, I doubt he's worth any more effort on your part. It sounds as though he'd be a nightmare of a boyfriend and you would only run into more pointless, energy wasting situations such as the above. Move on.

Wompa1

Leave it be