Drunk text

LegacyUser

Hello all,
Been going steady with this guy for 4weeks and we really like eachother.
However. he went out the other night with one of his friends who came back from the US. I couldnt go since I had a birthday. Anyway, while they were out, i got the odd call letting me know how he was getting on and me etc.
About 3am, I get a text : "I love you"
I havent brought it up as I laughed it off, telling myself it was the drink talking.
Think I should talk to him? or would he even remember? Its hardly true anyway. Should I let it go?

ziedth

God I'd let it go.

I have gotten myself into awful situations with drunk texting, he prob mean't it at the time (being blind drunk) and saw his sent messages the next day and died a little inside.

Or,

He was testing the water under the guise of a drunk text in which case you don't appear to be quite there so bringing it up IMHO won't accomplish anything.

Leave it go IMHO.

Good luck.

Zen65

usernam20202 wrote: »

About 3am, I get a text : "I love you"

I imagine he may have had a bit to drink. If he sends the same text while sober at 3pm it's a topic for discussion (if you wish). At 3am, with alcohol taken, emotions are confused.

Be at peace,

Z

pheasant tail

Id say he actually did mean it,,but would never have the balls to say it straight up to you,,!! its possibly a good sign,,say nothing and play things cool

LegacyUser

hey OP, about 1 month after I started seeing my now boyfriend(5yr relationship) he did the same thing. He later told me hes just testing the water seeing if you are into him as much as he is into you. I never brought it up either as tbh I didn't believe it but I think it tells you where he sees the relationship going

Katgurl

Well it might be early days but he's certainly crazy about you you could make a joke of it so he's not freaking out like "so how many shots were downed at this stage?" while pointing at the text and laughing

dsmythy

It might not even be emotions at all that got drunkenly confused, just context. I might send a drunken text to a mate saying I love him but I don't mean I literally am in love with the guy. I love how you act, how you talk, who you are, what you do, not neccesarily love the person in that way.

dinjo

Katgurl wrote: »

Well it might be early days but he's certainly crazy about you you could make a joke of it so he's not freaking out like "so how many shots were downed at this stage?" while pointing at the text and laughing

thats what id do... play it down. odds are he is to embarrassed to bring it up !!

LegacyUser

Hello again!
Thanks for all of your advice.
I wouldnt feel right about bringing it up as I feel it would be awkward or Im putting him on the spot.

However, I wasnt surprised to get that text, since he's been in a way, rushing "us", he asked me to be his girlfriend after a week, brought me home etc. Does this just mean he's ready for a serious relationship?.
One of my guy friends told me when a guy meets "the one" or whatever, he just knows or feels it straight off....? True or false?

Also,
When is the right time to say I love you? As in, when should you say it?

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usernam20202 wrote: »

When is the right time to say I love you? As in, when should you say it?

When you feel it.

Don't say it because he's said it and you feel you should say it back, especially of you don't mean it.

When he brings you a cup of tea after a hard day at work and it's freezing out and your all cold and he brings chocolate too, that would be a good time.

greenprincess

Its def a really good thing but i wouldnt press him on it. My bf, told me after 3 weeks when he was really drunk, but i didnt say anything about it cause it would be embarrasing!

Esoteric_

If he's rushing things between you two, he probably did mean it. That said, I wouldn't say anything to him about it, unless you feel the same way. As for asking when the right time to say "I love you" is - If you feel it, say it. If you don't, wait. If you're not 100% sure, wait.