Text Message from Boyfriend?????

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,
I am in a complete state of shock as I type this. I can’t believe what I’m about to write.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I love him deeply. We are both 27.

I was meeting a few friends for drinks last night and invited him along but he said he wanted to stay in, have a bottle of wine and chill out. That was no problem. I went and met my friends and had a lovely night.

This morning I woke up and looked at my phone. I had two text messages from my boyfriend. The first one was sent at 1.46am. It said, word for word ‘Walking out...yeah great....how am I supposed to explain if you walk out???’

The second one was at 2.10am and said ‘Don’t act so surprised and on a high horse....your doing wrong here too’

My heart was pounding so hard I thought I was gonna collapse. I phoned my boyfriend but he didn’t answer.I was in work at 9 and he has the day off so I knew he’d be asleep. He told me he was staying in last night and that was a lie. I called him again at 10am and no answer. I called him again at 12 and no answer. I texted him saying call me as soon as you wake up and he hasn’t replied.

Please please please be honest with me even if it’s gonna hurt.

Straight up, what does this text mean? He’s seeing someone behind my back right?

Oryx

It could mean that, it could mean something else entirely. Could be cheating, could be work related, could be a family matter. If he is avoiding your calls tho, he knows the texts went to you, maybe. The only way you will clear this up and know for sure is to pin him down (not literally!) and make him explain.

LegacyUser

he's really clumsy with things like texts and once sent an email to his boss landing himself in trouble.

He's an idiot like that.

He knows damn well the texts went to me and he is avoiding me. We usually text at about 11 everyday. He gets up early even after being out drinking.

He told me he stayed in too!!!! It's 2 o clock and still nothing. He can't keep avoidng me and is he so dumb that he thinks ignoring me is a good plan???

As soon as I leave work I'm going straight to his apartment. I'll camp outside if I have too.
I mean that!

Why would he send those message???? It is not work related. He finished up work on Monday and took holidays. It has to be a woman. No other answer.

curlzy

Oh wow OP, that is just a nightmare! I'm so sorry for you, what a horrible thing you're going through. I really can't see any other scenario other than he has been cheating, can you? Now you gotta be smart here, change your pin, passwords etc, any things he has access to. You need to get yourself into a strong space of mind here. If he's been cheating and you really had no idea then he's not the guy you thought he was so protect yourself, protect your cash, facebook page everything that he knows the passwords for. Once you've done all that then tell your boss you're sick and go home and ask him what's going on. Don't put up with anything less than the absolute truth. Get the slappers name too. If he has been cheating on you then get yourself to your mam's or close friend's place until you can process all this and make up your mind on how to proceed. My heart really does go out to you but if it is what if sounds like then you are defo better off without him.

The very best of luck.

astra2000

Op I really dont know there is nothing damming in the messages, you are only seeing one side of the story and you may be reading them out of context, you are not going to know until you ask him. If he has nothing to hide he should be able to explain whats happening. There should be no problem for him to show you his phone, and what the text was in response to. If he starts speaking about been entitled to his privacy or messages are deleted then you may have cause for concern. Other people may disagree with me saying he is entitled to keep his phone private, but imho if the messages were a mistake and applied to someone elses problems, he will understand how these messages could have looked and will do anything to reassure you. Best of luck hope it works out for you.

mylittlepony

It doesnt really make sense. But Im thinking maybe it could be about someone like a friend of his walking out of a relationship and your boyfriend knows about and is saying how he is to explain about him walking out on his girlfriend (yeah, right, and its da holidays!! something like that)
Does he have friend similar name to yours or letters or you know when you are thinking of a lover and trying to text message a friend at the same time you end up texting the bf instead :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

Hay op im sorry to here that this is just my opinion:

‘Walking out...yeah great....how am I supposed to explain if you walk out???’

something happened they had an argument or disagreement she walked out with out letting him explain himself.

‘Don’t act so surprised and on a high horse....your doing wrong here too’

The your doing wrong here bit is damaging as the HERE suggests he was involved in it."high horse....your doing wrong here too" that suggests maybe she knew he had a girlfriend or she has a partner or worse she is a friend of yours.

Just my opinion if he has nothing to hide he will show you the other texts to put the whole lot together and clear him i know he has a right to his privacy but if he loves you he will want to put it right good luck hope it works out for you.

Katgurl

It's bad op.

Are you sure he wrote them? Was the text wording the way he writes ie punctuation / txt spk etc?

You poor poor thing. You must feel like vomiting.

kjl

OP, where are you getting cheating from? The texts are a little misleading, but they don't say he is cheating. Talk to him and sort it out. Have you actually any evidence that he is cheating beyond this?

Miss Fluff

Give him a chance to explain. Nobody here can possibly decipher what they mean as the texts could mean any number of different things, there may be a perfectly reasonable explanation so you need to hear from him what he has to say about it. Hope for your sake it is not bad news. Try and keep the head for now.

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Give him a chance to explain. Nobody here can possibly decipher what they mean as the texts could mean any number of different things, there may be a perfectly reasonable explanation so you need to hear from him what he has to say about it. Hope for your sake it is not bad news. Try and keep the head for now.

He's meeting me after work. He finally answered.

Please Miss Fluff, I've come to respect your advice and opinions, what do you really think?

He ignored me all day which screams guilt to me. When he finally did answer I was unusually calm. I felt my voice quiver but I kept it steady. I can be cold as ice when i want to be and if he is guilty, he's messed with the wrong girl.

greenprincess

hum... i would be really suspicious! let us know what happends. I hope it was just a miss understanding

Miss Fluff

rockedchick wrote: »

He's meeting me after work. He finally answered.

Please Miss Fluff, I've come to respect your advice and opinions, what do you really think?

He ignored me all day which screams guilt to me. When he finally did answer I was unusually calm. I felt my voice quiver but I kept it steady. I can be cold as ice when i want to be and if he is guilty, he's messed with the wrong girl.

I'd want to see his phone so I could look through the messages that went before and after the ones he evidently sent you by mistake. If he has kept these, and you can put the ones sent to you into context, then hopefully there is a reasonable explanation. You won't know until you talk to him. The fact that he has avoided you is not good at all but the fact that he sent these texts to you at all would suggest he got pretty hammered at home so he may just have an unmerciful hangover. Talk to him and ask for the truth. Hope it works out x

whatsamsn

We all know alot of things can be open to context.
but the line "...Don’t act so surprised and on a high horse....your doing wrong here too..." really says alot.

I would ask to see his phone.
If he deleted all messages.... you know whats up.

Aww, what an awful situation. Hope everything works out all right.

metamorphosis

I don't think it looks good but maybe that's because i know i would react in a similar manner.

Hope it works out for you OP, either way, you will have a solid answer now instead of floating around a 'maybe' situation.

curlzy

Hey OP,

Hope you are ok, if it turns out it went sour just remember that things will get better.

booboo88

tis tough going when this happens. your mind is prob working over time and stomach doing somersaults. Ive been there, it aint nice

pastry2010

Hey Op,

I have been there with my boyfriend not exactly....a text was sent to me I picked it up entirely wrong because I had been cheated on before and a little sensitive and automatically assume the worst! It doesn't sound great but I really think it could be something innocent (I really hope), I think most of the time you can tell if someone is ''playing away'' I think back on my previous relationship and we became distant and rowed and he would make excuses not to meet up...it was coming, here in your case this is a complete shock, I really hope your ok and it turns ok to be something else....

Keep us informed of how it goes
Px

Seraphina

curlzy wrote: »

Get the slappers name too

Sorry, off topic, but how on earth is that helpful and why are you calling the hypothetical other girl who may or may not exist a slapper? It really grates me they way women will so often play the blame game with each other and bitch and snipe when it's the boyfriends fault if it's anyones.

OP. Frankly it does all look pretty bad, especially cause he is ignoring you. Obviously you've met up and it's all transpired by now, I hope you are ok and that if he has been cheating, don't go shifting the blame onto the other person, stay strong, and dump him.

Kidchameleon

OP,

I really feel for your situation, it must be so so hard for you. How did your chat today go? Did it shine any light on things? I remember my GF rang me by accident and I didn't hear it ringing, so it went to my voice message. She was talking to her friend about a fella. I went into a fit of jealousy about it and confronted her about it. She was able to explain exactly what she was talking about. I had taken the message totally out of context and felt like a total tool for going mad about it. I'm not saying I think this is the case with you, its just my personal experience.

LegacyUser

Thanks to everyone who replied.

Turns out that he had a 'thing' with a girl from work. He claims that she is new to his team and that from day one she made it clear she fancied him. He never mentioned her to me at the time so as not to 'upset' me.

He said she kept texting him and asking him out so he finally gave in.

I can't believe I am even writing this on Christmas day. I spent last night drinking copious amounts of wine and crying my eyes out.

I have ended it with him obvioulsy and I feel heart broken. I feel so shocked that I thought I knew him but I was wrong. I feel traumatised. Worst part is, he hasn't even called me or texted me today or last night. He's just letting me go.

Sick.

Just thought I'd update you guys. Thanks again:(
Happy Crimbo

dudara

Take care of yourself - let him alone for a while.

Sephiroth_dude

rockedchick wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who replied.

Turns out that he had a 'thing' with a girl from work. He claims that she is new to his team and that from day one she made it clear she fancied him. He never mentioned her to me at the time so as not to 'upset' me.

He said she kept texting him and asking him out so he finally gave in.

I can't believe I am even writing this on Christmas day. I spent last night drinking copious amounts of wine and crying my eyes out.

I have ended it with him obvioulsy and I feel heart broken. I feel so shocked that I thought I knew him but I was wrong. I feel traumatised. Worst part is, he hasn't even called me or texted me today or last night. He's just letting me go.

Sick.

Just thought I'd update you guys. Thanks again:(
Happy Crimbo

Jeez real sorry to hear that,hope your ok.

LegacyUser

Thank you so much. Boards is really helping me being honest.

I just don't understand this. He tells me all the time how much he loves me. He fancies the a** off me and is always all over me. He buys me little gifts. He speaks so highly about me to everyone we meet. People often comment how he can't take his eyes off me. He constantly tells me how beautiful I am. We do nothing but laugh and have fun.

Why do this??? He should have told me some new chick at work was 'hassling' him. He said she wouldn't let up so he gave in and was with her.

WTF???? Am I supposed to belive that nonsense??

Sorry guys. It's christmas day and I don't wanna drag anyone down but my god this is hurting me and I feel like a fool. I HATE being made a chump of. I hate being deceived.

People can be so cruel and fake. I don't even blame the girl. She's just a girl who's single and fancied a guy. I don't believe she 'hassled' him. I'd say he hassled her more like.

Darlughda

rockedchick wrote: »

Turns out that he had a 'thing' with a girl from work. He claims that she is new to his team and that from day one she made it clear she fancied him. He never mentioned her to me at the time so as not to 'upset' me.

What a spineless coward, he can't even take responsibility for his own actions!What a pathetic load of bull he has come out with.
God, the lies and deception this worthless piece of rot must peddle in day in day, is probably way more than you know OP.

Nonetheless, very sorry that you are going through such a painful thing.

If only we could just switch off our capacity for loving someone like we do with a light switch! Its been a long relationship, and you may well need time to get through this, but you will.

This is not a man you want to live your life and future with.

Cowards like him just become more adept at 'compartmentalizing' their lives and lying about everything. Small comfort now, I bet, but you will get through this, and well done on you for having the strength to end this and not accept this kind of deceit and low behaviour.

dudara

It's not uncommon for the first version of a story to be the "light" version - i.e. we only kissed. This is becuase people who cheat actually get quite good at compartamentalising lies and in a way, they end up believing what they want to believe.

It's only later that the full truth will come out.

LegacyUser

dudara wrote: »

It's not uncommon for the first version of a story to be the "light" version - i.e. we only kissed. This is becuase people who cheat actually get quite good at compartamentalising lies and in a way, they end up believing what they want to believe.

It's only later that the full truth will come out.

I agree. To me it's the same thing anyway. I think if you kiss someone else then chances are you'd sleep with that person given the chance.

He admitted he slept with her anyway. He said it was only once and he made out like he did it to shut her up kinda thing. Sickening. It really is. He's a liar.

I can't believe he hasn't even texted me!!!!Not that i'd reply but I really want him to text so I can ignore him.

seenitall

rockedchick wrote: »

I can't believe he hasn't even texted me!!!!Not that i'd reply but I really want him to text so I can ignore him.

The fact that he hasn't been in touch should only help you, tbh, OP. He doesn't really care about you (which is obvious from the fact he cheated and the way he disrespectfully tried to "explain" it away :rolleyes:...), so this is actually an indication for you to start dealing with the fact that it is over, as you are better off without the spineless cheat anyway.

So sorry this had to happen at Christmas for you, OP. I would urge you to try and reclaim as much of the Christmas Day as you can, TV for example has some ok films on for distraction etc. Sit down, have a nice meal or at least a snack, watch something silly with some friends or family, and decide that you will return back to hurting just a bit later...

New Year in the offing, new beginnings, OP!

Happy Christmas and Happy New Year!

star-pants

You poor thing, that's just horrible.

Can't believe he's playing the 'she wouldn't leave me alone' & 'I didn't want to worry you' card. Change your number/report the girl/whatever (if she's not getting the message/harassing you).
Yeah the obvious answer was to just date/sleep with her, clearly. *insert rolleyes here*
He's a liar for starters. And you deserve someone who doesn't just say to everyone he loves you, but really and truly shows it too (by not cheating!).

As others said, the fact he's not been in contact just shows who he really is. As impossibly hard as it is, leave him be, he's not worth it at ALL. You've done right by getting rid of him, you'd never be able to trust him again. It'll be horrible for you for a while, but you will get past it, and you will start to feel better. I'd make sure to have nothing to do with this guy in future if you can. *hugs*

LegacyUser

star-pants wrote: »

You poor thing, that's just horrible.

Can't believe he's playing the 'she wouldn't leave me alone' & 'I didn't want to worry you' card. Change your number/report the girl/whatever (if she's not getting the message/harassing you).
Yeah the obvious answer was to just date/sleep with her, clearly. *insert rolleyes here*
He's a liar for starters. And you deserve someone who doesn't just say to everyone he loves you, but really and truly shows it too (by not cheating!).

As others said, the fact he's not been in contact just shows who he really is. As impossibly hard as it is, leave him be, he's not worth it at ALL. You've done right by getting rid of him, you'd never be able to trust him again. It'll be horrible for you for a while, but you will get past it, and you will start to feel better. I'd make sure to have nothing to do with this guy in future if you can. *hugs*

God Star pants...your post made me burst into tears. I read the word hugs and just burst out crying. I really need a hug!!
Thanks for your words and I know you're right. I'll be fine in time. I'm glad I'm getting out now because if he had proposed to me over Christmas I would have said yes. Can you imagine. God. Least I now know who he really is.....NOBODY!!!

booboo88

rockedchick wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who replied.

Turns out that he had a 'thing' with a girl from work. He claims that she is new to his team and that from day one she made it clear she fancied him. He never mentioned her to me at the time so as not to 'upset' me.

He said she kept texting him and asking him out so he finally gave in.

I can't believe I am even writing this on Christmas day. I spent last night drinking copious amounts of wine and crying my eyes out.

I have ended it with him obvioulsy and I feel heart broken. I feel so shocked that I thought I knew him but I was wrong. I feel traumatised. Worst part is, he hasn't even called me or texted me today or last night. He's just letting me go.

Sick.

Just thought I'd update you guys. Thanks again:(
Happy Crimbo

I just have one question how did she get his number?
I know exactly how you feel, guys seem to think it hurts less to not be told. Not true
Its gonna be hard but dont let an idiot like him ruin your xmas

star-pants

rockedchick wrote: »

God Star pants...your post made me burst into tears. I read the word hugs and just burst out crying. I really need a hug!!
Thanks for your words and I know you're right. I'll be fine in time. I'm glad I'm getting out now because if he had proposed to me over Christmas I would have said yes. Can you imagine. God. Least I now know who he really is.....NOBODY!!!

*more hugs* so
If you have family/friends around you, don't be afraid to lean on them.
You just need to keep telling yourself what you've just said, because it's very easy to forget how hurt you are right now when you start to miss him.

As you said, better you got out now, before things got any more serious.

Kidchameleon

What a muppet he is. Please OP, Ive seen so many people get back with cheaters its unbelievable! Never go back to this guy! There are better out there...

LegacyUser

Hi Rockedchick,

I rarely post on boards but read your post and it touched me to reply. I imagine how low you must feel right now but as I was reading through the thread I was thinking it's good you found out now before you were married, bought a place, even had children. Bad as this feels now, it could have been so much worse. As people have said before on boards.. "scrape him off"! I'm not sure what that means, I imagine it's like you walked on a piece of chewing gum (or something else!) and scraped it off your shoe and moved on! This guy is a sorry excuse for a man. But the positive thing that you must hold on to is; you've seen his true colours. You can do your analysing of the relationship later but for now take care of yourself! Distract yourself. Do something for YOU. Take a walk, read a book, go online, ring a friend, take a bath, watch a movie. Remember "that which doesn't kill me makes me stronger". You know what? Fast forward one year...Christmas day next year and you will so happy when you look back. You will be glad to be rid of that sad loser. It probably doesn't feel like it right now but everything will be ok. :-)

Katgurl

Op he is a weasel.

You caught him redhanded through his own stupidity. If he had an iota of conscience he wouldn't have left you fretting all day. Then when he finally faces you he insults your intelligence with a pack of lies.

Op this must be unbearable for you but please remember it's all down to him to being a spineless cheating horrible bastard and in time you'll be so glad to be rid of the horrible bastard.

johnr1

OP, sorry to hear what happened to you. It must be made even worse by it being at Christmas, and the Christmas you thought he might propose.

Most of it has already been said, - you dodged a bullet. Bigtime.

Remember - the sanction for cheating must be the permanent end of the relationship, otherwise its all ok and will blow over in time so he can do it again but smarter so he doesen't get caught again..- Which means, dont believe any crap about him having learned his lesson. If you do, he certainly will learn his lesson very well with a practical class thrown in. ie. "Dont get caught next time, and if I do, she'l believe any sh*t story I come up with."
There are guys who dont cheat, - most of us actually. You'l find yours when the time is right.
Out on the tiles for you now girl, - Fake it till you make it.

Best of luck.

Sibylla

johnr1 wrote: »

OP, sorry to hear what happened to you. It must be made even worse by it being at Christmas, and the Christmas you thought he might propose.

Most of it has already been said, - you dodged a bullet. Bigtime.

Remember - the sanction for cheating must be the permanent end of the relationship, otherwise its all ok and will blow over in time so he can do it again but smarter so he doesen't get caught again..- Which means, dont believe any crap about him having learned his lesson. If you do, he certainly will learn his lesson very well with a practical class thrown in. ie. "Dont get caught next time, and if I do, she'l believe any sh*t story I come up with."
There are guys who dont cheat, - most of us actually. You'l find yours when the time is right.
Out on the tiles for you now girl, - Fake it till you make it.

Best of luck.

Really good advice.

I'm very sorry to hear what happened OP, Break ups are especially difficult at Christmas. It must be very painful for you now but thankfully you are not married and there are no kids involved. You obviously deserve so much better than this. Best of luck!

Carter12

Rocked chick,

So sorry this has happened to you.

Seems to me that maybe he wanted to get caught, he sent TWO txt messages to you by accident, seems odd to me. Sorry to say this but, dont be surprised that you will discover he has stared going out with this girl soon.

The best thing you can do is keep as busy as possible, surround yourself with people who care about you, have a good old winge with some good friends and then go out on the tear. He is not worth your tears.

Take care x

curlzy

Seraphina wrote: »

Sorry, off topic, but how on earth is that helpful and why are you calling the hypothetical other girl who may or may not exist a slapper? It really grates me they way women will so often play the blame game with each other and bitch and snipe when it's the boyfriends fault if it's anyones.

Hey Seraphina, I told the OP to get the "slapper's name" because IMO that's what someone who knowingly sleeps with another girl's boyfriend is, the boyfriend mentioned that she knew she was doing wrong so IMO she's nothing but a pathetic slapper. Incidentally I think the boyfriend is worse. I thought the OP should know who she is in case she knows her, so it wouldn't come out at another time and shock the life out of the OP.

Anyway.....

Hey OP,

I'm so so so sorry this has happened:(. Wow, that's just horrific. First of all, Big Well Done for finishing it, so many girls have made the mistake of not finishing it at the first instance of cheating. Second of all, you really are much better off without a pathetic excuse for a man your scummy fool of an ex is. How sad and pathetic to blame her, so he's a victim, harrassed into sleeping with her??? That's so pathetic. You will defo be better off without him.

I think the fact he hasn't contacted you shows you just how strong a person you are, I bet he knows he's completely blown it and that you aren't thick enough to give him another chance. Just remember he's not the person you thought he was. He's nothing but a pathetic cheater and you're better off away from that one.

I know things must look very very bleak right now but remember this too shall pass. Yeah it's gonna hurt and be sad for a while but you will start to feel better and be thankful (I know you are already) that you found out know what kind of scummer he is before you got even more serious. Try to not let you view of men be coloured by this. The vast majority of men are faithful and good, so try not to let this turn you off them.

Lean on friends and family and be very good to yourself for the next while. Then concentrate on doing what you want to do, work on making your life as fun and fulfilling as you can. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders so I've now doubt you'll be fine. I know it's pants that he's not giving you an opportunity to ignore him but in fairness the best revenge is a life well lived so concentrate on yourself and making yourself happy. The very best of luck OP.

LegacyUser

I can be cold as ice when i want to be and if he is guilty, he's messed with the wrong girl.

Not that i'd reply but I really want him to text so I can ignore him.

OP

I'm very sorry but the above two statements show something.
I'm not sure what, but its something you should think about when you've gotten over this.
Don't think about it too much for now but it might be something you should be aware of.

I think there's a clue in there somewhere about why it ended like it did. Hes still a spineless bastard though and be glad your rid of him.

Unfortunately hes so spineless you'll be left wondering why it ended.
But when you are over everything think about those two statements. I'm not trying to be cryptic I just dont know, but they really really stick in my mind as unhealthy thoughts even for someone who is as hurt as you right now.

Very sorry to hear that the relationship ended like that. Its horrible. And really wish you the best of luck at getting over it.


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Sanjuro

Hey OP. Really sorry to hear about your predicament. That really is a dreadful thing to happen. Especially around Christmas. The whole notion that he was hassled into scoring this girl is rubbish. It's a total cop-out and your ex's attempt to deflect blame away from himself and make himself the victim of the situation. Do not take that excuse for a second.

I know you've probably been told this a lot over the last few days, but that doesn't make it any less true- he's not worth the pain you've been caused. You deserve better. And it is better you find out he's a total prick now than a few year down the line and the relationship is more serious. Look after yourself now as a priority. Take whatever time you need to feel better, and consign your ex to history. Good luck!

Katgurl

Op please ignore any suggestions that your reactions are some sort of clue into why things ended how they did.

I don't see anything in your posts that suggest anything other than you are a)human and b)angry. And given the circumstances, really quite calm.

I don't have anything new to say that you haven't heard but repeat the mantra -this feeling will pass - and tell your friends and family what's been going on.

Take really really good care of yourself. That guy is scum. Drunken kisses etc can and do occasionally happen but it's way he dealt with it that speaks volumes. Don't consider this a reflection of his feelings toward you either, all it is is reflection of person he is - a coward, a liar and a cheat.

You will find a guy a million times better. I know how low you feel because I've been there but there comes a very happy day when you realise you couldn't give a damn - all the anger, hurt, even interest toward that guy is just gone.

Keep posting if it helps.

darsar

What an idiot. Not one, but TWO texts to the wrong person.

scarymoon1

darsar wrote: »

What an idiot. Not one, but TWO texts to the wrong person.

It seems unlikely to me that he sent a text twice by mistake. IMO he sent them on purpose to the op as this was how he wanted to end it. He's a total asshole op and your better off without him.

LadyMayBelle

Hugs to you OP...such a horrible thing to happen to you and I hope you are doing okay x

G-Money

Horrible situation OP, sorry to hear about it.

Regards hoping he will text so you can ignore him, I understand that desire, I think everyone does, but I suspect what would happen is that you'd ignore him for a while but then end up contacting him or responding to his texts or calls or something.

I read somewhere that the best revenge is a life well lived. Personally, I find the best revenge is to just move on and act like the person never existed and as if they meant nothing to you at any point. Of course inside I'd be faking it, but eventually the feelings subside. If you are forced into talking to him like if he approaches you in a bar or something, I'd just be polite and civil, but it would be nothing but insignificant small talk and I'd be making my excuses to leave straight away.

Good luck.

Eve_Dublin

I have to say I respect your strength OP. I know you´re probably crumbling inside but you have the right attitude to begin the "getting over him and moving on" process. Seriously, I really admire that. Respect to you girl! I´m really sorry your going through this but hang in there...it does get easier and you´ll come out with more self-respect than you started out with if you continue to cut him out of your life.

curlzy

hellotherenumber7 wrote: »

OP

I'm very sorry but the above two statements show something.
I'm not sure what, but its something you should think about when you've gotten over this.
Don't think about it too much for now but it might be something you should be aware of.

I think there's a clue in there somewhere about why it ended like it did. Hes still a spineless bastard though and be glad your rid of him.

Unfortunately hes so spineless you'll be left wondering why it ended.
But when you are over everything think about those two statements. I'm not trying to be cryptic I just dont know, but they really really stick in my mind as unhealthy thoughts even for someone who is as hurt as you right now.

Very sorry to hear that the relationship ended like that. Its horrible. And really wish you the best of luck at getting over it.


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OP,

Please ignore the absolute waffle above, looks like it's written by someone who read a psychology book and wants to come across as intelligent and insightful but it's utter crap. The only thing those two statements showed was that you're not a doormat, don't accept crap, are human and that even after a knock like you've just taken you're not going to lie down and die. So please don't analyze yourself based on that post. You did absolutely nothing wrong and he is 100% in the wrong here, not you. Hope you're doing ok. Big Hug.

fionav3

OP, felt I had to respond and tell you how sorry I am for what happened. From reading your posts, it sounds to me like you're a lovely, decent person who loved her boyfriend. And to be honest, he sounds like a horrible prick (please excuse my language). This time last year, I was exactly where you are now, my boyfriend had broken up with me suddenly (I never saw it coming) leaving me absolutely devastated. I went to psychics and everything to find out why, absolutely heartbroken. For months, I hoped he'd change his mind...then I heard some stuff from family and friends (stuff they'd kept quiet while I'd been so low) that made me realise he wasn't the person I thought he was....in fact, he was a bit of a spineless coward who only thought of himself and I am so much better off without him. I realise that you've only just had your heart broken and that anything I say won't help or make you feel better while its still so raw, but just to let you know that it does get easier and in time you'll realise that you deserve so much better. In the meantime, talk with friends and family and be kind to yourself. I hope it gets easier soon.