Do not want to go home for Christmas

LegacyUser

As the title suggests, I am dreading going home for Christmas. I hate Christmas at home as it consists of my sister and mother upsetting me as much as possible saying I'm useless/failure, I shouldn't have come home etc. Told them today I wouldn't be home till Christmas Eve, and am coming back to where I live on the 28th, as I just do not want to be at home, by myself crying and upset all the time. Who would want to go through that?

Then when I told them this today, I got a bad reception, but I would much prefer spending time seeing my friends over Christmas rather than my own family that just don't want me there in the first place.

Anyone any advice as to how I can get through about 4 days at home, or does anyone else have to go through this?

tinkerbell

Why would you want to go home to a house that upsets you?

LegacyUser

I will tell you what I did one christmas....

I stayed in a hostel....then visited the family in the early afternoon (before the drinking kicked in), and then left to go and visit some other people before going back to the hostel to watch a flick with some others. Nice and peaceful.

Look at the logic of it. People are giving out to you because you wont go home so they can abuse you. Do what your instincts tell you, draw a line for your self.
If you sort out a place to stay....at a relative, friend or hostel/Band B, you will be iin a much better position......you wont be a prisoner! :-)

happy christmas!

Bear Hug

OS119

so don't go.

ring up and say 'i've taken your comments on board about being a sad, pathetic piece of crap, and i've built a new life that will meet your requirements for me, sadly the fact of having that new life full of friends and activities means that i won't have time to spend christmas with you'.

you could compromise and spend 3hrs with them on christmas day (making sure you rush off because you're meeting people), but i wouldn't bother.

in the 18 years of my adult life i've spent christmas day alone (i had a pizza day, it was superb), several at work, a few with family, two with casual GF's, a couple with friends, and i have to say that the only ones i can actually remember as being any good were the unconventional ones.

LegacyUser

tinkerbell wrote: »

Why would you want to go home to a house that upsets you?

I kind of have to go home, as its Christmas and all that, and family members are at home for Christmas as well. See if I go home, I will have a horrible few days, and if I said I was not going home at all, they probably will never speak to me again, and I would get accused of ruining Christmas for everyone. It's all very manipulative you see, so I am kind of stuck, and can't win either way

Zaph

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